So I get the whole part of escalation and it gets me action here and there but my main issue is socializing. I know the basics, but I’m missing one major thing.

I went to a club and started chatting up a girl and got hit with the “is this an interview” after asking her what language she programs in. On top of that, I just got back from another date with a girl and it was pretty boring. We played pool and just hung out in the car and talked after.

How do I interact with them without coming off weird/anti-social? She said before leaving “i’ll see you around, be less anti social.” Might have been because I told her specifically that’s how I am or because she felt it, whatever the case.

I just generally, in the times it worked, feel a vibe with a girl and have a bit of kino initiated. Then play 21 question game or something and at some point start kissing. But if I don’t have that going on I have no idea what to do.

How do I talk to women, what do I talk about, not be boring, hold a long engaging/interesting convo and spark sexual tension?