Introduction

I have a question for any Red Pill dads out there. I am a married father of two (F9 & M7). I have been married for ten years now, Red Pill aware for four. Unsurprisingly, my Red Pill transformation greatly improved my marriage from 1/10 to a damn near 9/10 on the quality scale. There is always room for improvement.

My Question

My question regards some difficulties I am having leading my 9 year old daughter. Specifically, I am having a hard time leading her in the direction of our family mission/vision. Despite various tactics I am having no success with her and am turning to you all for some insight. It has gotten to the point that I am considering getting her a therapist.

Issues

The issue at hand is that she is a very combative little girl. I am not talking about a little moxie here. I am talking about being so combative, holding grudges long term, being so short tempered that she has socially ostracized herself. Not only that, but my first mate is really struggling to find any kindness towards her. My daughter is very easily distracted which leads to us both having to remind her to do the simplest tasks multiple times. This is very exhausting, as you can well imagine. Combined with the combativeness, her inability to concentrate and her horrific sloppiness she has taken to lying.

Concerns

My number one concern is her social isolation. She has never been able to maintain any sort of friendship. She makes friends easily; many little girls her age live within walking distance of our home. However, before long there is some sort of conflict and my daughter holds grudges for months, which seems like an unnaturally long time. I worry about the impact of the social isolation on her self esteem. I cannot remember the last time she was invited over to someone’s house for a play-date, or a birthday party.

My Actions so Far

So far, I have met with her teachers to inquire as to her progress in school, both academically and socially. My daughter’s teacher re-assured me that she is performing well, in fact, nearly at the top of her class. Socially, she is not doing well and her teacher expressed some concern. I have attempted talking with her about her conflicts with her peers, advising her to take the “honey as opposed to vinegar” approach to making friends. I have made deals with her to dress well and do her hair in order to avoid bullying about her appearance, which can be quite sloppy. I have taken up hobbies with her that allow us to spend a great deal of time together, play board games with her, read books she is interested in so as to be able to discuss them with her. I have signed her up for sports and events which I thought would improve her confidence and self esteem: jiu-jitsu and triathlon.

Can You Help Me

Can anyone see what I am missing? Can anyone give me some advice on how to proceed? My efforts are obviously not bearing any fruit. I fear that my leadership is not enough in this case. I hope to get some advice from some Red Pill aware dads before I approach a therapist on my daughter’s behalf. I have some obvious fears about therapists: medication, antithetical values etc.