You ever try to find information about talking to women and it just seems off. It’s always either too vague, or seems to be for attractive people only, or is just simply corny. Unfortunately, there is no secret, gimmick, magic, or any one-size-fits-all solution to this. But there are three words you need to know, to get better.
Just do it.
Prepare to Fail
Before you read any further, notice the title says to “dive in”. This is not the “dip your big toe in the pool, to see how the water feels” article. If you’re afraid of failing then stop reading now. However, if you’re willing to fail, and willing to embrace failure as your teacher, not only will you learn the game, but you’ll learn it quickly and have skills that will exceed your peers.

Gain Practice and Experience from Socializing NOW!
I often hear on this sub, that one needs to focus on reading and lifting before trying to talk to women. And honestly, that’s dumb. Having the muscle and knowledge after 6 months will do nothing if you still lack the gift of gab. Begin practicing and gaining experience now. No skill in the world can be mastered without either of these. I remember running track in high school, and everyone who hadn’t raced before would ask the coach, millions of questions about a race. And although he’d answer our questions he told us “Look, I can talk to you for hours about a race, but you’ll never know what it feels like, until you run one”. Same goes with talking to women. There’s plenty of information on talking to women but nothing will ever teach you like doing it for yourself. So, while you may not have much success early on, the investment will show later. But you have to get out there and do it.
What also helps is socializing with women you’re not attracted too. Just have a conversation. You don’t even have to flirt with them but it has several benefits. The biggest benefit is experimentation. Because you aren’t attracted to the woman, there is no fear of her response. Break out of your shell and say whatever comes to your mind. Be playful, crack jokes, practice sarcasm, ask personal questions, etc. In other words, say what comes to mind and see where it takes you. Have no filter. The results may surprise you, but remember, talking to unattractive women is a supplement to gaining practice and experience. It does not replace the need to socialize with women you are attracted too.

Remove the Accessories
Why do football players, practice catching tennis balls, bare-handed? Because they know if they’re capable of doing that, then they can catch a (bigger) football with gloves on. Like a football player, remove the accessories and make things difficult. To the unskilled, accessories are excuses. To the skilled, accessories become advantages. If you have no confidence in your game, then you’ll make excuses not to talk to a woman. “I have to drink first/My wingman isn’t here/ I’m not dressed well”. But your different, you WANT to be without these accessories. Remove the alcohol, the wingmen, the best clothes, the flashiness. You only need one thing to talk to women, and that’s your mouth. Once you learn to talk to women without any of these accessories, then they’ll just become advantages for you later. And the days you don’t have the accessories, no problem, you don’t depend on them anyway. Also, don’t be afraid to talk to women in groups.

Aim for 9’s and 10’s
When I first began going out talking to women, I kept being told that I was aiming too high. I needed to lower my standards first. And I hear it on TRP often too. “Begin with 6’s and 7’s before you move up to 9’s and 10’s”. This too is dumb advice. If your final goal is to one day be with women who are 9’s and 10’s, why would you start with 6’s and 7’s. Looks don’t determine how a woman will respond to you. Regardless of your preconceived ideas, you’re walking up to a complete stranger trying to win them over. Mathematically, you have the same chance of doing that with a 10, as you do a 6. So, why not aim for the 10. And I’m sure some will disagree, but I rather start at the top, struggle for a while (maybe), then succeed. The saying goes “you miss every shot you don’t take”, so why not take it?

Learn like Artificial Intelligence
Artificial intelligence takes experiences and builds from them to become “smarter”. You too should do the same. When you approach women, try to remember every interaction; mainly the dialogue and results. No, you don’t need to remember the conversation word-for-word but try and remember the gist of the convo. Replay these interactions, every now and again. As you approach more women, compare and contrast the different interactions. Over time these comparisons will teach you what works and what doesn’t. Remember, every interaction is a win or a loss lesson. As you look back on scenarios you will begin to see patterns and understand why certain things did or did not work. Another bonus to this strategy is you’ll learn YOUR craft. For example, my craft works best in bars as opposed to clubs. I’ve learned I’m good at holding conversation and making women laugh. At a club, when a woman can barely hear me, and only has sexual appeal to determine her interest in me, I don’t succeed as much. No one in the world could have taught me this. I had to figure it out myself. Conclusion: No more talking. You can’t get help on talking to women because there is no help on talking to women. You just have to do it. Dive in and eat. All the knowledge means nothing if you never apply it.
You miss every shot, you don’t take.