/u/YouDislikeMyOpinion made a great comment in TRP that I wanted to share with you.

Time and time again I find myself backtracking 10 seconds when I'm with a girl, thinking "The way she did so and so just now really got my blood pumping". Little things. Most times I didn't even know that I liked what she was about to do. But after she did it, I was fully onboard.

If you stopped time before the girl did what she did and asked me "what could she do that would turn you on", I would rattle off a couple of general things that I like. There is no way that I would be able to pinpoint even a minor amount of things that she could do that would attract me.

There is also no way that I could teach a girl how to be like that.

This is why we say men should get dating advice from men and women should get it from women. Men may be more likely to genuinely try to be honest with women about what they like, but they still can't really help with the how.