Background: I’m 20 and GF is 18. Been together 6 months. Took her virginity. Sex life is great. My frame is very strong. My SMV is high.

So on Saturday my GF came with me to a family event. When she got to my house she was complaining that a guy she was friends with just got back from deployment and was flirting with her and that it was “annoying”. Without any prompting, she showed me the insta DM’s. In my opinion, she was doing very little to shut him down, if anything at all.

The only thing she did right is say “that’s very sweet. But so you know I have a boyfriend”. Then continued to entertain him and even offer to make him a sign at work (she works at a place that makes custom signs). He was asking to hang out (smash) and her making him a sign would imply giving him the sign, which means meeting, etc. she also was giving him personal info like “been a bit depressed lately because ____” which means she’s being emotionally open to him.

I told her she’s giving some back to him and not to complain about guys flirting when you’re flirting back. She just said “I’m not trying to. Maybe I’m just too nice!” Then it got dropped because we had to leave for the family event.

I had some drinks, and spoke very little to her and was cold. I was mainly just annoyed. Had a lot more drinks, after a while we went into a room to ourselves and (because I had many drinks) I was like “so are you trying to make me jealous or something? I don’t play these stupid games. I’ve done this whole BS before and I’m not stupid.” I told her that it was disrespectful to me. Not exactly sure her response (was drunk) but she then decided to tell me (for the first time) that she thinks she loves me, and that she’s been trying to find a good time to tell me for a while.

I was like “That’s quite convenient timing don’t you think?” And she was like “nooo I was talking to my friends about it the other day, I can show you” so she shows me the texts and she was, but I was really annoyed with her at that point so I didn’t really say much, although we did make out.

Anyway, she stayed overnight and I fucked her, then she went home the next day. After she left I was still pretty annoyed so I haven’t been talking much at all. I think maybe she wasn’t sure how to handle a former friend being so flirty, because she probably didn’t want to seem like a bitch. At the same time, I have no tolerance for this bullshit and I don’t care about the reason.

IN CONCLUSION:

We never had a problem before in the 6 months we’ve been together. I was really into her because she seemed like she actually respected me and was loyal, but now I’m doubting that and my attraction towards her has gone wayyy down. I hit up her friend last night (one I am pretty sure would fuck me) being mildly flirty but nothing suggestive, and now am being very short and cold over text. I’m not even doing it on purpose, I’m just pissed at her and don’t really care. If we broke up today I’d be pretty fine tbh. But I feel like thats a little extreme for one situation.

Anyway, whats going on here and what should I do? Thanks. Sorry for the novel.