A little over a year ago I posted a thread on /r/relationships asking for advice on how to go about getting more BJ's from the Mrs.

Here's the thread:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2bp56s/me_24m_with_my_fiancee_24f_i_would_like_more_oral/

Even at the time I knew the advice I received was crap but until now I didn't realise just how horrible it was.

The advice in the thread ranged from:

"communicate" - Yes, because the absolute first thing I ever do when I hit a wall in my life is run to Reddit asking for help... I totally hadn't tried that a dozen times already.

To give her more orgasms - Because apparently going down on her on average once a week wasn't good enough on top of all the other times we had sex and apparently I need to give her even more orgasms just to receive a BJ every quarter.

Shower more - despite saying numerous times that I showered plenty and only asked her after showers since I knew she didn't like the taste of dirty sweaty penis.

So, I'm sure you can all guess how things ended up for me...

Even worse.

A little over a year later and the last BJ I got was probably 6 months ago now, I can't even remember. Our sex life has dwindled from 2-3 times a week when I posted that thread to around once a week.

I decided enough was enough and somehow ended up lurking here around 2 weeks ago.

I went back and re-read the thread and all the replies for an online blog I'm making about my journey after discovering this community and reading a good amount of the material. It's cathartic for me and I figured it might help some other guys out there that need to choke down that pill.

One brave soul in a sea of feminists and betas actually did give me practical advice, unfortunately I wasn't ready to swallow the pill at the time. I'm not sure if I missed his reply in all the noise or if I read it and forgot about it, but regardless I would buy this dude a case of beer if I ever ran into him.

She probably loves giving them. Just not to you though it seems. Need to find whatever attracted her to you and bring it back. Be manly or something, Idk. If I'm giving my girl oral, I sure as heck want head as well

And again he provided more TRP advice here:

Mate, this trixie chick giving you advice and your gf are selfish. You've been giving your girl oral for ages and all they can both tell you is give HER MORE orgasms? Please tell me you're not surely thinking you haven't been pleasing your girl. Have this trixie chick and your gf considered you getting a bj instead of thinking about themselves? I'm sure you of all people know if your gf has been getting off of PIV sex, not miss trixie here.

If you keep pestering her verbally about it, she'll get turned off. Next time you're having foreplay, direct her down there. If she refuses to give you oral for no proper reason at all, just end the session there and go out to hang with mates. Don't TALK about it, just leave and get a little distant. Don't answer texts quickly or even at all for a bit. Answer once in a long while. Just trust me and try it. This sub is filled with a lot of bad advice and blind people who just upvote. Just give what I told you a try. Women like manly men. They might say otherwise but judge people by their actions, not words since actions speak louder than words.

I want to say thank you to all the posts like this I read all around the internet that slowly chip away at the armour and lead people like me to a place like this.

I've only just started my journey but I never would have taken the first step if it weren't for posts like these scattered around the internet hinting at a better way.

This is also a good lesson which I'm sure 99.9% of you know, but it's worth repeating:

NEVER take relationship advice from /r/relationships, especially from women.

If I had posted that same thread here a year ago I bet my life would be completely different.

Oh well, it's never too late to change and today is leg day.

Bring it on.

Cheers.