I'm currently in my very first relationship initially acquired through the benefits of self-improvement and Alpha-mindset learned by reading alot of material over at Seduction.

Recent events/shit-tests/... made me realise however that I have become much too comfortable and lazy to myself, resulting in a very Beta position in this relationship. (Everything on her terms, sex, pet-like situation,...) I think it might be very close to a breakup due to the loss of attraction on her side, which got me to rebrowse and reread seduction material and finally discovering The Red Pill.

So I'm reading and consuming alot of the great material I can find here. This is so amazingly eye-opening! Although the relationship might be ending soon, I think I'm in a sweet spot to turn things around, it's either now, or move on.

So, as a beginner, I'm looking for some small pointers as to how to act in the following situation. I'll try to be as brief as possibly and clarify where needed:

  • We are currently both studying for finals, very important for both of us. Failing may have serious consequences on academic career. Friday will be our last exam.
  • We have booked a vacation together, leaving in about 7 days.
  • In a beta state of mind I agreed to the following some time ago: This friday, after the final exam, we'll go shopping in a remote city (2 hour train ride) followed by her friend's birthday-party.

I don't mind the shopping, but I do want to cancel the birthday-party and go to a bro's party instead.

So my question is, how do I approach this situation in a TRP-manner?

  • Do I just text her right here and now to cancel on the party? This worries me as I may be overstepping being an asshole as she needs to focus and not worry about this in order to pass the exam.

  • Cancel after the exam? Quite certain she'll be very pissed off during the entire train ride or shopping if I do so, which is a shit-test in itself, right? Maybe I'm not ready to handle this shit-test yet as a beginner and I couldn't just walk out of the situation since we'd be in a remote place or a train?

  • Cancel both things?

  • ... ?

In the end I guess I'm looking for pointers to apply the basics on a really short-term on commitments that I already made and turn things around for the better.

Thanks!

..Rereading this makes me believe that I've fallen quite low as compared to where I was months ago as an alpha male in-progress during my single days, so I'd really love your point of view on this matter.