How to handle anger

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-04-18T15:31:53+00:00

What's so awful about "looking weak" I front of some random chick? As if her opinion matters so goddamn much. You need to take her down off that huge pedestal you've put her on. This ain't Trafalgar Square.

The self-loathing is real. Take a look in the mirror and be a friend to the guy you see there. Stop being your own worst bully.

AnabolLecter · 2019-04-18T16:27:29+00:00

Accept anger, but keep it for the gym. Anger gives you strenght and drive.

addwater · 2019-04-18T16:51:56+00:00

Learn / study mindfulness. It'll change your life.

3gm22 · 2019-04-18T19:54:23+00:00

What helped me with anger was the book "the four loves" by CS Lewis. Basically it defines different forms of love with examples etc. The groundbreaking thing for me was combining the knowledge in that book with an insight from my brother in law (he is a big theologian / philosophy guy) whereby he said anger is the correct reaction for a transgression against love. This applies to lesser loves such as to materialistic things, as well as psychological trauma including childhood issues, relationship issues, etc. Basically righteous indignation is the appropriate amount of anger as a result of a trespass against love. The trick is how to recognize the trespass (usually an emotional trigger unless you are desensatized), and to control your reaction long enough to mentally analyze it. Then finally, respond with the appropriate amount of righteous anger via dialogue. Easier said than done, mostly because the prefrontal cortex, which helps you control emotions, doesn't finish developing till mid 20s. This is why good parents who teach, combined with habit, is monumental in helping us in our youth. Remember to respond in your anger/ responses to the trespassers, not random joes, and you can curb your anger. And beware of gaslighters, psychopaths, and sociopaths. They, by definition, will use the nature of love, anger and normal thought against you.

FereallyRed · 2019-04-18T15:38:13+00:00

Where does that get you?

Stop shooting yourself in the dick.

Being angry just means you are not in control of yourself.

Kurush559 · 2019-04-18T15:25:26+00:00

Meditation

DebonairD · 2019-04-18T16:36:00+00:00

What happened

maljo24 · 2019-04-20T11:38:46+00:00

"I fucked up. I'll do better next time. Let it go."

Title	How to handle anger
Author	porner68
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	April 18, 2019 3:17 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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