This happened a couple months ago at a club in Germany. I began flirting with the bartender working in the smoking section. Next to me was a really hot blonde, great body and just sort of sitting there next to her friend that was being double teamed by a couple of betas. I leave the bar and come back later to order another drink when my roommate tells me that I should talk to the blonde girl.

I look over and see her looking back at me so I decide to approach her. She mentions that she noticed me flirting with the bartender and I said, "Oh, were you jealous?" A few laughs later she asks what I do for a living. I tell her I'm an American soldier and she proceeds to tell me she's dated one before and tells me our daily schedule and what we do. Sort of in the tone of 'been there, done that; nothing special.' I didn't really like that but I changed the topic to what she did.

She explains that she's currently studying for her graduate degree and is from Greece.

At this point, she rolls up a cigarette for me and says, "Do you know X hotel?"

I replied, "No, why?"

"Oh, well that's usually where I go to fuck."

I was admittedly in disbelief and I don't even remember what I said because I was intoxicated. Minutes later I am behind her with my arms wrapped around her and getting pretty physical.

She asks me, "How old are you? You look 16." And my dumbass told her the truth that I was 20.

"How old are you?" I mistakenly asked.

"Oh, wow that's a little unfortunate. I wish you were 26 years old."

Then she asks what I want, and what I'm looking for. I forget my response but eventually she says, "jackksouth, I'm not going to fuck you. You're too young. Sorry."

Immediately without hesitation I said, "That's fine, I don't want to fuck you anyways." (Why the FUCK did I say that?)

At this point I'm still awkwardly sitting behind her with my arms around her so I take a moment to order a single drink. She then proceeds to approach some random German guy and start talking to him in front of me. I walk off and go hit on other women.

An hour passes and I'm back in the smoking section to see her still talking to the guy. He walks off for a bit for a piss probably and for some stupid ass reason, I approached her again asking for a cigarette. She doesn't give me eye contact and points at her roll up cigarettes on the table (I don't know how to roll tobacco and she knows it).

I then say, "Hey, we can still -" cuts me off and puts her hand in my face without even looking at me. German guy comes back, tries to budge in and I take my sweet ass time, seriously contemplating beating his ass as he is yelling in German for me to get out of the way. In that moment I realize I would have been getting into a fight for some slut I didn't even know. It would have been pathetic so I fuck off and purposely hit on two women not 10 feet away from her, hoping it would make her jealous.

I got their numbers and noticed she was still talking to that guy. I was furious. I was humiliated. I was shut down. And this woman whom I was getting along with so well was probably going to take that piece of shit guy back to the hotel she mentioned and fuck his brains out. And it wasn't going to be me.

I held onto that for a while. It hurt. I shouldn't have given a fuck but it hurt my ego. It sent me to a state of beta I haven't seen since high school and I detested her for it.

In retrospect, I should have handled that COMPLETELY differently from how I did. I've since moved on and am dating a few women now but it'll always be a learning experience.

How should I have handled that? During and after?