You can scroll down to where it says "ENTER PUA" if you want to skip the long backstory.

Tl;dr: I'm here to dispel a few myths, tell you to stop over analyzing with stuff like "day game" and "neg" and "validation" and all kinds of techniques or methods with fancy names (Names like Chad and Virgin don't count). Just be a normal friggin' human being. Every girl is different and it's up to both you and her to steer the ship.

Alright so when I was a kid I was kind of normal and maybe even a bit of a ][D ][ ][\/][ ][D (pimp, look at it carefully) but as you'll see later in life I hate to admit it but I became a bit of a dweeb in some senses.

So here's a little bit of history of mine with girls growing up.
I was a really short kid (this is important). In the last year of primary school (I'm Australian) I had a crush on this girl we'll call "Felicia", I was already friends with her friend we'll call "Matilda". Matilda was a tall, fun, smart and polite girl who everyone respected, she introduced me to hugging girls, she would just come up to me because we were friends and give me hugs, somehow this introduced me to getting hugs from her small circle of female friends which Felicia was part of.
Felicia was always talking about how much she liked certain Brads which made me feel inferior and that I'd never get her approval but on the other hand I was the one who would be going to her house every day after school and getting cuddles from her (she introduced the definition to me that a hug was a brief "hello" or "goodbye" and a cuddle was when you are holding each other for an extended period of time), weird that I was insecure about that yeah?

In the first year of high school (which comes after primary in Australia) I walked up to this small girl reading a book (we'll call her Tiana). I said hi and noticed she was reading about horoscopes, she asked what my sign was and when I told her she just goes "we're not compatible, go away". I wasn't sad about being rejected I just thought it was weird (this is even more important that me being short).
I became a victim of childhood clinical depression, eventually half way through the year all the girls in my homeroom (and I mean all of them, except the Greek girls) saw that I was withdrawn and not smiling, they thought I was cute because I was so small and they chose to befriend me, one of them we'll call Jemima (tall, acne, moody, panic attacks) had a thing for me but that was kinda gay.

  • POINT - A real chad can get the girls even if he isn't confident and tall.

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After I became friends with these girls the small girl Tiana opened up to me, I went on my first date with her to the shopping center where we just fooled around, no kissing or holding hands but just being kids. After that date she was telling all the girls that I was her boyfriend and all the guys at school were making fun of me because they thought she was a Becky, I told her we were just friends, I don't know how she felt about that - Moving on!

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This being short thing was really paying off, Matilda was like "Hey, I play tennis with this girl (pseudonym: Monique) who thinks short guys are cute, come to the club after school!" so I did, shared some hugglie wugglies and then we were boyfriend/girlfriend which meant I could kiss her on the cheek and hold her hand, In hindsight this was strange because most of my romantic feelings were for Felicia even though we never kissed or held hands and having another girlfriend seemed completely unrelated. Before I knew it I had four girlfriends at once, Monique, Felicia, "Sarah" and I can't remember the fourth one (Probably Jemima). Monique went to a different school so no-one knew her even though she was a total Stacey, I kept my feelings for Felicia under the radar but it caught wind when I kissed Sarah that I was uncool because she was considered another Becky. Sarah ended up finding out about how much of a playa I was, she said something like "girls don't like it when you have more than one girlfriend" and we broke up. I stopped seeing Monique for whatever reason (I'm sorry for all the blank moments, this was 16 years ago), my feelings for Felicia remained unrequited as I was too nervous to pursue or initiate any kind of intimacy beyond what we already had (which had diminished since primary school) and Jemima was just rotten.

In year 8 I was mad into skateboarding, I was at the skate park every day after school, my hair was getting long, my depression was lifting, I was becoming way less shy and conservative and started doing fun stupid stuff with my childhood friend "Jimmy" that young boys do like riding shopping trolleys, showing your ass to traffic and putting dogshit on a public barbecue (In Australia we have public barbecues in our parks, it's friggin' awesome and so convenient for family days at the park). All the Staceys were starting to dig me but they were all conceited bimbos to me so I snobbed them and retained my status as an independent Chad skater kid instead of a conformist "popular kid" Brad (Which Jimmy was). Felicia became just a normal friend and it's like my childhood romantic feelings for her were never there to begin with.

Now here's where things got MEGA saucy. Felicia, her friend "Jackie" (whose older brother was a mad local skater/stoner) and this other cute girl "Michelle" invited me and my two Asian skate mates "Jayse" and "Mark" to come over to Jackie's house because her parents were gone so we could try get drunk, we were 14 so we struggled to find someone to give us booze so eventually we just stayed up all night and ended up sleeping on her trampoline. Eventually out of nowhere Jeise just says "Wow, Jackie's tits are really soft, come over here and feel them!" so we did, and it was MEGA saucy having the first time ever to touch tits. This then progressed to me getting to grab Felicia's and Michelle's, cuddled with Felicia for the rest of the night, none of that romantic feeling, just mega horny, she wouldn't let me get in her pants though.

  • POINT - Asian dudes can get white chicks, even in high school.

Something got ULTRA spicy (stronger than MEGA sauce). We had a school swimming day and I was so horny because of all the chicks in bikinis, I decided to do something that some may considere creepy.

  • POINT - What some may consider creepy may actually be helpful in the right context.

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I thought it would be awesome if I swam under and grabbed Felicia's ass and then swam way far away so she wouldn't see me come up out of the water and know it was me. She eventually figured out it was me and she was mega into it, this is where I got to finger my first girl, in the pool with everyone none-the-wiser. THAT'S A SPICY-A MEATBALL

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All of this frivolous behaviour ended, I didn't notice, it was just part of life (or "the game" if you will, I'll get into that later).
Eventually I got a crush on this girl I'd never spoken too, I just thought her pale skin, black hair and blue eyes were beautiful, we'll call her "Belinda". I only got to eventually talk to her the next year.

Enter year 9 - I had a reaaal dark tan from all of that time at the skate park, I saw Belinda sitting down on a bench, here's another thing some may find creepy - I spontaneously hugged her from behind and asked what her name was, her friend too a photo of it which still exists to this day. Year 9 camp came and I talk to her, she liked my ponytail. I had to stop skating due to a long-term knee injury so instead of hanging out with the Chads I was hanging out with the virgin geeks and getting into heavy metal like Iron Maiden and Megadeth. Belinda later told me she was also a fan of Legend of Zelda - Ocarina of Time was my favourite game. I told her I had feelings for her and then we were teenage sweeties. I would basically hold her hand during recess and kiss her on the cheek at the end of the day, kissing on the lips for me was too daring and should be reserved for a special moment (coming from a dude who fingered a chick in a pool a year ago, I know right?), eventually when I went to give her goodbye kiss she turned her head so my lips met hers instead of her cheek, I didn't know she did this and I thought that I had accidentally kissed her on the lips so I apologised like a hundred times that I didn't mean to rush things like that.

  • POINT - Girls are just as eager as guys, just don't be a dumb faggot and you're fine.

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We broke up and she went for my mate "Paul", he was even shorter than me, wore glasses and was often called Harry Potter for his looks.

  • POINT - You don't need to get contact lenses and start being a fag at the gym trying to grow some muscles to get chicks.

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This part was funny as - I didn't get jealous because I just considered Belinda as a good friend but the drama surrounding this was really entertaining.
Belinda went to Paul's house with another geeky friend "Geekmaster" (he was the coolest of the geeks, knew how to hack and all other kinds of cool computer stuff), they were playing video games and Belinda put a pillow over Paul's lap and gave me a schneaky handy. This act was obvious to Geekmaster so word ended up getting out among our virgin circle.

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Enter year 10 - My chestnut brown hair had grown to its peak length and because the geeks were no longer in my homeroom I hung out with Jimmy more. At the end of the year I was becoming really depressed, was skipping school and basically becoming that guy that a lot of guys into PUA relate to, the depressed recluse who has no chicks in his life. Because my lack of attendance I had to repeat the year level, same thing happened - Depressed, reclusive, skipping school, ended up leaving. Because Jimmy was a bit of a Brad he would always poke fun at me for being a virgin.

I started playing guitar because of my interest in metal, a neighbourhood girl "Elise" who was a piano prodigy and also into rock and metal invited me over to talk about music there was nothing sexual or romantic about this, we just wanted to talk about music. She asked if she knew some of the bands on her ipod, she mentioned Kalmah and I was like HOW DO YOU KNOW ABOUT KALMAH? She told me her friend "Sandra" showed them to her and she was really into black metal too. Sandra had the reputation of being one of the ugliest, most undesirable girls in school.

Elise was mega popular so she had a huge house party for her Birthday, I didn't drink or do drugs back then and I bumped into a drunk Sandra, I told her I thought it was cool that she was into black metal and we became friends.
She messaged me at midnight and invited me to meet her at the train station, we ended up going back to my room and having my first tongue kiss. We didn't screw because I had no protection but two weeks later we both lost our virginity to each other and just became rampant sex fiends.
We didn't notice it at first but our friendship had vanished and just turned into sex, we were just having sex all the frigging time and our emotions became dull. I still feel that numbness.

  • Point - Heaps of sex doesn't necessarily make you happy, you could be using it to compensate for a real relationship, as an escape, it could even be an addiction

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I had sex with one more girl and had interest in one other (we kissed but never had sex) and then my reclusiveness got worse.
I went to the local pub where all the people my age went and my mate who I did Taekwondo with "Adam" (who was also a geek virgin but had become a total Chad at this point) told me "dude read this book called The Game, it'll teach you how to pick up chicks"

ENTER PUA

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I had nothing going on, no job, no chicks, the only socialising I did was Thursday nights at the pub where all the uni students went and I was confronted with this "game" book thing. I read it and joined my city's online lair.
I did the gay noob stuff - I peacocked, I used canned openers, I negged, I used stupid terms like "number close" and "kiss close" and wrote field reports of every time I "sarged""

When I look back to who I was in the PUA scene I hate looking at that guy, I see him as a creepy guy who thinks that the game of getting along with chicks is all about sex and quantity.
You're told "it's a numbers game" - you get as many girls and phone numbers as you can so you increase your chances.

You've heard it a jillion times "it's about improving your lifestyle, not using tricks and techniques", my past experiences growing up validate this - But I'm here to expand on that and show that your lifestyle (even if you're a fat, odorous neckbeard) does not require that much change. You don't need to change how you dress, you don't need to start working your ass off at the gym just to "feel good" and impress people (you're impressing guys more than you're impressing girls with those muscles, trust me).

What you need instead of tricks, techniques, methods or a lifestyle change is just a few things such as:

RESPECT, HONESTY AND INTEGRITY

This talk about "nice guys finish last" is the biggest, fattest lie that all incels believe.
Being nice is the best thing you can do, just don't be a suck-up faggot
Let's go over the points I made above about success with women:

  • POINT - A real chad can get the girls even if he isn't confident and tall.

I'm still a pretty short guy, I have long hair, I don't do my laundry often so I sleep in my clothes and wear them for days on end, I don't shower often, I don't shave often. Why do girls still like me? Because I'm HONEST with myself, I tell myself "Look dude, you don't take care of yourself 100%". I'm HONEST to the women in my life, I let my mum know everything in my life, I tell girls from the get-go what I think about them in a RESPECTFUL manner. I RESPECT myself, I tell myself: "I still like you, you might just be going through some things right now so why should I judge you so harshly about how much you're taking care of yourself? I have INTEGRITY, I know very well that I probably smell and look dishevelled so I act on that, I accept who I am in that moment and if I want to improve on it I do. If I don't want to improve on it that's okay too, so long as I accept the consequences.

  • POINT - Asian dudes can get white chicks, even in high school.

HONESTY: You like white chicks, black chicks, whatever colour chicks, don't deny it. Let yourself interact with whatever kind of woman you like, her interest in you will depend on how you treat her, treat yourself and treat others,
RESPECT: Don't play racial stereotypes (unless it's funny lmao), if a purple or whatever coloured chick is being a snooty bitch it doesn't mean all of them are like that and it doesn't mean she's like that all the time. Respect that everybody is different and that people change in all kinds of different ways.
INTEGRITY: Your parents are traditional? Don't ditch that, your culture is great, I'm not saying everyone's culture is perfect (some have misogynistic elements etc.) but don't pretend like you don't eat kimchi and rice with chopsticks at home, be content with who you are and I'm sure a cool chick will be interested too, kimchi is friggin delicious and exotic.

  • POINT - What some may consider creepy may actually be helpful in the right context.

HONESTY: Get it out of your system, don't bottle it up! I don't condone any of my sexual behaviours that I had expressed earlier but to put it in context I would say that if I had not expressed my sexuality I would have bottled it up and who knows how that may be expressed in my later years as a depressed recluse. I'm not saying go grabbing chicks asses at your school's swimming carnival - what I'm saying is express your desires, it would have been a lot more appropriate if I told someone that I trusted about how I was thinking or feeling. You can see countless examples of incel, neckbeard dudes text messages to girls where they write a long love note even longer than this post and they get rejected, my favourite one ended with the girl saying "Shut the fuck up you incel". If you actually talk about your thoughts and feelings you can get it off your back and your friends and family can help you through those thoughts and feelings.
RESPECT: Once again, I do not condone grabbing the hot chick's ass - not just because in hindsight (get it, HIND sight?) that it could be creepy but in my example above I actually had context that she would not find it creepy because I knew her and had sexual experiences with her before. I am telling you to respect boundaries, being sexual or not is your own damn responsibility but there is something you need to know, go for it but respect the boundaries - Go for the gold but don't jump down the mineshaft.
INTEGRITY: This goes with honesty, be honest with expressing your thoughts and feelings in an appropriate manner to an appropriate person. Don't fuck around.

  • POINT - Girls are just as eager as guys, just don't be a dumb faggot and you're fine.

HONESTY: Kinda takes the pressure off eh guys? As with above, exercise respect to boundaries and you're fine.

RESPECT: Acknowledge signs of interests that you're getting from a girl, ask her about it, "do you feel ___ about ___?" "Are you smiling at me because ___ or ___ or are you just happy?". Gauge her interest in you and there's the green light for you to pursue. Don't run red lights unless you want to crash.

INTEGRITY: It goes to show how these things go both ways, the beautiful thing about a healthy relationship between a guy and girl is that you work together, you only pursue the other when you have the indication from them and you are treated likewise. This way you are holding each other accountable for your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions, I'm not married but I know enough to say that a proper healthy marriage is a status where this kind of accountability is demonstrated in its entirety.

  • POINT - You don't need to get contact lenses and start being a fag at the gym trying to grow some muscles to get chicks.

HONESTY: Do you actually like exercise or are you doing it just to basically become "a different person", don't be someone you're not. If you like exercise go ahead, be Lance Armstrong or Ahhhhnold but you don't have to work your ass off in unrelated areas of your life just to impress girls, most girls really could not give a crap about your muscles. What are you growing your muscles for anyway other than for a hobby? Do you really need to be able to deadlift 100kg to be able to function in your daily life? Only change yourself for what you honestly want to change, don't make it so friggin' difficult.
RESPECT: If you can accept yourself for being who you are in the moment then you can accept others too. As I said earlier, I can be a really lazy guy who doesn't always take care of his hygiene - Because I can respect myself for being a lazy slob it means I have no place to judge other people. Chad respects his fellow virgins and neckbeards despite their differences.
INTEGRITY: Goes in hand with what I said about being honest to yourself in this field. You prefer glasses over contacts? Take advantage of it, wear a different style or say a cool thing every time you put them on like Horatio from CSI:Miami. You don't like going to the gym? Take advantage of it, be like me and brag like a jerk how you have no need to work out because it has no benefit in functioning in my daily life. Turn that poop into wine.

  • Point - Heaps of sex doesn't necessarily make you happy, you could be using it to compensate for a real relationship, as an escape, it could even be an addiction

I personally believe this is the most important point that I have to make, disagree all you like but I believe that your goal should not always just be sex. Many of you may have started your journey into your change of lifestyle or PUA or whatever because you were a shy recluse or something like that, that's okay!
Remember when you were having fun when you were young? Sex was not on your mind, you were enjoying other things, go ahead and find whatever it is that you enjoy. You wanna keep on playing video games? Cool, keep on playing video games and maybe you'll find a nice gamer girl to marry at Comic Con or whatever.

HONESTY: If you can tell your romantic interest honestly that you want to reserve your sexuality until marriage or a special occasion or something, if she doesn't respect that she'll probably leave you or pressure you into it. However, if she truly appreciates the idea I believe it would be likely that the both of you would grow in trust as you're not trying to impress the other one just to get what you want sexually.

RESPECT: Your partner or not even yourself may be interested in sex at the time, most guys can't function after they've climaxed, how would you feel if your partner pressured you into more sex after you're all tired? You can learn to respect that both men and women have their times that they want to enjoy or not enjoy sex or even any other activity.
INTEGRITY: I knew a guy who became part of a dating and lifestyle coaching company, he ended up telling me how little self-esteem he had in himself that even though he could bang hundreds of chicks he felt so inferior when he saw me playing guitar. Do you really want to be a sex obsessed macho man just to be superior to other men or do you want to enjoy all facets of life to the fullest?

If you got this far I thank you for getting so far and listening to me and I also apologise for writing such a long essay, I just felt that I had something to offer to the community of men who want to have a richer life experience and also to have great relationships with women whether it is your girlfriend, a friend, your sister, your aunt, your mum, the Queen of England etc.

Peace out dawgz.