Post about communication and intimacy over at AskWomen. What does TRP think?

[deleted] · 2013-07-03T21:14:02+00:00

Take shit tests. The girl (for good reason) wants to make sure she is not sleeping with a pussy. So (usually unconsciously) she gives the guy some shit and sees how he reacts.

This very reasonable interaction (though girls can overdue it) requires the communication not be explicit. The girls cannot just say I am going to see how you react to me being bitch. And the guy cannot say "I am now responding to your shit test in such a way as to demonstrate value."

Many situations are like this. Take the custum of buing others presents. The whole (albeit maybe dumb) point was that by purchasing each other desired gifts without being told what to buy you signal understanding of each other.

There is more to a conversation then trying to exchange information (including feelings, whatever).

johnsmith66 · 2013-07-04T00:41:23+00:00

What she posted is idealistic and inapplicable to real life. From my experience, women are not attracted to men who display emotional vulnerability. Women say that they want a man to open up and talk about his emotions, but after he does this, women are likely to not be attracted to him anymore. Bottom line: don't just listen to what women say; pay attention to what they do.

As an aside, people are often unaware of what they are attracted to, especially women. So, pay attention to what a women does, not what she says.

As a comparison, many men frequently say that they are attracted to women who don't wear makeup, but when they see a woman who isn't wearing makeup, they are turned off.

_Molon_Labe_ · 2013-07-04T00:04:03+00:00

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I think you don't ever listen to what a woman says. Her actions will tell you far more than her words, or whatever rationalizations she can manage to tell herself.

That's 101 shit. Why even post this.

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roe_ · 2013-07-03T23:51:30+00:00

My take - if you are fighting with your partner in a LTR because of communication break-downs, this type of thing is very helpful. This type of sharing is also good comfort- and rapport-building ("good beta").

However, it's it's counter-indicated if you are in a relationship with someone who's BSC (Cluster B, narcissism, whatever) since making yourself vulnerable in this manner is giving them a weapon with which to hurt you.

Title	Post about communication and intimacy over at AskWomen. What does TRP think?
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Date	July 3, 2013 7:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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