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What can a guy do to have success with the kind of girls he wants?

argunta
October 12, 2014
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Title What can a guy do to have success with the kind of girls he wants?
Author

argunta
Upvotes 3
Comments 23
Date October 12, 2014 5:49 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

What kind of men are the stylish, Instagram, cock hopping, Ray Ban wearing chickenheads getting with?

Do you look and act like those men?

Get in where you fit in. If introverted, hairy goth pussy flows like water, then keep diving in.

Why waste your time specifically targeting a demographic that will encompass more of your free time? Pussy is pussy.

[–]argunta[S] 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

LOL NO, pussy is not pussy, if that was the case then we would all be banging whales on the regular.

[–]VegasXLR 3 points3 points3 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I agree with you, but the rest of what he said is solid.

Do you look and act like those men?

See who's having success and emulate them. Most women will be attracted to the same game regardless of their social group, you just need to learn what these guys are doing to not look like an outsider.

[–]argunta[S] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

well, most (actually all) of these guys are tall, white, and jacked.

I am tall and not quite jacked yet but I am definitely not white either.

[–]VegasXLR 3 points3 points3 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Could be those girls just have higher standards for physique. Could be a race thing, but even if it is don't let that hold you back.

There might be more subtle things about their behavior you could pick up on. Are they competitive? Overly loud/aggressive? Do they get around in big groups or small?

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

Well

  1. I could use a better physique, I am shredded and built more like a soccer player (visible and defined 6 pack abs) while these guys want more of the buff looking kind of guys which I am trying to work on being, but not for the girls though.

  2. Yes, I am not as loud and drunk type, I mean I can socialize and approach girls without issues but the problem is that I have issues yelling out loud at loud bars and being the party boy type which I am trying to work on.

Thank you for bringing that up.

[–]Red_Shirt_Blue_Pants2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I recommended this exact thing a week ago in a similar thread. Got down voted because butthurt beta

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Incorporate yourself into the situations so that you aren't an outsider. Play social sports, join a fitness gym, go to meetups, etc. However, you should do these things because you enjoy doing them and not just doing it to meet girls.

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Problem is that most meetups I go to from Meetup.com have weird people and post wall women. The social sports is a good idea so I'll take that. My success has come from approaching women at cafes and on the streets.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Meetups can be hit or miss. Running clubs might be a better bet

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, I'll look into it. But what about finding part time work at a br that might have a lot of these kinds of women frequenting?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

If you're going to get a job you should do it for yourself and not just to meet women. Social sports are fun and you'll meet guys to hang out with too

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I want to work at a bar mainly because I know it is where a lot of the more extroverted and fun loving kind of guys hang out.

[–]Sandkasten0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, rejection requires one of two solutions:

  • Lower your standards

  • Iincrease your standards in yourself

The standards you have for women, they must be applied to yourself as well.

[–]ScottishIslander0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Perhaps your failures are subconsciously affecting you and that is coming across in your approach. Like, when you approach these yoga-pants-wearing chicks, you are probably thinking "Great, this girl is probably not going to respond to me." That negative mindset would affect your success.

The solution? Don't try and classify women into groups, and don't target a particular group. Your goal should be to be successful with ALL types of women. The usual rules apply. Dress nice, look clean, be confident, work out, take care of yourself, update your game etc.

Your minority might be a factor, but probably only a small one. Nothing you can't overcome. And you can't change it anyway, so why focus on it?

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

True, I have been starting to go after the kind of girls I am speaking of a lot more. I mean some are kinda nice to me but it doesn't lead anywhere.

I feel like there are things I can work on, mainly my body type and dressing to fit in. The race thing I bring up because I only see these girls with guys who are white, jacked, and usually white.

[–]ScottishIslander0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Don't bother thinking about race. Just because these girls are going with white guys doesn't mean you can't be successful too. Race plays a minor role, and you can't change it, so don't focus on it

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

True but it can be tough not thinking about race at times. I mean the people I hang around rarely bring it up but throughout my life I have been indoctrinated into thinking that if you aren't a white (or black) guy in the US, it is an uphill battle when it comes to getting hot girls. Plus a lot on TRP constantly say it too. The more I think about it, the more depressed I get so I know it is a bad habit but I also know that it is constantly thrown in my face sometimes, especially when I come online.

[–]ScottishIslander0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I also know that it is constantly thrown in my face sometimes, especially when I come online.

I hear you argunta. But block that shit out. Yes its true that certain races are more likely to be attracted to certain other races. But you know what else is true? If you have a high SMV, regardless of your race, you will be successful.

To move forward you need to find a solution and thinking about race will NOT grant you any form of solution. It will only hurt you. Do not dwell on that which you cannot change. Instead, focus on what you can change. I can tell you right now that this fixation on race is DEFINITELY affecting your game. You need to shake it off, man.

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

True. Instead of even bringing it up I feel like I should be looking at ways to go past it. I am indian btw (don't look it though) and even with this issue, I feel like I am doing better than all of the indian guys I know in my area who are either lonely or arrange married. The biggest issue with this for me is that I never really found a guy of my background who I can look up to because most of the men I know of my background are blue pilled and do awful with women of other races. On the other hand I've done well with women of other races but feel that I might have hit my limit or peaked.

That said, I am fixing the obvious (body type and putting in more effort) before I do anything else.

Thanks for being understanding man.

[–]ScottishIslander0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

No problem. You got this. And dude, if you don't look indian I am assuming you are light-skinned, which makes you an automatic stud for darker indian girls. There's your go-to demographic when you need some validation. But of course that doesn't mean you can't pull girls from other races!

[–]argunta[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I am not into darker indian girls, TBH, I almost exclusively prefer white girls.

[–]ModMachiavellianRed[M] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This belongs in /r/asktrp. Not here.

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