A nice guy who wants to be in charge...will my wife fall in line?

[deleted] · 2016-01-06T14:04:41+00:00

Not your concern.

you build a better man, then decide if she fits into that. If she's quality, she will adapt to become a better quality woman, if not, then she has to go.

you're changing you, changing her isn't on the menu

[deleted] · 2016-01-06T14:01:40+00:00

will she submit ling term?

If you can make it happen.

then demanded change and got it about 6 years ago. I wanted to increase frequency and quality early last year.

How does a weaksauce fuck demand anything? You think you just deserve shit because you're the 'man' of the relationship? And why wait 5 years to improve sex?

Better, more frequent sex and we were on our way to exploring swinging.

Fucking idiot

Earlier this year she seemed to be responding, but after a few months it just got exhausting trying to manage her. I felt I had gotten respect back, because of the sex, she seemed happier, and a lot less fighting. I guess I just got Lazy.

Masculine living is hard, so you should quit right? Is that what you do when anything gets difficult?

my 2 biggest downfalls are my weight (60 lbs.) and my passiveness.

Your cognitive dissonance is comparable to that of a woman's, maybe more so. You are a fat slug who quits because you think you deserve cruise control once you see a sliver of progress.

Read more and recognize that women show their submission to men they find worthy of it.

cholomite · 2016-01-06T14:16:58+00:00

It will never work as long as you keep trying to scrape by with the bare minimum effort. You're doing the equivalent of slacking off at work, barely meeting deadlines and finishing projects and getting mad when you don't get a promotion. Start going above and beyond. How many times have you been to the gym this year? How many weeks into SL or SS are you? Have you started dressing nicer and taking better care of your appearance?

You said "she" way to much in this post then at the very end you're like "oh BTW I'm fat and a pussy". Refocus on yourself. Your wife is AWALT, so of course she can be managed. She'll just never allow herself to be managed by a fat pussy like you. Stop worrying about managing your wife and instead focus on managing your own shit. Get to the gym, take care of yourself and stop taking people's shit.

Redneck001 · 2016-01-06T14:50:12+00:00

So you're a fat mangina. Will your wife come around?

One thing I'm sure of. She won't for an overweight puss.

Fix yourself. Stop worrying about her problems (narcissist, OCD, alpha female). That's just your hamster making excuses for your failure.

Instead of being a fat puss, become a fit man. And learn to act like a man. Be confident, assertive. You want something? Go take it. Women (including narcissistic, obsessive, compulsive, alpha, disrespectful women) are attracted to confident, assertive men.

You have a long road ahead of you. Get started today.

P.S. Your wife is not likely an "alpha female." She's just playing the man's role in your relationship, because there's a masculine vacuum. Embrace your natural role, your birthright. And enjoy your life.

Good luck.

UEMcGill · 2016-01-06T14:57:09+00:00

You need to internalize what's wrong with you first. I read this whole narrative and the overlying theme is what's wrong with her. Everyone else is at fault. Kids won't listen. She won't help. There's some minor stabs at ownership, but not enough.

Is she a broken women, check. You my friend are the broken one. Fix your shit, as her's has nothing to do with yours. The truth about broken relationships, there's always two people that are broke.

Once you're an integrated male, you'll have the opportunity to have a good wife. Whether it's her or not, is immaterial. It starts with you.

Title	A nice guy who wants to be in charge...will my wife fall in line?
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Date	January 6, 2016 1:54 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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