I enjoy lifting weights but, like many women, my wife is apprehensive. She has goals to lose weight but needs encouragement. So, I told her she can come work out with me but she only wants to go in the morning when less people. I am amenable to that since it serves two purposes 1) I get a workout and 2) she comes. I'm okay with a "leading by example" approach and also playing in her comfort zone as long as I get what I want: a banging hot wife.

After a solid one hour workout with weights I tell her I'm proud of her and as her reward she will get to have sex with me. I say it in a fun way but she knows there is meaning behind it. She retorts, "sex? Ha! I don't think so, I'm on my period."

Now, I don't mind playing ball on the field during shark week but, as a health care practitioner, I understand that the first couple days can be discomforting when you get stuffed balls deep with man flesh.

She continues, "you can have sex with yourself." I laugh out loud and respond, "don't worry honey, I don't need your permission to jerk off." She replies as if not hearing, "... In the bathroom." I laugh again knowing that the next time she gets into bed I'm going to jerk off next to her and invite her to join because I know she will.

tl; don't let your woman tell you how you can jerk off. You make that decision and if she doesn't feel "comfortable" she can leave. I have overt expectations and if you don't fulfill them then I'll find other ways.