My childhood friend is about to head into disaster and is too blind to see it coming

FereallyRed · 2019-04-05T09:54:26+00:00

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Keep your mouth shut.

You don't know their dynamic. Maybe he allows her to cuckold him, maybe he beats off furiously in the corner while wife gets railed. Maybe he knows on some level but decides to keep it in his subconscious. Maybe he's happily oblivious. Maybe it'd destroy him and he takes a shotgun to everybody involved. Maybe he's an alien who is just here on the planet to observe our behavior.

He became beta. That's on him. You can't unplug people who insist there's no plug.

I get you want to "help", but sticking your nose into other's business, good friend or not, is a dangerous game. Once you involve yourself, you're part of the outcome, too. Maybe he takes his wife's side and cuts you out of his life because you're now the bad guy spreading lies. Maybe he writes your name on one of those 12ga shells.

This is a controversial opinion and you'll get lots of comments about "bros before hos" and pseudo alpha bullshit.

Looking out for number one is job one.

Shut your whore mouth. He'll find out soon enough.

SeasonedRP · 2019-04-05T15:02:23+00:00

If you have a feeling it will backfire on you, it's probably justified. You know this guy and have observed him and his wife and your subconscious has probably picked up on things that tell you it isn't a good idea to say anything. I'd go with your gut here.

maljo24 · 2019-04-05T10:44:09+00:00

Mind your own business. Outing your friend's wife will help no one.

RunawayGrain · 2019-04-05T13:57:36+00:00

Steer clear of the wife or outing her, as he probably won't listen. Worst case he goes right to her with it and she makes you the villain.

Best option is to still be his friend when she fucks him over.

nexther · 2019-04-05T17:11:04+00:00

You can’t unplug him. He can only unplug himself.

huggyblossom · 2019-04-05T09:54:09+00:00

You can speak to him, but be prepared for a lot of bullshit and if he is declining just stop, since your friendship is more important than the bitch. He will realise it soon or later or he will try to decline it to himself.

In a LTR/Marriage you have to make the sex/romance like a newly weds couple routine... I am tired of explaining that shit, you made commitment to a woman and she will stay in shape/ride your dick no matter the fucking age if you act masculine and make her fantasy world reality... so many guys forget that and after that we have that shitload of complaints about LTR failed or blah,blah.

Your friend neglected his wife and I can bet my 5 cents that he was late in work, his business was more important than his love live. Why so many idiots fail to understand money is just an asset to women. She will happily share a 60 square feet condo with 10 kids if you are THE MAN! And she won't deny you sex if you are on top of your game.

We as man take love for given, but if you open 15-20 threads by uncle Vasilyi, Gaylubeoil and w/e other dedicated author here you will ssee that abundance doesn't mean avoidance, and dread doesn't mean to vanish. You have to be there, to act like she is still the 20yold you fell in love with and realised that you will stop spinning plates for. When you go out of that way you will see her banging yoga teacher, bakers and etc. dicks she can get. It's your turn, but there is no extra credit option (there is, but it's like paid cosmetic content, nothing changes) and if you fail your turn the plate breaks, the LTR breaks, the marrage breaks.

[deleted] · 2019-04-05T13:48:57+00:00

The most I would do is pass him along a copy of MMSL and tell him to hide it from his wife. There's not much you can do here.

[deleted] · 2019-04-05T12:07:46+00:00

He’s your brother. Protecting him is natural. I would do the same.

Do what you must to convince him, but recognize it may cost you your friendship. Is that a price you’re willing to pay?

elf_knife_love · 2019-04-05T09:48:35+00:00

Try to get proof of the cheating, like, video proof, text messages... etc

That's one way to both convince him AND help him not loss his stuff in the divorce. You will probably gain a loyal friend for life in the long run.

RedHoodhandles · 2019-04-05T18:24:29+00:00

What's your proof that she cheated? I'd try to show him the truth.

Title	My childhood friend is about to head into disaster and is too blind to see it coming
Author	ironchef-uk
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	April 5, 2019 9:23 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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