Before I start writing my problem, I want to say a couple of things. English is not my native language, just to let you know. I am a very good looking guy with lots of options. No ego, just the real information. I had a lot of woman in my life. But the girl in this story is really really insane. I've never met a girl with her looks. It's 10 out of 10. (Yes oneitis is real. But just read the story, I need help)

It all started exactly one year ago. I started a conversation with the girl in my gym that I craved for like 3 years prior to that. In the 2 years before I started this conversation with her, I had a lot of different woman. But every time I saw her, I thought, Jesus.. what If I could be with that girl. In my opinion, I've never seen a girl that I find so attractive as her, in my whole life.

I knew she was in a long term relationship (6 years at that time). But I thought, f*ck it. Let's see what happens.

To make a verrrry long story, a little bit shorter. We ended up seeing eachother a lot in the gym. Training together. Within the first month, we flirted alot. We started kissing in the gym (secretly), started touching eachother. And after 3 weeks, we have seen eachother outside the gym a couple of times. With a lot of kissing and touching. After a month, we had sex for the first time.

The first 5 or 7 months, we had sex like 3 or 4 times a week.

Remember, she was still in the LTR with this other guy. In the first 5 months, she promised me she would leave him for me. More than once.

After this I will leave him. After that I will leave him. It never happend.

(I am really going to keep things short.. I hope you guys will understand. A lot of things can happen in a year)

After 5 months she told me she had bought a house with this guy. Not at that moment, but they already bought it a year prior to when I met her.

The day that the house is finished building, is almost here. They will get the key within a few days to weeks.

I don't know what to do, and I am so confussed. Let me list some 'facts'. And maybe I can answer more questions in the comment section. If you decide to react and want to help me. Please understand I need real help. And not some bullshit, one word, reactions.

  • She didn't have sex with this guy for over 7 months. She showed me evidence. She texted him, when I was with her: When did we have sex for the last time. He replied: Then and Then, but you have your reasons, right? He is a real beta and is accepting this no sex relationship. It's that well known no sex relationship.

  • I can say, I know 99% sure she that I am the only one she has sex with. A man can never say 100%. But believe me. I know. (No need to talk about this in comment section)

  • Like I said, we had a lot of sex in the first 5 to 7 months. And she made a lot of effort seeing me, and having sex with me. It's not easy for her to just dissapear from her boyfriend and her parents to meet up with me. But the first 6 to 7 months, we had sex like 3 to 4 times a week.

  • The last 5 months. The seeing eachother, and the sex became less and less. (She is finishing her PhD and my work schedule changed, so we cant see eachother in the evenings anymore)

  • The last 3 months, we have sex like once a week. Sometimes 2 days in a row. Sometimes once in 9 days.

  • I often say no to sex. But if she is with me. She ALWAYS initiates sex. The sex (and being together) is ALWAYS great! She is happy. Is very into me. You know what I mean.

  • She still lives with her parents (until the house is ready). And her boyfriend kinda lives there too. He works long days. But sleeps next to her every night. And spends every weekend with her.

  • We had alot of drama and fights (often via text) the last 3 months or so (I know!!! Not good. Im more beta then i want to be).

  • She disrespected me alot the last 3 months or so (often via text). And today she did this again. And that's why I am writing this.

  • I went no contact / soft next, a lot of times. She ALWAYS comes back within a couple of hours to max 30/35 hours.

I realize this is a very long story. So thank you for reading it this far. And thanks already if you decide to react and want to help me.

I think it's a smarter idea to just wait for your comments, so I can react and maybe explain some things a little bit more. Because I can literally write a book about this.

I know it's not perfect English. But I did my best.

Last: I REALLY want to be with this girl (I know, beta..) despite the fact she is stringing me along, playing with me and disrespecting me..

Last fact: She is really into me. I understand if you read this story, it maybe doesnt seem like it. But trust me, she really wants me. I just don't want to write everything. It's way to long already.

Thanks guys!! I wil react to comments with more information.

I forgot to write down what I want. I know she is going to live with him in this new house. I understand her attraction towards me went from a 10, to maybe a 8. I want to spend my life with her. But first things first. I want things to go back to what it was the first 6 months. I want her to respect me and my time. I want more sex. I want her attraction level to go back to a 10 again. (She still says it never went down. And some things show it didn't went down. But actions speak louder than words)