I have always had a hard time dealing with the idea of jealousy and possessiveness. I would be total cool and funny and great until things get serious and positive. I would become obsessive over her. She talking to other guys or being hit on by someone else can flip me out and push me over the edge.

Or if she doesn't act or do as I want her to. Jealousy is not as much of an issue as possessiveness. So any idea how to deal with it?

I have this theory that I should be responsible for my actions solely and I should not hold anything over her. Her loyalty to me should be her responsibility and not mine and therefore I shouldn't limit her from anything, i.e: contact with other men or engaging in activities that I don't want her to. How do you folks deal with something like this?

thanks