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Ridiculous approaches

Earthonaturtle · 2019-04-24T18:21:02+00:00

Is there any merit in doing the ridiculous PUA approaches to get over approach anxiety? I feel like my game is back to square one after a turbulent year of...

Earthonaturtle

April 24, 2019

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Title	Ridiculous approaches
Author	Earthonaturtle
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	April 24, 2019 6:21 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bgy27k/ridiculous_approaches/
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[–]stripethrowaway 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Earthonaturtle[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]stripethrowaway 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Earthonaturtle[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I like how you're blunt, and to the point u/FereallyRed . Right, you suggested catch and release last time when I asked something similar. That's good advice I don't want to jeopardize my role as a father because of a lack of impulse control. What I'd like to know is how to get good at catch and release.

Leaving that relationship I developed a mental block with women, because of all the bullshit that occurred. It's like I subconsciously think that by interacting with women I will inadvertently put myself on the same path I so stupidly went down before. I am young guy. I don't want to go MGTOW. I don't want to be bitter. I want to improve. I want to DESTROY any sort of self limiting beliefs I have regarding game with trial by fire, so that when I get back on the market, I can hit the ground running.

When you say lightly flirting, do you mean taking time out of my day to go do approaches. If so would you recommend doing things over the top IDGAF that callous my ego to rejection, or just try to have normal conversations with flirty undertones? Right now I don't run into women outside of scenarios in which it would be shitting where I eat to game. Or does light flirting have enough plausible deniability to keep me out of trouble?

I know I typed a lot, I'm just trying to understand. Thank you.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

First thing you have to look at is yourself.

Are you attractive? Would you fuck you if you met on the street? Not just attractive in looks, but an attractive man? Got frame, got game, body built, nice clothes, nice attitude, wealth, status?

If the problem for your marriage imploding was partially your fault (and it was... even if all you did was make the wrong choice of woman), than you need to fix your deficiencies or you're doomed to repeat them.

So. read Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill.

I know, I know. Your marriage is done.

But when you're not happy in a marriage you have to take a look at yourself to see if you're the fuckup and fix that first. Then once you've done the work on yourself, if nothing gets better, then you know that the marriage has to go.

That's why there's a saying, "The stay plan is the go plan."

So many men on MRP come in guns blazing trying to fix their relationship, and that's the driver for all the changes they make. Way wrong. You have to change yourself for yourself. So just think of this as being ahead of the curve.

The 12 steps of dread are all about reclaiming your masculinity.

So read the guide, all the links, (it's exhaustive - u/SteelSharpensSteel did an amazing job), and start working on yourself.

OK, that over with.

There's a guide to opening women on the sidebar titled "How to open and close" Great advice in there.

As to going full retard, I don't. No need. I find a little offbeat thing (peacocking) helps, but even wearing a Mystery hat is way too try hard for me.

Location...it's not shitting where you eat to lightly flirt with women in your grocery, coffeeshop, mall, library, farmers market, wine bar, wherever. Can even try for a number but I'd stay away from even that until you're in the clear... 3 women's numbers in your phone could be hurtful if they seize it.

Get out for an hour. Go somewhere you'd enjoy anyway but aren't a weekly regular. Make small talk. Observations. Tell them to have a nice day. Walk away before the conversation stalls.

Good luck.

[–]DebonairD0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Earthonaturtle[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link