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I get troll vibes from this post but assuming this was made in good faith, it sounds like your husband is in the anger phase and quite frankly is an idiot for thinking that sending you to this subreddit will solve his problems with you. My ex husband also decided to take the red pill and it was recently brought to my attention that he's also still stuck in the anger phase. The problem with the anger phase, is that nobody knows how long this lasts, and there are other subreddits full of men who c…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/19 04:42 PM
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I agree. Rip the band-aid off.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/19 04:16 PM
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Omitting information is pure reliance on the sunk cost fallacy and it doesn't work. If he can't handle it at the beginning of knowing you, then he can't handle it 6 years down the road. The only difference is that instead of walking like he would have, he's just going to hold it against you forever. If you paint yourself to be something you're not, he will think you're something you're not, and the deluge of resentment and disappointment when he realizes that the wool was pulled over his eyes wi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/19 02:27 PM
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Everyone has very long drawn out responses and they have great points, but I'm just going to boil it down to one question: Why would you ever want to spend your life with someone who would have walked away from you had he known you did x at one point? Being loved for who you are isn't something built upon lies. Furthermore, it encourages your significant other to pedestal you, which can quickly become abusive behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 09:47 PM
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I mean I can tell her this is poor vetting all day long but it's not like she didn't actively play a part. One good look at her post history and it's easy to see that both parties have a lot of personal development to do.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 10:35 PM
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Maybe you aren't selling yourself very well and maybe you are setting your profile up for failure. Have spoken to plenty of RPW who met their SO on tinder. Not to be rude, but you post to the sugar baby lifestyle subreddit and it sounds like you might be vetting poorly, so I think this is actually your issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 12:35 PM
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Maybe don't go getting a tattoo, but there's nothing wrong with getting a makeover or something. A vacation sounds nice. Yoga retreat maybe? Who knows. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 02:52 PM
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The reason it's called being alpha widowed is because you dated someone who you can't move on from. I suppose the only way to truly get over being alpha widowed is to find someone who is better than the person who alpha widowed you. This would mean lots of time maxing out your SMV and RMV because the other assumption behind being alpha widowed is that the man who alpha widowed you was outside of what you should be able to get smv-wise too if I'm not mistaken. (I'm guessing btw, take this with a …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 02:36 PM
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INTJ here! It might be worth noting that when I met my man, I had little control over my actions. There was no "coming to terms" with anything; I just "fell in line." I don't know what his type is, but I think I'd pin him for a ISTP/INTP. He's highly logical but also extremely perceptive and sensory. Personally, I'm pretty good at separating my opinions from things and looking at stuff that can be rather offensive without getting offended. A lot of figuring out what makes people tick heavily int…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 12:21 PM
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I was going to write a response but this pretty much sums it up. He's with you and not with her for a reason. Getting upset about this will just cement the fact that he believes you cannot handle the truth, and he's demonstrated that by keeping this information from you. Essentially, if you're difficult to be around, then you're training him to be a liar by exhibiting jealous behavior. The more comfortable a man is with you, the more he will tell you the truth. You can't change a man by putting …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:55 PM
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Anyone who's interacted with amethyst knows this was a very huge step in the right direction for her and it was one that was very hard for her to to take. She is growing up. From this experience. Right now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 11:45 AM
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I'm so proud of you for taking these steps. We're all rooting for you, you've got this!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 09:36 PM
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Honestly you have a lot of information that could swing both ways. Whisper gives fantastic advice. I'll tell you a tidbit of advice he once said elsewhere: If you have his commitment, he will let you know. Right now based on what you've written, it's hard for us to tell.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:53 AM
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While I agree with you; my SO doesn't have female friends either, that doesn't mean he won't change in the future. I don't know what circumstances those would be, and quite frankly, I don't ever expect that to happen, but it never hurts to be prepared. I'd tell her to leave him, but what about that would teach her what to do when facing jealousy with the next guy under circumstances that are far more harmless? This is an excellent teaching moment. Why waste it?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 03:00 PM
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Don't be ashamed. Consider this situation you're in as tuition. You paid a price to learn a very valuable lesson that many never learn. Now don't let that tuition go to waste! You got this. 💪
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 12:55 PM
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In the absolute simplest terms, you trained him to lie to you in the first place because in your efforts to control him, you taught him that you simply can't handle the truth and that only hearing what you want to hear is the best way to go. We cannot control or change other people. We can only control or change ourselves. In other words, this is on you. His lying is a symptom of your behavior. I'm really not trying to be mean, but trying to control who your significant other associates with is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 11:56 AM
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For us women (most of the time) Sure. Here in RPW, for the majority of us. (Most of the time) I'm in your boat too. However If the rest was true, TRP would be 100% about finding a wife and kids and never ever divorcing because that's social suicide and objectively, the vast majority of women want a husband ASAP. (Spoiler: it's not.)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 01:19 AM
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Thank you for updating! So you already know my opinion on this, but I'll re-iterate. I don't know how long you have been with your boyfriend and I don't know how long this thing with this other girl has been going on, but to put it as concisely as possible, you blew it. Someone else said to never date a man with female friends and I truly just don't believe that's practical advice. There will always be female colleagues, networking connections, co-workers, friends of guy friends, female neighbor…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 11:54 PM
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Would you be willing to update your original post so that others may chime in? Some might not be willing to dig through the comments like I was. Good luck with everything.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 10:03 PM
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Have you read my link in my original comment? You being hurt about her in the first place was your mistake. Regardless of what he said to you to make you feel better, there was a dent made. Continuing to obsess over it will make it worse.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 09:16 PM
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For me it's more like "Yeah look at me getting sweaty and nasty tryna look hot for you!" 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 09:06 PM
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So you don't trust him. I would pitch an idea to you but it would take some serious girl game to pull it off and I think it might backfire at this point. Not to be rude but it's going to be really hard to come back from this.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 09:02 PM
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He's already closed off about it. Bad idea. You've caused a scene. He knows where you stand. What value will knowing that they hung out add to your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 08:50 PM
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I see. Ironically enough, I have a post about this. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/az46d6/jealousy_and_the_secret_weapon_against_the/ As a preface, it sounds like you've got your work cut out for you because you've designated his friend as "forbidden fruit" to him and now he's hiding his interactions. In other words, the advice I've written in that link above comes 7 steps too late, but it's still good for future reference. If you have confirmed evidence of his infidelity, just l…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 08:38 PM
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Example?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:55 PM
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You and I, we're in the same boat. We want kids. For us, a high value man wants a family as well + all of the above. But objectively speaking, high-value man + wanting a family is not mutually exclusive across the board. If that were the case, TRP would be 100% how to sell yourself as the best potential father possible and less about becoming objectively attractive to women in general. Alternatively, using RPW sexual strategy and wanting a family is also not mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:45 PM
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This one is more "thot" ish but they're pretty popular: https://instagram.com/juliandaigre This couple is probably my favorite, I follow both of them; they're both just super wholesome and such a gorgeous family. the ones of them working out with their son kill me: https://instagram.com/deniceemoberg https://instagram.com/linuscarlen I'm into lifting but I know there's yoga and calisthetics accounts too. I just don't follow or know where to start lol.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:26 PM
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I don't believe that being high value, not being divorced, and wanting a family are mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 05:36 PM
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Keep lifting. Go to bars and work on your approach game. Start by saying stuff to intentionally screw up the interaction. Make fun of girls, tell them they're boring, walk up to the hottest one and make a face and tell her you don't like her hair. Make a game. How many people can you get to give you a weird look and walk away. It will turn getting over your social anxiety into some fun.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 04:21 PM
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Lol I'm not the only one saying you're pedestaling. You dumped her, fuck the reason. She didn't work out for a reason. You want to move on to better things or not?
/r/askTRP30/04/19 04:13 PM
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Based on your post history, you're definitely not ugly. Drinking and doing drugs doesn't mean interesting. Your personality is either shit, or you're boring. Work on your escalation and social game.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 04:11 PM
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Maybe you're boring.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 04:06 PM
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I've taken hard passes on very attractive people interested in me for very qualitative reasons. This isn't about me. You're the one asking for help. Sounds like you need to give NMMNG another read.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:56 PM
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Somehow I managed to pull a girl that was a 9, without exaggerating. She was the most beautiful woman in any social event and she didn't even use make up. I always think about how better she was than the rest in beauty. This is a pedestal you put her on. She became your oneitis.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:35 PM
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You put pussy on a pedestal dude. Change your mindset around and stop using physical attractiveness as a benchmark. Sure it should be a qualifying factor, but that's it. Physical Attraction should be completely null and void if she doesn't submit to you. This one clearly didn't. She's not worth another thought.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:22 PM
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Your text game is shit. If you're shit in bed too, she ain't gonna text you back.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:10 PM
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Lol. I'm far from alone, my friend.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:07 PM
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Hey, Thanks for entertaining my answer! I'm a huge consumer of the fitness side of social media. If you guys can find a good angle there's money to be made. He doesn't even need to be that big, ppl like me LOVE watching a work in progress. I've been watching a couple ladies on their journey down from 300-400 lbs and while I've never been in that position, it's a good reminder of "I feel like crap and she's got a WAY longer journey than me and damn she's out there hitting the gym today. I should …
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:06 PM
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What are you saying when you text
/r/askTRP30/04/19 01:17 PM
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You're overthinking this. Sounds like plate material.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 01:13 PM
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Don't fuck her if you're not attracted to her
/r/askTRP30/04/19 01:03 AM
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my really attractive friend You mean the girl you're beta orbiting?
/r/askTRP29/04/19 11:23 PM
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Why not go out alone?
/r/askTRP29/04/19 10:23 PM
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A look at your post history was all I needed, but I looked at the other comment anyway. Take his advice and stop hamstering.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 10:08 PM
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There's no worse travesty than an inexperienced man. You should be out having fun. Bitches are simple at your age. Go taste the rainbow.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 09:58 PM
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Stop trying to take shortcuts. If anything, an older woman would play you like a flute.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 09:57 PM
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Bro you're 20. Go spin plates. You're too outcome reliant right now.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 09:45 PM
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If you're not getting IOIs and you're sad about it: Your SMV isn't high enough, go lift. You're too outcome dependant, seeing as you cared enough to post about it.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 09:41 PM
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Go out and try to get rejected. Make a game of it. Say the craziest thing to her to piss her off. Get her talking and tell her she's boring and start looking at your phone. Make it fun.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 07:41 PM
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Briffault's Law. She's getting an obscene amount of validation from these guys and she's more likely to act in a way that gains their favor. Maybe not a "next," but definitely a "watch out."
/r/askTRP29/04/19 07:39 PM
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No
/r/askTRP29/04/19 07:34 PM
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That makes sense, but truly, I feel like that's more of a general discipline issue. Maybe it works for my captain and myself because we show up, work out, only on phone during rest periods/tracking weight/reps, and we stay out of each other's hair unless it's for spotting, form checks, "u okay?" and "Yo you're not even done with the set I know you have a couple more where that came from." (That one's mostly from him) We often will do the same stuff together, usually bodyweight or cardio, often s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 06:36 PM
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I tend to look at post histories because it helps me provide more meaningful advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 04:49 PM
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I don't agree with this. I agree that counseling could be problematic in this situation, but not for those reasons, and as someone who has been through couples counseling, I can assure you that a good marriage counselor doesn't tolerate the blame game.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 04:47 PM
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It's in her post history. I'm a stalker. (Actually I misspoke she's doing strong curves)
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 04:37 PM
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She's doing stronglifts. You get to a point where you're squatting huge amounts of weight and a spotter is worth having around, not just for the safety of the weight she's lifting, but to check her form as well. There's the smith machine, sure, but that doesn't make up for a good lifting rack and a buddy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:29 PM
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What's the issue with working out together? I don't see any issues with this, nothing but positives, actually! I work out with my man all the time, and if anything, it just feeds the lust watching him throw around heavy things and knowing I'm his while the boys and girls check him out... Makes me go harder in the gym actually... gotta look better than the competition. Two birds with one stone! (TFW when dread game works and he probably isn't even trying to dread)
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:23 PM
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Therapy, especially couples therapy, when the relationship is potentially abusive, is the worst thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 01:57 PM
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That strictly depends on the type of sex. Hard pounding? Ten minutes might make even a professional athlete need to pause.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 01:54 PM
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Are you both working out? Does he lift? Those two things do wonders for the libido of a human.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:18 PM
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Maybe instead of focusing on "how cringey" his behavior is, do research on what the successful influencers doing what he wants to do are doing, and focus on the ways you can film him and help him make posts that are successful instead? Kinda mean how much you are putting him down tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 10:32 PM
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If she has a Crock-Pot, make like 10-20 of those freezer meals you can find online and deliver to her house when she comes home with baby. I've done this literally with every single friend of mine who had a kid, even if it wasn't their first and I've already done it before. They all said it was their favorite gift because of those tiresome days when the last thing you need to think about is dinner; and that that's their go-to gift for their friends and family who are expecting too.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 05:37 PM
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I'm not clear on what you mean by tacit knowledge. I don't really think most "players" are open to relationships either, especially TRP men. It's pretty explicit about plate spinning > LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 02:58 PM
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This is a good list, but I think some of it, like the online dating pictures thing is a little shallow and definitely not mutually exclusive to RP men. Also, I feel like identifying a RP man isn't enough. Whether they're TRP, PUA, or naturals, it can be pretty easy to discern those men from the rest once you know what to look for, but the real magic lies in the ability to pick out one who is open to a relationship and marriage from the majority of those types who are only interested in spinning …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 07:58 PM
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The only reason I'm saying "Who cares anyways?" Is because you are pondering behavior that's already been discussed and you can find plenty of information on in the side bar and in literature. https://youtu.be/eirBtt7wIDU Plus, it's not like it's a revolutionary or groundbreaking observation. You see what the exact types of women you're describing do to get their LV bags from their beta husbands in a few years.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 04:39 PM
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Approach IRL.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 03:16 PM
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70 matches in 6 months. Get the fuck off tinder and approach IRL.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 03:10 PM
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You're overthinking this. For women, it's just the emotional validation cycle. These guys are a step above beta orbiters and don't appear to know what they want because they're preoccupied with their covert contracts. And who cares anyway?
/r/askTRP26/04/19 03:04 PM
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What the fuck. You're doing tinder wrong.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 03:00 PM
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Pin her down, tell her you got a better idea, tell her she's a bad girl and you're going to punish her with your dick. Then fuck her hard and soft next. Or "You're not asking very nicely" then make her beg for it, give her two licks after you tease her relentlessly, and climb up and fuck her face. Then soft next.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 01:03 PM
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Wow you didn't do the right thing at all. "Maybe if you're a good girl" "If you don't get down there we're both going to find out who's going to get a licking" "Yeah, suck it." "Mhm" * pushes her head down * All far better options than going nuclear on a sex exchange.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 12:08 PM
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I'm purely regurgitating the advice another member once gave me here, advice I've used, several times, during many uncertain points during my current relationship, with very very good results. Do whatever is most comfortable to you. Say you love him, say you've never felt like this about anyone ever before, say you're so incredibly glad he came into your life.... Speak it. But understand that women think with our words and men think with their minds. Say your piece, but wording is important here…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:27 AM
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Hitting the gym. Getting enough sleep and eating right.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 09:21 PM
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Then if you ever feel like doing the actions I stated in the original comment but don't feel comfortable making that exact statement, there's nothing wrong with putting your own spin on it. Tbh, head in chest and STFU are the main working components here. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 07:55 PM
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That's taking things to an extreme, and I don't agree. While I agree that threatening suicide mid break up is messed up, psychotic, and manipulative, the context of the post is dealing with what sounds like a healthy relationship. In the context of a healthy relationship, this kind of body language and admitting your emotional state triggers a man's protective instincts, which, as I mentioned above, don't see anything wrong about it if both parties (and in this case it sounds like it is) are on …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 06:49 PM
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No offense, how old are you? That bares a huge weight on my response. Edit: so you're 18 and healing from trauma. There's multiple things at play here. First of all, for whatever reason, biologically, it's pretty common for younger women to not be able to "get there." It's unfortunate but there's women out there who just plain can't get there. Another thing, is that sex for women can tend to be a mental game. It's hard for us to get out of our own heads and just enjoy what's going on. I've perso…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 05:27 PM
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We are very similar. Take this as a sign that he's doing it right. What you're probably experiencing is imposter syndrome. Tell him you're falling. Let him know you're falling really hard. Let him know that you'd be wrecked if he left you. Pick a really good moment where you two are in proximity of one another. Don't make any of it about him or actions expected on his part. Just state those feelings. Then bury your head in his chest and STFU. It will feel better once you get it out. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:20 PM
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Do whatever gets your jollies off.
/r/askTRP24/04/19 11:45 PM
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Soft next her next time it happens.
/r/askTRP24/04/19 08:38 PM
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Don't do it.
/r/askTRP24/04/19 06:43 PM
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I wouldn't say a red flag, maybe a yellow flag and a sign to "Proceed with caution"
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 06:42 PM
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Try approaching with the goal of getting rejected. It's more fun this way and will get you over the hurdle.
/r/askTRP24/04/19 06:25 PM
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Specifics.
/r/askTRP24/04/19 06:17 PM
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Example?
/r/askTRP24/04/19 05:34 PM
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OMG!!!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 I'm so glad you're seeing results! I was thinking about you yesterday!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 04:44 PM
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We can't "subconciously teach" people things. That's really manipulative, even if your intentions are wholesome. That being said, I don't think that divorced parents are an indicator of a red flag and I feel like that logic is flawed. There's plenty of people in painfully long unhappy marriages. I feel like their kids are more likely to fight to keep a marriage good or depart out of fear of being married and miserable. There's plenty of divorced parents doing the co-parenting thing far better th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:31 PM
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My bad. I meant father.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:21 PM
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Civility would be another word for it, but if you want to win, wouldn't you want that to come across and be interpreted as respectful, especially after there was a huge mistake? (blowing up on the FMIL like that).
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:57 PM
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Coming from someone who was extremely rude to a future mother-in-law and doesn't understand what was wrong about it. I suppose I can't blame you given the upbringing you described elsewhere in this comment chain, but from one woman with a fucked up upbringing to another: if you're going to overcome this and come out winning, you definitely need to grow a thicker skin than this, you need more humility than this, and you definitely need more self-awareness than what the actions you've described wi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:50 PM
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nothing will change. It will get worse.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:03 PM
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I'm not going to argue with you anymore. Good luck with everything. You might find some resources over at r/raisedbynarcissists, but again, those tactics require someone who is very discriminating about when and where to put their stubbornness to good use. Don't forget that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 01:29 PM
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Don't assume my religion. Again. Religion has nothing to do with it. And again, his hand has everything to do with it. It makes a night and day difference.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 01:21 PM
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That has nothing to do with it. A mother-son relationship is a power dynamic that switches once he becomes a man. This mother clearly knows where she stands with her little boy by the sound of her complete lack of trust and respect in his choice for a wife. If you think it's bad now, just think about how bad it's going to be when she has a grandchild to use as a pawn. Take it from the girl whose ex-inlaws did everything in their power to ruin her wedding and make her go bridezilla. (Spoiler: the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 01:08 PM
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Has Mr Right extended his middle finger yet? Hilarity aside, it's his responsibility to provide the buffer. If his attitude is anything other than "I will set them straight or they will face the consequences," Houston, we have a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 12:07 PM
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I don't kiss and tell.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:30 AM
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If you're not meeting someone off the internet ASAP in a safe, public place, you're wasting your time. If they aren't in your area, you're wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:28 AM
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I do do math for a living, but definitely not that kind of math.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 01:40 AM
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Hey egg beaters are 2.5 standard deviations outside of the norm!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 12:41 AM
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Every once in a while you hear about some story where the guy says "she was psycho, she did x to me in bed!" But come to think of it, 9/10 were dating a while and he only started demonizing her after they started seeing other people. This is purely anecdotal, but within 2 standard deviations of what would be considered normal behavior, I think this rings true.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 12:18 AM
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Second thought, he could have what's called the Madonna-Whore Complex, but this would be an extremely severe case of it. It's entirely possible that since (no offense) you already stick out like a sore thumb where you live, he's hyper-aware of you being stared at by other men and people in general.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 04:19 PM
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LMFAO I feel you on the conservative upbringing, I had a parent harping on me about modesty as well! I suppose if it were me, I'd maybe wait until there was some down time and you're both relaxing and baby is asleep, I'd try the dress on again in a way you'd wear in public, and twirl in front of the mirror if he's in the room and I'd put on a pouty sad face and ask "Is this reeeeaaaaaallllllyyyyyy too revealing? I thought you liked it when I tried it on!" And see what he says. Timing is importan…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 04:07 PM
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Is he like this with other items of clothing? Sorry I'm trying to pick my brain for you lol.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:26 PM
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Um what kind of bar are you working in and what kind of outfits are you wearing?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:21 PM
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After looking in your post history it looks like you've moved to Korea? Is Korean culture new for you at all? If you're in an interracial relationship with a Korean man, it might be worth noting that modesty expectations for married Korean women are far different than American expectations. Although you're not Korean, he will more likely than not expect the same cultural modesty expectation on you. It might do some good to maybe make sure to research and stick to those, because not doing so is a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:08 PM
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I think that it's hard to do at first but right now your first inclination is to get upset that he "isn't listening," but really, it's possible that you don't have anyone else to talk to. Women like to talk our problems out as if we think through talking. Men, are quite the opposite. They like thinking in solitude. This of course is a massive generalization, but thinking of it this way helps. Having people outside of the relationship is insanely important, but until you have that, I have a coupl…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 04:21 PM
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I didn't either until I had one; you can do anything in that thing; rice, slow cook, pressure cook, saute... (Which is amazing if you're doing a roast and you need to brown it before slow/pressure cooking an the clean up is easier than even a Crock-Pot I had at a similar price point! I love pressure cooking because if I didn't plan ahead I can still throw it in frozen! Those pre-marinated cuts can get pricey, not sure if you're on a budget but if you are, making marinade can be super easy too. I…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 04:07 PM
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I love cooking; it's a huge hobby of mine. I love recreating stuff I see on restaurant menus and on TV/YouTube. It surprised the heck out of me when my boyfriend told me he'd never had a girl cook him a meal from scratch, much less a steak! They never lied when they said the way to his heart is through his stomach! That being said, you're going into law school and it's perfectly reasonable to invest your time in quick, healthy options on the weekdays and go all out on the weekends. Have you look…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 02:58 PM
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Best of luck! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 01:46 PM
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This actually is very similar to what my list was. I don't think that's an outlandish list. I think that right now, guys at your age are still getting on their feet and are getting experience in dating as well, which they should. Those who fit your profile will be few and far between; and that's okay. Men who fit that profile actually are few and far between. The only thing I'd add is to vet for the man himself. You can have someone who fits all those but at the end of the day, you can't stand h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 12:53 PM
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Don't ever ultimatum. If he's truly an alpha, he will walk on you. If he's not, he will take the bait. You don't want someone you have to threaten in order to make relationship progress. Think about if you get your way this way and what happens after. You're going to have to threaten him to get anything, ever. It's a quick road towards becoming a nag. If anything, say what's going on with you in a way that leaves no pressure on him to act but establishes the vulnerability you are feeling. The co…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 12:26 PM
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Oh I thought you got the line from my post. I don't read Laura Doyle so I wouldn't know lol. Glad things are turning around!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 08:24 PM
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Um. Isn't HSV1 the one everyone has? Like pretty sure you can get it from being kissed by practically anyone. Like, could have gotten it from being kissed at church on the cheek by an adult.. HSV2 on the other hand...
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 11:47 PM
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Do you mind pointing that line out for me? I was being very careful with my wording and I'd like to correct the verbage if that was the case! Sorry if you felt let astray! I linked a post I wrote in my first comment to you if that's where you found it. I try to limit "I don't want" to statements that are negative. "I don't want to stress you out" "I don't want you to go hungry"
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 08:23 PM
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I know that it looks like an attractive way to get things rolling, but I don't think it's a good idea in practice. Just be yourself, and if it was meant to be, it's meant to be. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 07:51 PM
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I feel like that would chase a guy away, especially if asked in the wrong context. Are you using this as a crutch because you're nervous or something?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 07:41 PM
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Okay. So I appreciate your trying, first of all. Thanks for giving this a shot! Unfortunately, I think you might have made it sound like you were trying to skirt responsibilities. Of course he was going to give you the responses he did. In your shoes, after he did that, I'd immediately respond (jokingly of course, and with our communication style, this works) with "Oooooooo you're going to make me stay up till midnight doing the dishes!!!! Mean man! I guess I'm just going to have to go on strike…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 03:24 PM
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Can I ask how you shared your burden? What did you say? Have you read the parts of I think the surrendered wife where she talks about making requests? Use I want statements that aren't pressuring. Things like "I want to have breakfast with you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 01:53 PM
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Have you read the red pill books like the surrendered wife and getting to I do? Do you see where things are going wrong? He was so excited about you that he said he thinks you're the one. (Full disclosure, I've had this moment with my current boyfriend, and it was something my ex husband would never say to me, and BAM that line hits hard!) That puts you on cloud nine right? But when you asked him about marriage and the future, he deflects. That's because he is the gatekeeper of commitment, and a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 03:00 AM
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I'm sorry, I think I came across the wrong way. I just was wondering what you gain out of this subreddit?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 10:56 PM
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May I ask what you are doing in this subreddit? I haven't seen you here before and it feels like you're only here to argue.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 10:51 PM
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I don't mean to be a jerk but let's boil this down to one sentence and see how you feel about it. You're freaking out and threatening to throw a relationship away because someone didn't update their internet highlight reel with a few words and pictures about you. What's more important to you, your relationship, or the total number of digital hearts others gave you on a screen? Although this subject is frivolous, the fact that you both flew off the handle is an indicator of your codependent behav…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 10:22 PM
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I think you're the only one who can answer this, but for the sake of your question, you're in an LTR that sounds stable and you've given trust to someone who hasn't dragged you through the mud thus far. Being vulnerable is scary, but being vulnerable to the right person creates rewards that you can be happy to reap the benefits of. Everything is going to be okay, and even if it doesn't work out with him, you seem to be focusing on building a relationship, and because of that, I think your heart …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 07:53 PM
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No offense, but based on your post history, you have stalking charges and were accused of molesting someone. Given the fact that it sounds like the people who reported you are also students at your university, it's logical to assume that people talk and rumors of that magnitude will keep people away. That, plus the other things in your post history that indicate questionable mental health, might have something to do with it. Please tell me you are in therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 07:31 PM
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I don't know who but that quote has more insight in it than meets the surface and it hits me like a brick wall every time
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 05:47 PM
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It's only a red flag if your mental well-being has been affected and you haven't taken care of it. Otherwise, a bad family history can play to your strengths as a form of adversity you've had to overcome and a shining example of what not to do. That being said, don't hide yourself. Be honest. Honesty pays off in the way that it helps you dodge a bullet. If you are mentally sound and he's judgemental about your family life, then I bet he's going to be a lot more judgemental about a lot of other t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 04:28 PM
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"People tell you who they are, but we ignore it - because we want them to be who we want them to be." - Don Draper
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 02:53 PM
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Want a real comment? You're giving into preselection and going after a guy in a casual relationship with some girl and who knows who else. You automatically think you can beat her out regardless of the fact she's already with him He's 10 years older than you. It's much more likely that he will play you like a flute. You're trying to gamble on the off chance that he wants a relationship, when his engagement in a casual relationship is stacking your odds against you You're looking at doing this at…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 01:17 AM
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I don't "vet" on the first date, per se. I feel them out and ask weird questions to see if there is conversational chemistry. Kind of a weird approach, I guess! Silly things, like "What would your crappy super power be?" or "If you had a personal narrator in the movie of your life, who would it be, and no, you can't have Morgan Freeman!" I want to see his creative thinking process and assess his sense of humor. Men will tell you a lot about themselves without needing to make the first date a job…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 10:34 PM
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He's a nice guy ™ But definitely not a good man.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 07:21 PM
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There's no redder flag than a momma's boy. She's got him wrapped around her finger and there's nothing you can do to change that. Consulting him, her, or trying to put a foot down will only make it worse unless he himself, with no outside influences, (highly unlikely) decides to make changes to the relationship with mom. There's no bigger sign that you have a partner who is outcome reliant than this. You're going to have to decide if this is something you can live with. I can promise you that it…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 05:10 PM
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All this in just the first month? Oof. Have you tried sharing your burden with him and gauging his reaction? I also split groceries down the middle with my man and he eats 3x more than me, however, I don't keep score. We buy stuff for each other all the time. It's not good to be keeping score unless there's a severe discrepancy going on. (IE one person is paying for rent and all utilities and living expenses or close to it.) If you're in it for the long haul and are going to be sharing money, th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 03:09 PM
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She's a grown adult. Let her figure it out on her own. Saying anything unless she explicitly asks would be poking your nose where it doesn't belong, and it would damage your friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 12:59 PM
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Don't shit where you eat.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 12:57 PM
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Sooooo The whole point of spinning plates and building abundance is so that you don't get stuck sad and miserable in an LTR with a girl who is a horrible choice for an LTR. Spend enough time in askTRP; you'll know what I'm talking about. Once you realize that women are nothing special, (as a woman, yes this is true, and yes, it sucks saying that, but it's true) you'll be able to recognize one that truly stands out among the rest, or at the very least, is worth being in an LTR with. I'd argue tha…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 08:03 PM
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Can I correct this? 99.9% of quality men won't touch you right now. TRP or not. That doesn't mean this can't change. Right now, however, you're the perfect prey of men who look at women as creatures who need to be "saved from themselves" or "fixed," and men who think this way are often abusive. Get therapy. No ifs ands or buts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 02:51 PM
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There's resources for you, and you can get sessions for $15 each or as little as free if you know where to look.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 02:43 PM
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It looks better now!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 02:18 PM
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By chance could you break this into paragraphs? It's really hard to read as-is. Thanks! That being said; it appears that you have experienced an extreme amount of trauma and I don't think this is a problem that any of us internet strangers can solve. I feel like the tools used in RPW aren't going to be useful for you until you've properly addressed what happened to you and how that experience affected your neuropathways, and have trained new patterns via therapy. Although you've experienced a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 02:01 PM
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Some relationship-minded men use online dating as a crutch to aid in never needing to get over their approach anxiety. He may never ask you out unless he's 100% certain you'll say yes. This is called outcome reliance, and you don't want a man like that. Some men, especially high value relationship-minded men, use online dating because they simply just don't have the time to seek women offline. These men always seem to get magically swooped away. (Hint: the guy you've been talking to simply isn't…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 12:00 PM
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Deflect, Agree+Amplify, Repeat, Exit. There's an article somewhere but I can't find it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 02:34 AM
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I disagree. Just tell the truth. If he can't handle it and he walks, there was probably something unsavory under the surface anyways. Being so outcome reliant that you feel you need to to conceal or deflect telling someone the truth isn't exactly a good foundation to build a relationship on.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 11:44 PM
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Tbh it sounds like you weren't in a very good relationship and that can bring the worst out of anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 04:18 PM
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Honestly, I don't use anything "RPW" on other women. I like doing the DARE stuff from TRP and having some sort of "frame" around other women. I figure, hey, it works for men why not me? Make sure you invite her to your stuff and act like you don't notice any of her childish behavior. She's trying to either make you jealous or make jabs at you and any sign of passive aggressive behavior will signify to her that it's working. You could even play up the "nice" and "submissiveness" around her becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 02:51 PM
2

It might be worth checking out the side bar of this subreddit for the definition and what a unicorn is referring to here. For the purpose of this conversation, having a better understanding of the theories you're talking about wll better help you discuss them. For the sake of knowledge, no. A unicorn isn't specifically referring to a loyal and faithful woman and a good partner. It's much more than that. It's referring to the perfect woman, who is not just loving and faithful, but is also perfect…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 10:40 AM
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Those are your beliefs, and you are entitled to those, but for the purpose of this conversation it might be worth having a better understanding of what TRP and RPW is referring to by "Unicorn." There's no such thing as a perfect woman, the same way there's no such thing as prince charming. Virginity and purity have nothing to do with it. It sounds like your faith is really important to you and that's awesome that you have that and it sounds like you have a great sense of community surrounding re…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 10:01 AM
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Okay. Given the context, I don't see anything wrong with the comment. They're talking specifically about the woman in the news article and pointing out suspicion about her intentions in this relationship, especially given the very huge gaps in SMV between the two. I'm going to challenge you, wouldn't focusing in on this technically be being bitter about the exact thing you're detesting? It's easy to get upset, hell, in this day and age everyone is so addicted to outrage that it's so damn sexy, b…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 04:32 AM
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I don't agree that it's sad at all. TRP isn't mutually exclusive to men who only want to spin plates their entire lives, and my encounters with those who have decided to go that way seem quite happy with their decision.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 12:53 AM
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I hate to break it to you, but unicorns are unicorns for a reason. They don't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 10:05 PM
2

I rest my case. Yoga is much better with goats!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:12 PM
1

OMG yes it is totally a thing!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:03 PM
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I think one of the great ironies of red pill men is that it touts itself as the "cure" for anger, entitlement, and relationship dissatisfaction. Yet, men are happiest in committed relationships with an RPW. In their attempt to get over their youthful rage, they make themselves completely unappealing to the kind of woman they need in their life. I disagree with this statement, mostly because modern society has made it so that men should go through some sort of period of gaining experience and und…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 06:32 PM
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You're not wrong. I love going and poking fun and being a weirdo and seeing how many stuffy people I can make have to hide their laughter though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 05:04 PM
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Can you link the thread? I'm sorry, I'm not sure I entirely agree with this sentiment. It's not fair to knock people for complaining about a double standard when it exists on both sides and what you wrote gives me the feeling that you are holding the fact that they're working through the seven steps of grief against them.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 03:29 PM
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If you aren't overweight, they might not do tests. I'm not a medical professional but I know the vast majority of PCOS sufferers tend to be overweight. I went through your post history, and I think it might be comforting to know that you and your body are going through an insane amount of change, and you're not going to be done changing for a few years, if ever. Hormones are crazy. If things don't level out, they might eventually want to put you on the pill. (IDK if this will make you feel bette…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 03:19 PM
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A. This pheromones thing isn't as big of a deal as you think B. If this is a concern, this discussion is best between you and a medical professional C. There's honestly more merit in being an interesting person who is fitness minded, eats a balanced diet, dresses well, and grooms well. Hope this doesn't come across too mean, but you're over thinking it. DEFINITELY talk to your doctor about the irregular periods, this could be a symptom of something else. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 02:50 PM
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We have an entire generation of men who've been raised by single mothers, emotionally unavailable fathers, immigrants who don't understand Western Society, parents who don't understand the social and technological changes, helicopter parents, and a media/society that sells/raises their sons to be outcome reliant and think that, on one way or another, if they do x, are a "good" person, and do what they're told, a wife, a white picket fence, and darling kids will come out of it and they're going t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 01:22 PM
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Museum Book Store - pick a book out for each other Target date - you have to get each other a gift for less than $10 Coffee Shop Open Mic/Poetry Reading Wine & Painting Class Goat Yoga Farmer's Market Any Local Festival/Events Hiking Indoor Climbing Indoor Skydiving Horseback Riding Wine/Beer/Liqour/Cider Tasting Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen Together Walk in the park Indoor Trampoline Park Yard Sale-ing Mini Golf Laser Tag Botanical Gardens Zoo Historical Society
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 11:45 AM
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I think it's possible you could be throwing a vibe as is. There's also the possibility that you don't stand out among the competition. Either way, it never hurts to mix it up.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 01:32 AM
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There's your problem.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 12:06 AM
1

Maybe try going in with as few expectations as possible? My intention was to see if he drove me up the wall in a good way or bad way. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 11:26 PM
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Are you being too forward about looking for an LTR? I had the most "Will you be my girlfriend?" When I was casually dating, I didn't know what I wanted, and I was just going on first dates to feel that guy out. After, when I was alone,I'd assess whether or not I wanted to see him again. After date two, I'd figure out if I was going to let it go to sex. (Back then, I thought I was looking for a FWB type thing.... But I didn't really outwardly say that. Ended up in a relationship out of it so it's…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 11:13 PM
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Distance makes things worse because no matter what you do to try to make up for it, there's no way to gauge chemistry without them being there in front of you. The controlling behavior is even more of a red flag with distance involved. Any type of controlling behavior whatsoever is a red flag. If he's being controlling this early in, I can almost guarantee that this is just the tip of the iceberg. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 07:11 PM
1

Lol Plates only for you. You're not ready to LTR. Stop hamstering.
/r/askTRP10/04/19 01:14 PM
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If you're going to LTR a girl, LTR a girl who doesn't need a Rambo level of dread to get her to drop her orbiters. If she meant business, she would have dropped them on her own, without needing to tell you. This was broken from the start. She needs to get all that validation she was getting from her betas from somewhere. Drop her and spin plates. Ones that don't have beta orbiters.
/r/askTRP10/04/19 12:13 PM
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Do keep in mind that autism manifests in a completely different way in women than it does in men. Women are more likely to mask their autism than men. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 08:03 PM
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Have you looked into autism in general? Being in a close relationship with someone who is not neurotypical is difficult and I don't know if doing things with the RPW toolbox will necessarily help. Autism requires a schedule, structure, and a direct form of communication from a logical standpoint. Based on what I've seen of people on the spectrum in my family and their relationships, the most successful relationship I've seen was actually where the wife acted in far different than a "RPW" way; al…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 07:37 PM
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Honestly, RPW doesn't work outside of relationships. What does work, is TRP stuff. building and maintaining a "work" frame, DARE, STFU, and get the work done. Blank stares can be fun too. If she can't get the idea that she can walk all over you, she'll either fall in line or freak out and eliminate herself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 05:08 PM
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The emotional repression is a huge red flag. If he's on the spectrum and he's a robot, it might be worth changing your communication style, but if he's repressed, this is potentially dangerous. There's a difference between stoicism, someone who doesn't let his emotions contrl him, and repression, someone who stuffs them down. This man is repressing himself, his emotions, and his opinions, for whatever reason. I don't think I need to bring up the analogy of a pot boiling over for you to imagine w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 04:56 PM
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This is somewhat alarming. Is he on the spectrum by chance? Does he recognize emotions at all? When you bring your problem to him, generally in a relationship situation, two things should happen: he either tries to fix your problem (we don't want that) or he tries to fix your feels. (we want that) if he's doing neither and he's the emotional equivalent of a wet blanket, think of a future with a family and someone like that. Can you trust him to react appropriately if something serious happened a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 03:49 PM
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I'm, sorry, can you give an example? It's hard to imagine without context. On a surface level, maybe you might benefit from expressing these things to a friend instead of him, or using emotional intelligence techniques so you can develop emotional self-reliance. From his point of view, especially if he's a subscriber to TRP, is that you're constantly "testing" him and if he gives in to your trying to extract emotional responses out of him, you will then lose respect. If he's not expressing any e…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 03:36 PM
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I'll have to check it out. Maybe it was naive of me to give my NPD ex the benefit of the doubt but he went full-batshit. And I was completely shocked about what happened in the aftermath. I regret marrying the idea instead of the man. Never again.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 09:27 PM
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Honestly this is the best advice in here..... You'll be surprised how even the most docile and covert NPD will turn out completely psycho if you get out and not on their terms. OP, check the warning signs
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 08:32 PM
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I am so sorry. I don't know what your next steps are to be, but I hope you don't mind me asking you to please imagine what a marriage and raising a family could be like with this guy. Jesus Christ. You're going to make it through this, it sounds like you have some amazing family that has your back!!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 04:02 PM
1

Definitely BPD or NPD.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 03:44 PM
2

I guess where I landed was that my ability to submit wasn't my own, but entirely falls on my significant other? I can't even verbalize.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 03:12 PM
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Leave her. You should have left her long ago. A lot of this has to do with you girlfriending a horrible choice for a girlfriend, but this also has a lot to do with the fact that you're too much of a Nice Guy.™ A future with this woman will be miserable and it will not get better. Either break the lease or kick her out. Take this as a learning experience. Don't live with a crazy bitch. Where is she going to go? Who gives a fuck. She'll probably go cry to the 100s of guys in her Snapchat and someo…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 02:29 PM
1

Anecdotally, several.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 09:41 PM
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Social currency. "Look, I'm so amazing, I can look over the physical aspects of love and find attraction to this man! Admire me!" You ever see a girl on social media brag about being "pan" and get hoity toity and braggy about her choice to date someone who is a member of the LGBT community? It's like that. It's a form of virtue signalling.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 04:23 PM
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Why are you "making it up to her" at all? She's over it.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 03:15 PM
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When is it appropriate to ask a man to commit to you and only you and not sleep with other women? In short, never. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. You have to earn and maintain commitment from them. Straight up asking for it invites him to deflect, or agree for the sake of being agreeable, especially in your situation. If a man wants to give you his commitment, trust me, you'll know. I think it's important that as valuable women This is going to come across mean, but this rubs me the wron…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 02:51 PM
3

She's getting validation in one way or another.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 01:46 PM
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Women queef because air gets up in there, usually from doggy. Has nothing to do with arousal.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 12:49 PM
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This. If she's using this experience as an excuse to seek validation or to excuse bad behavior, throw pity parties, or get you to do things for her, then drop her. If she is addressing it and self-validating, she's gotten help for it, and continues as usual, then let her stick around. Either way, keep an eye on her behavior for a while. People can't mask who they really are for an entire year, but they can for a few months.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 12:45 PM
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I think that pushing any harder on it could either lead to an argument or him agreeing with you for the sake of agreeing with you. Might be worth moving on from this one. Imagine married life with a man who wants complete equality when you don't! That's a miserable future for the both of you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 02:07 AM
1

Okay then. So you're values don't match. Getting into a relationship with him is like fitting a square peg into a round hole don't you think?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 01:28 AM
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What the fuck
/r/askTRP05/04/19 11:58 PM
4

Male feminists aren't lying in the way that you are thinking. They lie because their lives are solely based around other people, namely the women around them being happy. Their motivation lies with what they think the outcome will be. They ignore their own needs for others. They think that if they do, or say certain things, you will love them more. They do things in the hopes of getting things or love in return. An extreme version of this is men who say "Well I bought you dinner, the least you c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 11:31 PM
1

You do you.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 10:49 PM
1

None of the above. You failed the shit test.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 07:16 PM
2

🤷 you're the one sperging about math.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 07:03 PM
1

Wtf. If you are older than her, half your age + 7 If you are younger than her, your age, -7, x2.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 06:54 PM
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Women get upset when things don't happen on their terms. Tell her you're not at a point in your life where you can be in a relationship. Then just quit responding. Put her on do not disturb.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 06:51 PM
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This is a normal thing that happens called counterfactual thinking. It's the brain's normal process to learn from experience, but it's not the most constructive at times. It might be a hint that you're not quite over your outcome dependence yet. I don't really know what to do about it, but knowing that what's happening is normal might help you address it and develop a plan moving forward.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 06:46 PM
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Okay. Ouch. Honestly, I don't know if this is the RPW thing to do, but in this case I would probably just let him catch me crying.... Over it and saying nothing accusatory about it. Seeing how much you're hurt might just drive home that he's had a massive oversight and it might kick in his protective instincts. Something like "I don't know why I'm just really upset and my mom just asked me if everything is alright with us and it's so stupid; I don't even know why I care," etc. But I'd make it mo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 05:34 PM
2

If you keep killing the vibe, it's probably because of your outcome reliance. Spend some time on dates intentionally trying to fuck up and get rejected.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 05:00 PM
1

This is an epic shit test. You didn't give in to her, and now she's mad. She's not emotionally mature enough to handle the fact that she was dropped. I'd either block her or radio silence. She'll come back in a month saying she's sorry or she'll act like nothing happened. Might get one good fuck with her. Either way, giving her non sexual attention might have made her think she's your GF. Don't do that unless you want a GF.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 04:46 PM
1

If anything, you're hamstering a little much.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 02:28 PM
6

Don't let it get to you, it happens to everyone.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 02:08 PM
1

I understand that bit, did he decide not to submit one at all or did he submit one? I don't mean to prod, but if he didn't thank anyone on his introduction, then that speaks volumes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 12:03 PM
30

Her actions show blatant disrespect and your actions show a lack of ability to keep her interested.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 04:42 AM
1

No LTR is perfect. Stop lying to yourself.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 04:38 AM
39

You spelled Ex-Girlfriend wrong.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 04:19 AM
2

For a second I thought I was in RedPillWoman.......
/r/askTRP05/04/19 04:13 AM
25

At work and school, I use TRP; the male version. I'm not looking for a mate at school or work, I'm trying to make career connections. With catty women, I continue with business as usual. Boss sees me STFU and produce results; boss sees her yapping and complaining about everyone and doing everything but working. Usually girls who act like this are very short sighted and unable to see how their actions might affect their chances of getting promoted. I've survived several boat rockers this way and …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 12:00 AM
43

There's just something awful about being bullied. Mine went from 4th grade on to the end of high school. From getting dragged out to the field at recess and getting beat up, to catty girls simply doing downright awful things in high school, it felt like it would never end. Even when the actual bullying dies down, you're just constantly on high alert, so much that it's exhausting and you don't have energy at the end of the day. It really really messes with a person in ways that are just plain hor…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 11:18 PM
1

I only post on mobile. It's not hard to press enter twice. No excuse.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 10:34 PM
3

I'm not reading this. Format your post. Don't quit your job unless you have another lined up. I can tell you're needy by the amount of text I see.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 10:32 PM
2

I absolutely agree!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 06:23 PM
2

I was thinking about the "hopefully a family member or colleague will corner him and say "wtf"" route too, but I also feel like this is extremely manipulative behavior if she were to initiate this kind of thing through that route, not to mention it puts people in situations they don't want to be in.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 04:14 PM
13

Sorry, can I clarify? Everyone added people to the "special thanks" section except him? Or did he add everyone to the "special thanks" section except you? I know you seem to mention this is extremely customary for the spouse to be mentioned in this type of a written work/project, but to an extent here; I see more or less of a covert contract. You mention all these things you've done, but it sounds like you've done this largely unrecognized, in the hopes of getting recognition, and this has all c…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 02:33 PM
2

All plates break. They rarely last long. You're doing it right. These are mostly shit tests. The fact that she backtracked means you passed. Those girls aren't worth keeping around if they aren't emotionally self-sufficient.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 02:11 PM
1

If she's keeping beta orbiters around, then she sees you as the beta bitch who won, and your seat is still up for grabs. Don't LTR a girl who has beta orbiters. If she had a morsel of respect for you and she truly was attracted, she would have cut them loose. Instead, she doesn't think you're attractive enough and she's going to let the other dogs fight until there's a "better" one worthy of your title.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 02:06 PM
1

I have no encouragement, just hard truth. You probably failed 100 too many shit tests and now she's blowing someone else. You fucked up because you told her how you feel. She's incapable of caring about your feelings. Should have soft nexted after the bar incident instead.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 02:00 PM
1

Leave it be unless he comes to you, and only answer the questions he asks. No supplemental information. Doing anything else will insinuate that you think he's too big of an idiot to think for himself, make his own decisions, and realize on his own when, and who, he needs a helping hand from. Sounds like he alright looks up to you. Don't tarnish that.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 12:11 PM
21

It's fight club for a reason.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 12:05 PM
2

Sunk cost fallacy. You guys spent 15 years together so you owe her a post mortem chat? Wrong. Don't meet with her she's going to use this as a passive aggressive opportunity to air out dirty laundry. Cut ties and go.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 09:42 AM
1

Go read about the talk. Basic sidebar material.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 09:38 AM
3

don't ever send a girl flowers if your penis hasn't been inside her This.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 09:16 AM
1

Jesus Christ. Text only for logistics. Announcement about the fact that you are parting ways is completely unnecessary. She made it clear she is not interested in you anymore long before that. You fucked up when you failed her shit test about being exclusive by turning it transactional, but really, you fucked up from the start when you believed your precious little unicorn is a virgin. Actions speak louder than words, and I bet you $$$ that the second her clothes are off, she suddenly knows a lo…
/r/askTRP04/04/19 09:10 AM
12

Getting caught checking him out gets me bashful every time!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 09:42 PM
1

Because he's a tradcon.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 09:36 PM
6

This. Dumb little girls like to think they can play office like they played high school and not get cut during the "re-org"
/r/askTRP03/04/19 09:32 PM
3

Try to work with her. It's work. Maintain frame. I guarantee you she will sink her own ship eventually.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 09:31 PM
6

Escalate back. Agree and amplify. It's a shit test.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 09:24 PM
9

I know this is a low effort comment but I love that subreddit!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 08:31 PM
38

Actions speak louder than words. It never hurts to let him catch you bragging about him to your friends. :) Edit: Let him catch you checking him out. Always have a hand trailing around on his body Ask for his opinions (also falls under respect) Cutesy handmade sentimental gifts Offer praise and physically celebrate even his minor accomplishments
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 07:41 PM
12

Can I ask your age and how long this relationship has been going on? Edit: There's a difference between vetting and hypergamy. I think your case might be vetting, but you're afraid it won't "work out" because of your deformity. I can't promise that "it will work out" but from one person with a deformity to another, being a quality significant other has very little bearing on the parts of your physical appearance that you cannot control. There's nothing wrong with wanting a man who can lead.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 03:15 PM
1

NP. Caring about a woman's expectations = outcome reliance. Who is leading who here?
/r/askTRP03/04/19 03:11 PM
6

It isn't your responsibility to not string a woman along. It's her responsibility to not get strung along. Women want to be equals with men in every way possible these days, in many ways they wanted to be superior, so give them what they want, and don't give in when they cry about how unfair the world is. Let go of the idea that women are fragile creatures. It's hard but you've calibrated your protective instincts wrong and the way you're thinking is putting her on a pedestal.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 12:03 PM
2

Is it the second date or have you been together for 3 months. Either way you're doing it wrong. I am a nice guy Nice Guys finish last.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 11:55 AM
2

Don't ask when she's down. Tell her when she's down. If she's attracted, she'll clear her schedule unless it's something important.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 11:22 AM
3

You dread the fuck out of your wife.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 11:21 AM
1

Simple. Go get another plate that doesn't play games.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 11:18 AM
7

Well, my phrase wasn't referring to you or the OP, but I know most pretty women convince themselves no one is good enough for them and since they receive a lot of attention, they jump ships easier than average looking ones. I understand your point, but I think this isn't the most relevant to the discussion so I'm going to skip it. I believe we dont know OP interaction with her man so much be able to assess if this is a valid point or not, however... There's a point where she mentioned that he ke…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 09:37 PM
2

Even if it was; someone who needs to go to that length has a little too much hamstering going on. Hamster ran too fast and flew straight out of the wheel on that one.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 08:45 PM
11

men need to be worth it just like women need to be This is true. OP's man has made the case that he simply is not in that classification. Women need to realize that no matter how beautiful you are As far as I'm aware, we've been talking strictly behavioral. Please help me understand why our physical appearance is relevant in any of this situation right now. We haven't made any of this about our looks. To further your point, OP has stuck around despite her significant other's inability to handle …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 08:40 PM
2

You going to next or demote?
/r/askTRP02/04/19 07:57 PM
7

That's pretty nuclear. Don't know if you are thinking about it, but you mentioned she's FWB.... please don't LTR that girl.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 07:22 PM
1

Who cares?
/r/askTRP02/04/19 06:44 PM
11

Next her. Don't joke around about STDs.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 06:25 PM
22

Your not being 100% will only shake him awake in the very short run This. So much this. He will say he's changed, and he will bargain. "It's been 5 years. Don't give up on me now!" Things will change drastically until he feels like you're comfortable again, and then the cycle will repeat.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 06:04 PM
1

"right now?"
/r/askTRP02/04/19 05:43 PM
14

Tell her you're a virgin and you thought that sex just means you give each other eskimo kisses.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 05:42 PM
58

Women like being dominated.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 05:12 PM
1

If you leverage this right, you can have a threesome with both. On a serious note, if you leverage this right, the friend will drive her closer to you. Just continue as usual, agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 05:03 PM
95

Okay. Sunk cost fallacy. You sunk 5 years into a relationship with a man who you don't agree with financially, you can't trust to take action, and you're waiting around for him. In turn, he's negotiating what "could be" ("I was gonna propose this summer...") with you, probably in an effort to manipulate you into feeling like you're the bad guy. To top it off, it sounds like he can't manage the relationship between you and his family. Yes, that's his responsibility. This is not the image of a qua…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:39 PM
1

Both are good options but STEM gives you a leg up. Psych majors are a dime a dozen.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 04:33 PM
1

You sound like you are really asking "Is it going to work out if I go into law enforcement?" I can't answer that, but it sounds like you have an idea of what's up. You should do what you think is best at the end of the day, but I'd always recommend getting a bachelor's degree at the very least. You learn critical thinking skills in a four year university that I've rarely seen people with associate's degrees come out with, especially if you go into some like pre-law. You'll always have a fall bac…
/r/askTRP02/04/19 03:57 PM
3

Can I ask what reasons he says he wants to break up for? Also, you mentioned not being dependant on him, and it makes me think that you also have a foot out the door. How old are you? Are you cohabitating? This will affect my response.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 03:51 PM
4

This.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 03:41 PM
1

Up to you. You can always join the military and get skills; then use the GI Bill to get a Bachelor's in something. The downside is that you might have to do active duty.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 03:39 PM
3

Precisely.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 03:03 PM
3

Go fuck other girls. She's a waste of time.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 02:59 PM
16

Maybe you should go in and do it wrong on purpose for a while so you can get over your fear of rejection. Go into social situations with women with the goal of getting rejected. You'll have more fun that way too.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 02:51 PM
6

Your n-count is 4. Go play in the sandbox and have fun. Commitment isn't your responsibility. It's hers. She has to earn it by being escalated and has to start at plate like everyone else.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 02:50 PM
8

I've always tested INTJ. 5w6 on your other one.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 11:18 AM
1

First of all. You spelled PLATES wrong. P L A T E S If you just have a plate, that's the real problem here. Girls don't care about the size of your dick as much as you think. 5 in is pretty average, working out and losing body fat can make it somewhat longer if you care that much.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 10:58 AM
3

If you have to ask this question, you're not ready for an LTR. Commitment isn't your responsibility. It's the responsibility of your plates. Sounds like none of them are qualified, because you're here, lying to yourself about being alpha, and asking us. If you think you can play hard mode, only plate girls who could qualify as LTR. The rest is on them.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 10:50 AM
1

Read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 04:43 AM
47

Sunk cost fallacy bro. Let the 10 years thing go. You know what you should do? You should rejoice because you dodged a bullet. Then you should get angry. Sounds like she was controlling and a shrew. She couldn't trust you to do shit. What kind of man could ever flourish in that environment? She definitely didn't respect you, because she didn't let you have your own life. Sounds like there's a cultural element here, so I won't say much about living with your parents, but that probably put a dampe…
/r/askTRP02/04/19 04:21 AM
2

Nah you're not wrong. Tinder isn't helping. Meet girls IRL.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 11:09 PM
1

This is basic sidebar stuff. She was employing plausible deniability. You didn't pass. On to the next one. You even put a cherry on top of failing by saying "Maybe next time." There won't be a next time. Not with her.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 10:24 PM
1

You failed.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 10:23 PM
7

Just go on the date. Some girls don't give a shit about height, but every girl will start giving a shit if they smell how insecure you are about it. You're already putting her on a pedestal. Stop that. Don't ever fixate on one person, especially on tinder. Abundance. Meet people in person. Stop relying on online dating where the girls have Abundance.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 09:35 PM
3

That's why I'm suggesting he break it off and work on himself. Coming from someone who was in an abusive relationship; there's no bigger sign that you're not ready for an LTR like drug use, losing your frame, and hitting your LTR. GTFO and work on your shit OP. Monk mode for you.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 09:14 PM
5

Next.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:44 PM
1

I tried to link but the link was removed.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:39 PM
1

Then you aren't ready for an LTR. Let her go. Go back to spinning plates. Do not pass go, and do not collect $200.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:37 PM
3

She could have pressed charges. Get a handle of your shit.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:34 PM
1

She's sad now, probably because she got caught. Resentment will build up later. No matter what you say or say you feel about it, it was physical abuse and you need to go back and reassess how you could have prevented a loss in your frame like that. Regardless, she did shit to prove she doesn't respect you anyway, prior to hitting her.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:33 PM
1

Wow. Way to lose frame. Read the sidebar and don't expect her to stay long. How can you expect her to trust you if you hit her? Nevermind that. You should have just dumped her on the spot. Sounds like you're not ready for an LTR if you're LTRing a girl who's not worthy.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:26 PM
4

There's a post on TRP about this. She's too passively submissive. There's a point where that becomes boring because she is incapable of thinking for herself. Demote her.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:25 PM
10

If he was physically at his peak SMV, there wouldn't be this big of a drop off. He's lying to himself.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:23 PM
20

Don't shit where you eat. Obviously you're leaving something out because none of this makes sense. Maybe try being honest with yourself.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:09 PM
2

This is the only answer.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:05 PM
11

she told me about a guy she wanted to bang "My boyfriend would not like that or else I would." she is excited to see him Dump her. If she was truly into you she would have dismissed his ass instead of painting you out to be the big bad wolf who told her she can't talk to boys. She's employing plausible deniability with him. Dump her now and spin plates till September.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 08:02 PM
2

Yes I agree, and I think military is absolutely an exception to the "don't shit where you eat" rule. If you enlist, do you think it would be easier to enlist with an open mind to possibilities? I mean you can always enlist and not re-enlist if you decide to start a family or I don't know, maybe there's admin work if you stay and do start a family? Also, there are a ton of people who leave the military and go on to be big things like doctors and lawyers. Don't be afraid to keep your options open …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:40 PM
6

There's a lot of good advice about the military already; I'm here to say to just remember that RPW is a toolbox. It doesn't mean you should let go of who you are. Of course being in the military narrows your dating pool, but also, plenty of couples have also met, well, while they were in the military. It might be a good move, you'll raise your chances of also meeting a high quality man who has the same values about the military as you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 12:14 PM
2

I was trying to explain it in terms he'd understand.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 01:03 AM
8

He sounds like he's playing games/spinning plates. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 11:52 PM
4

LTR is hard mode for a reason. Got her to be my girlfriend You're not ready for a girlfriend purely based on this phrase. She's supposed to be trying to get you to be your boyfriend. Go spin plates for a while. She's not worth your time.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 11:40 PM
5

Go fuck other women. She's not worth your time.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 11:38 PM
2

Sorry, what exactly do you need mean by bills? Are you cohabitating?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 04:32 PM
3

I mean personally I've been through something similar and there's no amount of talking that fixed anything, it just got me yelled at. I ended up leaving the relationship (it was actually a marriage) and I found a relationship with someone who puts his needs first and has a mother who lets him learn things on his own and respectfully cheers from the sidelines instead of treating his girlfriends like a competitor. For me, that was the best choice, but there was also a lot of things at play that br…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 03:14 PM
10

First of all, feel free to cringe at your past, but don't hate yourself. You were doing the best you could with the tools you have. You now have a set of new tools, and hindsight is 20-20. You would not be who you are today without your past experiences. Now you know you've done things that didn't work. Failure is part of learning. There's a red flag deeply rooted in your boyfriend's relationship with his mom and no amount of RPW knowledge or tactics is going to fix it. First of all, the mother …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 02:36 PM
15

There's a book called "No More Mr Nice Guy" that covers a lot of ground here. It goes into depth of two different types of men, Good Men, and Nice Guys. "Nice Guys" try to get through life by causing as little conflict as possible, which on the surface sounds like a good quality to have, but results in self-loathing, internal frustration, and a desire for approval from others, which in turn creates dishonest behavior and passive agressiveness. Good Men, are in touch with their masculinity, know …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 06:35 AM
5

This sounds like a guide on how to drive away high quality men and have a ton of beta orbiters. Like I feel like this is quite the opposite of what RPW is. Maybe I'm judging it harshly but this sounds like playing games. A high quality man is not going to compete for a girl when he can go around the corner and pick up a girl who is willing to compete for him. I thought this strategy is considered wrong because when you get men competing for you, you're attracting men who don't think they can get…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 04:21 PM
3

See what she's doing to you? You're supposed to be the one doing that to her.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 12:20 AM
15

Congratulations. You just stepped into her frame.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 08:46 PM
7

If she finds you attractive enough, she won't care.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 04:32 PM
28

I'm sorry, you spelled "Ex-Girlfriend" wrong. Drop her and say it wasn't you. No need to explain any further. Block her and her mom.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 04:29 PM
1

You're forgetting women who are quality and end up so entirely attracted to you on the first date that they break their "no sex on the first date" rule. Of course you can't exactly trust what's flying out of her mouth to know if she's really serious about it.
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:19 PM
1

Drop her
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:09 PM
3

I read your comment wrong. Apologies. Didn't make to get rude, I'm seen a marriage fall apart over this.... Nobody had a clue. Everyone felt really guilty because we all were always like "When's your turn?" They always batted it off saying that they didn't want kids because they were ashamed of their fertility issues.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:39 AM
-1

You. Still. Don't. Know. Go take a field trip to the IVF and TTC parts of the internet. Why are you even asking for advice if you aren't going to take it anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 04:02 AM
6

Not your yard. Stop looking in it. Simple as that. You don't have any idea how many people say "Oh I don't know if I even want kids..." When they've been TTC for years. Leave. It. The. Fuck. Alone. You don't know if that's their reality and if you say anything and that's the case, you're rubbing salt in her wounds.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 02:47 AM
6

It's none of your business? Edit: okay. You're misinterpreting us. Mind your own business and stop looking in other people's yards. They are grown adults. They can water their own grass. You don't know what's going on behind the scenes with these people. Leave. It. Alone.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 12:41 AM
7

Highly doubtful that a girl who is part of the community would be that blind. Give our girls more credit. Some of us aren't the brightest, but we learned vetting for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 03:03 PM
4

How is this moralizing? Logically speaking, adulterous men aren't going to commit and they aren't trustworthy nor are they quality men because they're sneaking around and trying to have their cake and eat it too. A quality man wouldn't need to sneak around, he wouldn't commit to those he doesn't want to commit to, and if he wanted to sleep around, he'd just sleep around instead of tricking a bunch of girls into thinking they're the one. A quality man would not need to go through all that trouble…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 03:00 PM
9

Wouldn't catch me dead as his girlfriend, let alone a plate, and this is coming from someone who went the plate route. Sex = chemical reactions in your brain. Chemical reactions in your brain = attachment. Don't develop attachment with someone not worthy of a relationship. Hope you learned your lesson.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 02:25 AM
25

Why are you posting in RPW if you're not looking for a relationship? We are not your people.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 01:06 AM
21

No, seriously, read the sidebar. But to be nice, vetting is the process of determining if a man is relationship-worthy. This one clearly wasn't. You missed something horribly wrong. Go back to the start, do not collect $100, and skip a turn to think about the red flags you missed and continued to ignore. Two years and no clue he had a girlfriend? Either you're an idiot, (no offense) he's a fucking genius, (which he's not) or you've been lying to yourself. (Most likely) In the future, you need to…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 12:44 AM
2

They don't need to be your role models. You can learn more from people making poor choices than you can from people who make all the right ones.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 01:35 PM
8

Trust me, he's putting her through the same thing. You dodged a bullet. Be like Sodom and Gomorrah and don't look back, or you're going to turn to salt.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 10:45 PM
3

Honestly AWorseManThanYou is right. Block block block. The one's got the goal of obtaining as much sex as possible, which isn't a bad thing, but it's a bad thing if he's trying to get it from you. This one's never going to be interested in a relationship and you having sex with him is going to only serve the purpose of feeding his ego. Again, not a bad thing, but well, quite frankly, we at RPW avoid the fuccbois. As I said before, girl, find a better room with better men. ✌️
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 10:18 PM
10

He might have claimed he was red pill but in fact, he was probably just a loser. Unfortunately abusive men seem to like using TRP as an excuse for bad behavior. I promise you that this is not what the founders intended it be used for.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 10:06 PM
8

After reading the comments, I like you. You'd fit in here. Stop entertaining those two knuckleheads, they're trying to just get it in. They may seem like that meme of "alpha Chad's" and maybe they are, but they're not the type of guys you should waste your time on. There's alpha male types out there that are worth spending time with, and these ones aren't it. You know that saying that goes "If you find that you're the best person in the room, then you're in the wrong room." right? Go find a room…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:17 PM
1

Sounds like you just believe that people should be hired based on their ability to do the job well, and not because the employer is trying to meet some diversity quota and has to give out participation trophies. Somehow that idea is rare these days.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 02:49 PM
11

Dodged a bullet if you ask me. It will take time. You're probably unhappy that you didn't get to end it on your own terms. After I ended my relationship which had some similarities to yours, it was a rollercoaster between being over it and not being over it. I think I hit the roof with anger once I got into a good relationship and realized all of the tiny little things that were horrible in my previous relationship that never happened in my new one. Stop blaming yourself. You exhibited a ton of …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 03:49 AM
18

I agree. We spend too little time looking in our own back yard for those who are successful and have their shit together and trying to figure out what they did and this is why we have so many people trying to be some sort of social media influencer these days.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 02:52 AM
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This is a good learning point opportunity for you. It says that you weren't exactly looking at the person, but the idea of being married to a businessman. There's plenty of successful businessmen who have money, less time, and are jerks. A high quality man who happens to be the type of person you want a relationship with will not always be a successful business man. Would you rather be with a jerk of a rich man or a high quality man who happens to be a business man? When you put it that way it k…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:59 PM
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It's just used so that if someone they know finds their profile, their reputation won't be compromised.
/r/askTRP23/03/19 04:49 PM
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I think that since he's more mellow with that one friend, he is capable of gauging how rough is too rough. I also can't handle climbing things. Heights, I get dizzy just thinking about it!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 03:03 PM
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Oooooooo this is a big one! Rough and tumble play is very important for kids, especially with their fathers!!!! It teaches trust and other things. There's a podcast where Jordan Peterson talks about it and maybe he said something about moms doing it too? I'll try to find and link the episode for you! Edit: Here! I'm not a parent myself so I'm not sure how to help, but how does your son react if you make a big business of being "hurt" if he gets too rough with you? I know puppies will use loud sh…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 02:37 PM
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If you're not excitedly all feet in, then find someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 06:40 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 06:38 PM
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Zegi is right. You're definitely doing the covert contract thing for sure. I feel like there's so much in here I can relate to. I too was very sheltered in a very horrible family situation and I thought that people's circumstances being better than mine meant I would learn what it's like to have a family. I ended up in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship for 10 years that turned physically abusive -- and get this, my silly butt stayed -- because I thought this was the best I could d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 01:29 PM
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Why are you giving her commitment when it's not yours to give? Keep things as-is for now-- if she keeps proving her worth after she graduates and "moves your direction" in December, then let it happen naturally. If you yield to this request, you're teaching her what lengths she has to go before she doesn't have to do any more and she's going to to know exactly at what point she can start disrespecting you.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 10:13 PM
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Covert Contract types usually make a contract with you without telling you about it. In other words, NiceGuys™ The ones who get pissy because a girl didn't sleep with them after they bought dinner. The ones who think gifts and money buy love. They do things expecting something in return, and even worse, they do it without telling you, and then they get mad when you didn't do the thing they expected you to do in return but also didn't know about.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:34 PM
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Also, this is a very red pill topic. :) Have you read the surrendered wife yet? That book is quite literally all about what your very post is about.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:28 PM
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Last I checked RPW is a dating strategy, not racism.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:10 PM
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Yeah, stop "teaching" him. He doesn't seem to have an interest. You can try communicating better, but with that background and without knowing much about anything else, I can't guarantee he will step up to the plate. Also, stop trying to do everything yourself. You are but one person.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:12 PM
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That's okay. She's just going to learn the hard way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 04:47 AM
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I don't know if she's got the respect, trust, or admiration that it takes to turn that ship around, is all I'm saying.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 03:12 AM
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If you can't talk to your captain about things that make you uncomfortable, then maybe he isn't a captain. If it were me, I'd recognize "He does drugs" as red flag #1 and that he likes to go to parties with friends and not invite me as red flag #2, and I would have nexted, but to each their own I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:28 AM
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Anything can be brought up when it's brought up the correct way. If you're not going to bring your captain your problem, then have it your way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:13 AM
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Because you're talking about going back to the friend to ask for more information instead of getting it from the source.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:05 AM
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He's a grown ass man. Trust him to be able to figure out his own crap. Stop going to the middle man and just freaking ask him. Why do you trust his friend more than him!?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:59 AM
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Why are you thinking about playing games? Dread game doesn't work on men. Do you want to be a shrew? Because that's how you become a shrew. If you're not comfortable with him going to the party or if his friends said something about the party that makes you feel uncomfortable, then tell him his friends seemed like they were spooking you about him going to the party without you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:55 AM
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I think there's more to be done that a simple weekly gesture isn't going to fix.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:49 AM
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So you know about the story that goes around, there's an abused stray cat who is feral and then some guy picks it up and htakes care of it and then over the course of several months the kitty warms up to the guy and becomes a sweet cat once more? That's a lovely and beautiful story, and sometimes it's often a plotline that happens in modern romance fiction. While it's an adorable and endearing story when it's a pet, no good man is going to spend his time nursing your trust issues back to health …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 08:31 PM
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Weight loss: just find something and stick to it. There's a surprising amount of women who weight train here. Dieting, I'm not a nutritionist but it's pretty simple: make sure you're balancing your macros, and adjusting your caloric intake. I'm a huge fan of the 21 day fix diet personally. Makeup: the trend is that "more is more" but lately I've been embracing "Less is more." This is a personal thing. Hair: r/femalehairadvice is fantastic. Your skin: r/asianbeauty and r/skincareaddiction have fa…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 06:11 PM
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Congrats on leaving your narc! Unfortunately, narcissists are known for operating on the swing of a pendulum. They're known for what is called "love bombing" and that can really take you to a next level high. Then there's the "discard" which takes you to an all-time low. Then you're kept so low that the slightest nice thing they do will take you higher again. A normal partner, especially a good relationship partner, will accept you for who you are and won't put you through this cycle. What you'r…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:05 PM
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If no man in college was relationship-minded then nobody would ever meet their husbands and wives in college, let alone have married a "high school sweetheart." If none of the men around you are relationship-minded, then maybe it's time to change the people you're hanging around. Some women go to Harvard solely with the intentions of finding a well-to-do man to marry and even in this society, they succeed. I'm sure uni in UK is the same, but you have to keep yourself in the right circles.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 12:31 AM
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When you say you both talked about moving in together, do you mean he brought up the idea of moving in together without you mentioning anything about it, or do you mean you told him you wanted to move in together and he's going along with it to avoid conflict? Are you sure you want your name on a house with a man you're not married to? Are you even sure you want to move in with him? Let's just entertain the idea that it was his idea all along. You can't even trust him to do the apartment hunting…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 08:25 PM
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I think you have to email verify and then something in the profile settings. There should be a post somewhere if you Google sorry I don't remember off hand.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 08:09 PM
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At RPW we only seek LTRs. There's some books I suggested in the other comment and I'm sure we have a ton of red flag posts here as well.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 06:08 PM
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r/theredpill You have a to play with your settings because it's been quarantined.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 06:06 PM
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Okay, at AWorseManThanYou's request, who by the way, you really got him going, and if it weren't for a little convincing on his side, I would have paid no mind, here is my fleshed out response at his request: I don't have much to go off of here, so I had to dig into your post history. First of all, I don't understand if you are obfuscating the specifics of how long you were together and how long you knew each other in different posts because you are protecting your identity or if you don't like …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 04:53 PM
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Do I know OPs ex? No. Do I know anything about the entire relationship? No. Do I know if he was a perfectly reasonable choice and she was being a shrew and that drove him away? No. Do I know if she was actually plated the whole time and was silly enough to assume they were actually in a relationship? No. Do I know if he was beta orbiting another girl and swooped in at his first chance and was using OP as backup? No. Do I know if he was a bad vetting choice? Yes, because of the infidelity. I can …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 03:55 PM
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Definitely check the sidebar! We have an entire 3 posts dedicated to this topic.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 03:42 PM
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There is not enough information to "flesh out" my response to your liking. Perhaps you can ask her in order to get the answers you seek. Lesson learned: vet better.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 03:41 PM
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Vetting is an extremely common term here. Vetting is the process of picking a man.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 02:38 PM
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What's the saying? "You could be the sweetest peach in all of Georgia, and there will still be someone out there who doesn't like peaches." If I were you, I'd stop thinking about this in terms of "What does she have that I don't have" or "Why am I not good enough?" and start thinking in terms of "what red flags did I miss during the vetting period? You can read all the literature and follow all of the self-improvement steps, but at the end of the day, if you are trying to keep a man who doesn't …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 12:16 PM
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I think that it might be a good idea to set yourself aside some time and try identifying your emotions and where those are coming from. With a pen and paper. Being self-aware of your feelings might help you identify what you want on the first place and it might put this tension to rest. After that come find us! I usually just comfort test my SO, but I'm generally able to identify what I want. We can't help you if you don't know what you want! Good luck, I'm sure it will be alright.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 07:50 PM
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What kind of comfort are you talking about? Physical comfort or emotional? This post is adorable by the way. Took me back to when I first met my SO and everything felt so unpredictable and high stakes. How long have you been together? The men's subs are for men. You'll be redirected here. They're also mostly into plate spinning so I'm not sure you would get the answers you seek as a celibate woman.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 07:01 PM
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Maybe: You're not as into him as you would like to be/think you are You are having issues putting yourself in a sexual place mentally You're failing to communicate I don't mean to put the blame on you, but you're here and he's not and the only person you can change is yourself. You paint the picture that he cares a lot about you, so I'm banking that you think you're communicating but aren't because for whatever reason, you think that being direct is embarrassing or it's not going to get you what…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 08:35 AM
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Of course, but she's driving away men who aren't looking for relationships anyways. This is a deterrent for plate spinners and men participating in hookup culture.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:55 PM
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It's a hard thing to separate from! It's also easy to fall into the trap of thinking in black and white when the world is a spectrum of grey. A lot of people here will say to think of RPW as a tool box. Some stuff is insanely useful. Some stuff, you might love and reach for every time. Some stuff, maybe not so much. For me, moving my communication style from highly logical to get in touch with my more emotional and feeling side has helped a lot. Instead of going right out and saying things I thi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 04:02 AM
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First of all, Smart =/= Dominant. We don't want to dumb down anybody. We have everything from nannies to accountants to SAHMs to doctors and lawyers and ladies who never even graduated high school in here. I don't know what you are interpreting that makes you think you need to act dumb! You grew up in an environment where you had to be the strong one for a long time. That probably meant that you got very used to hiding your vulnerabilities, and you probably got very good at suppressing your emot…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:45 AM
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Of course.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 12:15 AM
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You should probably mention you are a powerlifter. This is an exception.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 04:33 AM
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Go on these dates. If he's cute and interesting, do it! Walk around the block. You just never know if one of those guys is a high quality man. Trust that each date could be a high quality man, and seriously entertain each one. Keep your head up! If the date leads to him inviting you to sex, just politely decline. Tell him you have a midterm tomorrow or that you need to feed your cat or something. Or that you're just not interested. Good news, you're going to get really good at turning sex down. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 04:16 AM
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Of course you don't. Get therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 03:59 AM
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First and foremost: get into therapy. Get into therapy specifically with a therapist who specializes in victims of cluster b type personality disorders or at the very least, a therapist who specializes in cluster b type personality disorders. You are repeating emotionally abusive behavior that you're exhibiting and you have identified that you learned it from a parent. You now, are a parent. Do you think it's fair for your children to be raised by someone who could be accidentally putting them t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 03:25 AM
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Part of this is that we are trained more and more by society that we are victims and are at the mercy of all men who are this vicious thing we need protection from when in actuality,in the grand scheme of things, women, particularly in Western Society, have it better than ever before. Many women naturally carry this mentality and then they take an injury from the past, build up a wall, and make every new person pay for that one person's mistake. They're so afraid the next person is going to repe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:15 PM
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Noooooooo noo no no no. "Earning trust" is dangerous. Think about a hurt animal and how long it takes to get the poor thing to come around and be docile again. It's like a feral hissing cat. Sure it's admirable for a person to do that with an animal but it's too much to handle for a person to do with a person. Why would a high quality man want to nurse a poor Kitty back to trusting people again if there's a girl around the corner who is willing to trust him from the start? You should be earning …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:04 PM
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You are right. Floss picks are godsend.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:00 PM
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Honestly, I can easily be described as that as well. I'm not that girly either and I'm rather assertive when I see something I want. I also don't think those are bad traits to have. Usually when I've seen people who are described as having "strong" personalities, they are the opinionated "put themselves out there" types. Maybe this is what the people around you mean? If that's the case, then learning to make conversation where the main focus is on the other person might help, and listening inste…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:02 PM
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Baskets. Baskets everywhere. Baskets in every room, for everything. Also, I'm easily distracted, so I'll conciously stop myself and think of the most strategically time saving way to do things. The other day, I started on bills, and stopped. I decided that throwing in a load of laundry, unloading and loading the dishwasher, and getting a new load of laundry on deck BEFORE doing bills would be the best option. If I'm cooking, I have a bag on the counter to throw garbage in. And I'm always thinkin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 11:54 PM
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Copious amounts of baskets for all the things. I have one for spices on my counter top so I don't need to rummage through my cabinets for the commonly used ones and I have them in my pantry because I buy bulk foods and I'd have a mess of plastic bags otherwise! I keep produce in one, I keep sauces in one, I keep random stuff in another, and they are easy to pack away if you want to have your place look extra clean! Also, hanging pans or cutting boards up somewhere to free up some space. Bonus, i…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 05:10 PM
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Women don't lie about missing you for validation. Women lie to protect their social status/reputation. Generally, if a woman is lying about missing you it manifests in manipulative behavior that doesn't result in her saying she misses you. If she misses you and is lying about it, she possibly lacks emotional intelligence to understand that she misses you and will display jealous or nagging type behaviors and shit tests. "Why don't you ever call me anymore!?" "We need to talk" etc. (Starting a co…
/r/askTRP11/03/19 04:47 PM
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It's meant to be a broad and general scenario. Who cares how he got the number? What if it was a coworker? There's too many variables that you're assuming. You're also hyper-focused on one detail when the last couple of paragraphs answers your concerns. Yeah, you see him being a flirt and being awful? Dump him. If a girl is hitting on him and he politely deflects, are you still going to dump him? You mean that if you dated a man that got hit on by girls you would dump him!? Also, sidenote: if yo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 05:13 PM
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Why would you suggest a vacation if you don't want to pay up? That's not fair to him. Dinners are less than $50 pp. Vacations are $$$$ and you're not married. I think you should pay your share and drop it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:10 PM
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This is a valid point, but the strategy is not to be honey only when he's about to jump ship. This is about how other women will try to compete with you for a man they perceive as high value, and how to deal with that. Trust doesn't come to many women naturally.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 01:47 PM
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I think if it's said with the right amount of flirtatious sarcasm and the girl who is the subject was overt enough, it should be perfectly fine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 01:42 PM
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You'd dump a man who other women decide to hit on in front of you?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 01:41 PM
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That's different. That's fun if the relationship between you is in a very good place. The post is more aimed at ladies newer to RPW. I'll usually be like "So, when's the wedding, am I invited?"
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 09:34 PM
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Welcome! I think you have a valid concern. Things are going to be a little tough. I think that there is something to really keep in mind here though: your husband is already bilingual. He's figured this stuff all out once before, in Canada. There are plenty of companies all over Europe where English is the commonly used language, and that's always an option. I think that he's going to be frustrated at first but I also think he's going to be just fine. Rest at ease and be there for him when he ne…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 02:58 PM
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We unfortunately live in this interesting time where people value those who "were right from the start and never changed their position throughout history." People get prosecuted very publicly for things that happened decades ago. It's really sad, because this insinuates that we value people who never realized they were wrong and grew from that. Some of the most successful people in the world have done things that are wrong, have had to face them, and have grown from it. Personal growth requires…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 12:39 AM
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Good news! You've still got time. Bad news! You don't have time for this guy. Any moment wasted on someone who you immediately know you don't want to marry, is a moment wasted at this point. Drop the guy. Go on a ton of first dates. Someone will stick out. Places to meet men: church, meet up groups, classes, online, friends, cafes. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 11:47 PM
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He has always seriously disliked conversations about marriage and family. He claims to want a beautiful family to provide for. This line from your OP is a huge red flag. I would also be concerned about the way he's spending money, but that's besides the point. I don't know the magnitude of which that he "hit it big" but I've seen many people in my line of work with failed start-ups and financial problems from poor spending choices. The ladder to success is unfortunately lonely. Luckily these peo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 03:19 AM
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Why are you still with someone who seems to be completely unresponsive about marriage and family when it sounds like that's something you want? Who cares about his credentials or monetary value when he doesn't sound like he wants a wife or a family? Stop wasting your youth and find someone else who wants those things.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 01:31 AM
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Lol no I just saw interesting posts this morning about different situations and the people posting didn't think they were in the wrong 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 03:51 PM
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These are hypocriticals, I didn't make these choices lol.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 03:49 PM
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It's already upsetting enough to be hired and wondering if you only got hired to fulfill some sort of "gender" or "diversity" quota. It's worse than getting a participation trophy. Now they're building a social network around it? Speechless.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/19 10:57 PM
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Can confirm. Am INTJ. Lol. Heavy judgement and keeping in line with rules is my forte.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 10:47 PM
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I've found seriouseats to be extremely reliable.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 10:42 PM
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Sounds like you are more afraid of him than into him. Too much pressure on you? You're 23 and in college. There's plenty of men around who will be willing to wait until you're ready. Who cares if they think you're prudish. You're uncomfortable with it and if he cannot honor that, which it sounds like he doesn't, then how are you supposed to trust and respect him? He doesn't care about your well-being, Wait till you find someone that makes you feel like you have to restrain yourself because he ma…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 08:49 PM
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This subreddit isn't about being passive. I know many people associate submissive with passive, but that's not what's at play in the theory in this subreddit. Submission is a behavioral strategy that is promoted as a relationship dynamic, we don't promote being doormats, but rather, we try to approach the modern relationship in a way that taps more or less into the historical roles men and women have served. We use the term "Captain and First Mate" as an analogy, where the man takes the helm and…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 06:37 PM
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Is your n-count above his, OP? There's something dangerous about his lack of experience at this age when coupled with the ED and DGS. The more sexual experience a man has, the more of a grounding he has about what is sexually normal in real life, and what is not. This guy's only reference is you, and the porn, and trust me, the porn is more fun. He can find a girl willing to do unspeakable things in porn that no actual girl in a relationship would ever do. If he's not mature enough to handle thi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 02:13 PM
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He absolutely holds the key to how that conversation will go down. Don't forget, women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 01:07 AM
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He seems to have a plan. Let him get comfortable with being a provider again. 6 months of unemployment is a huge hit on a man's ego. Dive head first into his desire for you to clean up your finances. Let him steer the ship. If he doesn't mention marriage in the next few months, wait for the topic to come up organically and discuss the idea of hypothetically being married one day and feel the reaction out. In the meantime, find something to distract you from how itchy your ring finger is, like a …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 11:20 PM
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I'm also divorced, close to the wall, and took the pill less than a year ago. I probably hold less resentment over my ex husband's head now that I realize he could not, and would not ever be able to lead from a TRP/RPW perspective. No judgement on that here. My only complaint is the complaining. You might not interpret it as complaining but I see complaints about society, expectations, not seeing kids enough, etc. These complaints are also nothing new. It's unfortunate that feminism has created …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 05:14 PM
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I'm sorry, can I ask what this has to do with this subreddit? You've never posted here before and this post is almost entirely complaining. Your post history says you're divorced, so in a way, you signed up for raising children while supporting yourself in a co-parenting relationship. Yes, sure, it's hard. We all are pretty aware of that here. This place isn't a place to complain, it's a place to learn and grow. Are you looking for tips or something?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 04:40 PM
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Seconding this. I feel like there's more of a concern with a man who is inexperienced than someone who is experienced. I've noticed that men, especially older men, with very little experience tend to base their sexual reality in porn instead of basing it in, well, reality. They want weirder things and think weirder things are completely normal because they've spent their time watching instead of experiencing. Speaking from experience on this one! I also feel like a man with a lower n-count would…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 01:29 AM
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I feel you on that. It can be frustrating. There's unfortunately a lot of manhating in society right now. Sure, we technically don't need men anymore, but boy do I sure love having one around!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 07:45 PM
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See? You've got this! Our men want to provide and right now he probably feels uncomfortable shelling out $$$ for a ring while you're supporting him. In a roundabout way, if I put myself in his shoes, I would feel like I failed at being a provider because I don't have my priorities straight; buying something non-essential like a ring when I can't put a roof over her head. I wouldn't be able to face her family and ask their permission like that. You said he's graduating in a few months right? I th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 02:36 PM
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Many men feel they can't appropriately provide while still in college and this could be part of what's driving him to want to wait. You are currently supporting him and that's not the position he seems to want to be entering a marriage in. Not sure about what your plan a wedding, but planning those can be very strenuous especially when mixing two families together. You mentioned finances as well; he might be saving up for the ring and planning to ask you in a special way. He's made his intention…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:12 AM
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Sorry if this is harsh in advance, but yikes. You made an ultimatum? He realized you're his best option? You don't want to make another ultimatum? Yikes, yikes, yikes. Don't you want to be with someone who is so inspired by your love, respect, and admiration that You are their #1 and they don't care about anyone else, so much that they *give** you their commitment to marriage without you negotiating for it with something as awful as an ultimatum?* You lost so much trust and faith in this man tha…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 12:11 AM
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You can do great things that help people all over business, or you can use your business skills to help nonprofits. You could also work for a company that helps people. Business is a degree with highly sought-after and very transferrable skills. You could do admin work in a hospital or even data analysis for scientists working on cures for things, you could crunch numbers for small non-profits in the area, or you can even join a consulting company and help people with their businesses. Another t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 11:52 PM
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This is not a RPW thing. This is a cultural thing. It's not considered unheard of for a man to marry a woman 20 years younger in Asia, and I'd argue that most Asian cultures are very open about the wall and warning their daughters not to become an unwifeable "leftover woman." This, however, is next level rude, regardless of culture. Is your boyfriend standing up for you? That's culturally his responsibility in these situations. At the very least he could throw a couple silly comments back to dif…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 02:11 PM
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If you really asked him to stop and he didn't, then you should have taken this up with your boss under sexual harrassement, but you told us in your OP that you reciprocated. So did you deny his interactions or did you reciprocate? Because you're doing a great job of contradicting yourself. Sounds like you reciprocated and things got to a spice level and you realized the gravity of the situation you put yourself in. Not really much you can do now, I'd half expect your partner to turn into a "nice…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:43 PM
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This podcast is awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:16 PM
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Not sure hiding this is going to help anything. The truth comes out sooner than later in these situations. Better to rip off the band-aid now imo. She may have ruined her relationship, but it's too late for that now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 07:57 PM
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I don't see how anything they said was insulting.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 07:55 PM
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I'm sorry. You are speaking to your best interest right now, which is self protection. Women lie and tell the rosy side of things. We blame others for our actions. We lie to ourselves. We live in the truth that we want to live in at this very moment. I know this because I am one. It's really hard to be truthful. It's really hard to take responsibility for your actions. Whether you like it or not, you're going to have to do it sooner or later. You got yourself into a mess, now you're in RPW tryin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 07:39 PM
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A. Don't shit where you eat B. Why are you flirting with a married man C. WTF you are engaged D. Why are you rocking the boat at work Do you want to end up jobless/demoted, single, and possibly called a homewrecker? Because your actions are taking you that direction. Stop all of this...... The worst thing you did was to cause drama. You should have just stopped responding to non-work assignment related texts outside of business hours and withdrew from any activities that were flirtatious involvi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 06:56 PM
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I feel like it could be a two way street: if a red pilled man found a woman who valued him so much that she found it natural to submit, then she submits. If a woman makes it easier for her man to lead and he is a natural leader with soft alpha qualities, he will naturally lead. Whether they are "redpilled" is kind of besides the point. Lots of people don't follow TRP or RPW and have successful captain-first mate dynamics.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 02:36 PM
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The only reason she should be having sex with you without a condom is because she got nexplanon at your request. If she's pushing for it, it's time to demote her. There's something weird going on here.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 02:10 AM
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So maybe I should clarify; my outcome isn't typical of these types of situations. I initiated the talk once; then I never brought it up ever again. I came here, ended up deep in TRP theory, and I realized very quickly that if I respected and valued this man, one wrong move and he's out the door, so I needed to get in line. No lying, no matter how much the truth hurts. No games, even though I don't play them anyway, and no initiating the talk, asking the talk-like questions, or provoking him into…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 02:09 PM
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Nope! Don't really care, not really my thing. I'd rather watch makeup tutorials on YouTube.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:28 AM
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Isn't it funny how naturally you fall in line like that. Same thing happened to me! 11/10 worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:26 AM
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Clearly I haven't. Or. Maybe I don't subscribe to the parody that the incel community is obsessed with.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:21 AM
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How dare I!
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:18 AM
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I'm shocked this thread wasn't taken down as well, but here we are, down voted at the bottom.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 04:46 AM
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Objectively attractive men, stoic in behavior and a natural leader in social settings.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 01:52 AM
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I go for Chads. 💁
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:45 PM
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RPW is in the TRP network. This assumes that we at least acknowledge each other. I believe most of the stuff from TRP... Why do I get the feeling you're insinuating that's a bad thing? Edit: Maybe some of us like chads.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:34 PM
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I don't know what you're talking about and this post makes me feel like you might be misconstruing a lot of things. I don't see many posts here about women being left because they're old....
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:32 PM
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YMMV but, you seem like a numbers person. Out of all the dates I was on before I met him, only 14% made it to the second date and only 8% made it to a third date. Only 3% were candidates for an LTR. Sucks and it's exhausting, but it was worth it to end up with this man!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:38 PM
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Yes actually! Had many dates with many very nice but also very desperate men. Had some saying some inappropriate things to be saying on a first date, like talking about our future together--- wait I've known him for 20 minutes? Just a little too fast there buddy! I'm actually shocked how easy dating has been despite being close to the wall. I have a body deformity and was worried nobody would want me. I instead had the opposite problem! For whatever reason, they all say girls like me are special…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:18 PM
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Neither did I with mine! Dear lord that would have been a nightmare! High five!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 09:58 PM
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From one divorcé to another, unless you share a child, cut ties. Otherwise that's just plain weird.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 09:56 PM
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The friends with the ex thing might be a problem. It makes high value men feel like they're not #1, and they will often next. There's usually some reason why one of you is keeping the other around and 9/10 times that reason is not good. Ever heard of the saying that men and women can't be friends? No offense but I don't blame him for his reservations based on that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 09:51 PM
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I know that feeling. It's like they love the idea of you and for whatever reason, they think you're different but it feels like they treat every other girl like they're different too. Like it's not something that feels geniune? Tell me if I'm on the right track. This sounds like a few things, but my first impulse says that you're going on dates with men below your smv and they know it? Either that or you're getting dates from the wrong places. There's also the possibility that your abundance is …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 09:24 PM
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Break up. Not because of cheating-- that's probably going to happen by the way, but honestly you are both young and this is a once in a lifetime experience for people. I've seen people study abroad while in a relationship, it dampens the experience when one partner is there and the other is not. It will dampen your summer as well. She's out exploring the world and you're..... Home. Break it off. Get some plates. Accept that she's probably going to sleep around abroad. Men do it too. If she comes…
/r/askTRP18/02/19 02:13 PM
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I think you might have made the assumption that I didn't make a distinction between a man spinning plates and a man open to an LTR. Perhaps I didn't separate the plate spinning man from the LTR man well enough but I promise it's there! I'll fix it for you so it's easier to see.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 05:02 AM
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No. This is not classic red pill behavior. This is using red pill tactics to excuse abusive behavior and unfortunately TRP can be used by abusers to manipulate others with it. TRP sidebar doesn't condone this type of abuse, no matter how much anger phase comes in through the posts. Someone who is TRP who is into spinning plates and is truly an alpha type won't care enough about going through the amount of manipulative behavior needed to triangulate females against eat other in order to keep them…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 01:47 AM
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Are you kidding me? Narcissists by definition abuse everyone around them.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 01:36 AM
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This subreddit doesn't condone discord servers due to doxxing concerns.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 07:14 PM
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TRP attracts good men looking for self-improvement. Unfortunately it also attracts unsavory characters and men who are not captains. Narcs, I swear, are at the top of the list. Honestly, from a narcissistic abuse survivor to another, get out. Discard him before he discards you and block the ever loving crap out of him. Bar him from your life. It will suck. It will be lonely, and it will hurt. Change your life around to avoid run-ins and cut out mutual friends. You won't want to lose friends in t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 04:05 PM
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I'm very curious, I've avoided the types of leading questions mentioned here with my boyfriend up to this point because the specific openings to these questions make me feel as though I'm questioning his judgement. I usually opt for more direct options like "What do you think about....." Does anyone have any feedback for me on this? I will have to also admit, I haven't been reading the book, although I've purchased it and it's in my kindle. (Life comes at you fast!) I love the section of your wr…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 03:37 PM
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With him, I could have had the worst day ever, and the only thing in the world that brings me back to earth and feeling calm and centered is his presence.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 04:10 AM
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I think this rule applies to both men and women, regardless of which party is dating older. Although a 30 year old woman getting a 22 year old man to commit and buckle down is definitely a rare occurrence, but I wouldn't bat much of an eyelash if it were the reverse.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 06:13 PM
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I think it works too. An 18 year old and a 22 year old are college age. When I hear about a 30 year old man and an 18 year old girl it just rubs me the wrong way. A 22 year old and a 30 year old, I'd also feel is a bit strange, but I think it could potentially work if both parties are if a certain emotional maturity. A 30 year old and a 46 year old, however, although strange, I think both parties are of an age where they're less likely to be manipulated by the other.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:25 PM
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I thought this was just a guideline for what age woman at the youngest is socially acceptable to date.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 02:44 PM
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As someone who has a body deformity, I get it. I'm totally ridiculously self conscious about it too. I don't know if anything will help. This is outside of my realm of knowledge, but maybe there's a couple things you might be able to do, though as I said earlier, this might be therapy worthy. You don't need to answer these questions below, I'm literally just throwing whatever I can think of out below as ideas. Maybe some might help! Maybe you've tried some. Maybe some are dumb. At this rate I fe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:20 PM
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I agree with Kara EL, this might be a therapy situation, but why have you been hiding your body from him? Do you feel anxious about the stretch marks and maybe he's sensing that apprehension? By seeing you naked, do you mean completely naked? Because it sounds like you are insinuating he hasn't even seen you in any sort of underwear. I know sometimes men see their wives become mothers and they have difficulty detaching you as a mom from you as a wife and I think that this is your general feeling…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 09:43 PM
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I saw your other comments after I made this one and my heart hurts for you. I'm sorry this is happening. Hopefully some great people can chime in. I wish I could think of something to help!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:39 PM
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This is very true!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:09 PM
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Maybe something more straightforward even? Like "I miss your #$@$##$#!"
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 07:56 PM
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I was trying to keep it short 😂
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 06:50 PM
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Excuse me, I'm a unicorn here to prove that NA(INTJ)ALT. /s
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 06:49 PM
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What are you talking about
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 06:47 PM
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How do you know me so well?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:34 PM
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They are American investment accounts for retirement. A Roth IRA has a really good reputation but it has income limits. You can withdraw your contributions from a Roth better than a traditional IRA. Also, a Roth is better if you expect to be in a higher tax bracket than your current one at the age of retirement. If you expect to be in the same or lower tax bracket, then traditional is better, but it's harder to withdraw early in the event that you need to dip into those funds. Also, if you have …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:22 PM
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We're weird and rigid but we're fun!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:14 PM
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I have a savings account and once bought a week's worth of groceries for 1 in under $25 and was able to tell him the difference between a Roth and a traditional IRA. Not much but off the top of my head that's what I got!!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:59 PM
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No wonder I love your posts. INTJ here!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:55 PM
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Still vetting and still in the beginnings, but but I realized he was something special when all my desires to be with him came from an altruistic place.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 11:34 PM
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Oh man you must need a trough to feed them!!!! I definitely think Boots might work better for multiple dogs rather than one or two.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 07:43 PM
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I know it's always an ordeal, but I keep a garbage can with a towel in it when I let the dog out and I spent 6 months training him to come in and instantly sit down and wait for me to wipe him off. My carpet is thanking me! He just can't handle anything on his paws!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 07:38 PM
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Apparently that the sentiment here? There's been some..... interesting? posts here the past couple of weeks, between this and the plate spinning one I'm confused.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 04:23 PM
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This. Women compete for men. Beta providers compete for women.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 05:27 PM
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I don't mean to be a brat but this is basic red pill knowledge. It's on the sidebar here and it's on the TRP sidebar too. There's nothing wrong with going on several one-off dates with several men without having sex with them. Circular dating is the act of keeping a group of men in a rotation. Have you seen a girl with a rotation of several guys all trying to get her? She's never interested in any of them. The one she's interested in isn't interested in her, because he's not interested in playin…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 05:14 PM
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Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 02:38 PM
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Agreed. This will attract men, but it won't attract men that are marriage material.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 02:27 AM
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If women were the prize, then Barbara Bush didn't win the rat race of her time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 10:34 PM
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The majority are not. The way I've interpreted it is that a man should spin plates, develop abundance mentality, and not give his commitment freely unless he has met a woman that he can't help it with. The idea is to not give your commitment to the first girl who opens her legs for you, but give it to the one who is so interesting to you out of the sea of others that you quit looking at anyone else. Like Ryan Gossling and Emma Stone in Crazy Stupid Love. He's somewhat of a playboy and ultimately…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 10:18 PM
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Your man and my man would get along. We should definitely be friends. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:26 PM
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We're the only ones apparently. You and me against the world! (Always enjoy reading your comments actually!)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:20 PM
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I've cancelled dates five minutes in because I can just tell. I'll pay for my drink, don't worry! Cest la vie!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:14 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3sa8fl/plates_pushing_you_on_ltr_with_dread_games
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:09 PM
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I don't think it's very feminine to engage in behavior that promotes having a harem of men following you around trying to be the one to get the prize. I guess we just have to agree to disagree. I think this whole circular dating thing is poor form. That's it. You're free to have your opinion. It's the internet after all, and I'm not going to change your mind. You're not going to change mine either.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:09 PM
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Good quality men shouldn't be needing to compete because other women tend to be vying for them, not the other way around.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:57 PM
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I think stopping by for a glass of lemonade is a little different than going to coffee and then making it no secret that you're going to dinner with another guy and both men being aware of that. It just encourages covert contract nice guy type behavior and makes men think "Oh if I do this then maybe I'll beat out all the other men" and a good quality man with abundance mentality will go "not worth my time for this crap" and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:53 PM
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Isn't this essentially plate spinning without the sex aspect and taking advantage of dread game? TRP advises to steer clear of women who do this unless she's to be a plate and nothing else.... Not that women want to necessarily find a TRP guy, many of those men are only interested in spinning plates.... But if I was actively doing this with my captain in the beginning, he made it very clear that he would have dropped me. I was always under the impression that dread game is supposed to make a man…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:26 PM
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It's worth adding on about credit management too. I remember one of the first things my captain did was start comparing credit cards when we went dutch on a date. He bragged his credit card lets him check his credit score at any time, and so does mine, so I bragged back. When we turned our phones around and he saw that I have a credit score in the upper 700's, that was a big green flag to him. No man wants to deal with the repercussions of going in on a mortgage with a spouse with sub-prime cred…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:43 PM
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He can't handle being home without you? That's troubling. Anecdotally, I can tell you this: when someone has a destructive relationship with a parent who has substance abuse issues, the children often end up one of two ways: straight edge kids who don't do anything and prefer being sober, or become substance abusers themselves. He's openly established to you that when he's depressed, he turns to drugs and alcohol. He's also established that he has abused substances in the past. Now he's making y…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 01:43 PM
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If you think that RPW is about manipulating men into relationships, I feel really bad that you feel that way. Maybe that's your intent. Definitely not mine. I clearly stated my intent in the comment you're responding to and not once did I mention tomato sauce.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 02:17 PM
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Thanks for putting that so eloquently. I couldn't figure out what irked me so much about the coughing example and now I totally do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 03:25 AM
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I am going to argue that it's not, because the intentions are different. In the example of the pizza post above, you are obfuscating the fact that you want him to get you sauce by dressing it up as doing him a favor when in actuality, you're trying to get him to do you a favor. In the example I put out, I'm asking whether he's even interested in the first place. My intent is to see if he's interested in pizza at all, because I am, and that sounds good to me, but if it doesn't sound good to him t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 02:45 AM
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Honestly I don't see the merit in thinking this way, and attaching the word manipulative to it makes it sound so much worse. Even if you've managed to detach negative connotations from it, most people have not. When people are described as manipulative, that is a bad thing, and I don't see that changing. Another thing is that this is creating a problem and solving the problem entirely on your behalf and if you train yourself to communicate in this way, it can be problematic in red pill type rela…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 01:48 AM
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There's a reason why being manipulative is considered a bad thing. If you want pizza sauce, just say you want pizza sauce but there's none in the pantry. If he's coughing loud, he probably can't control it. A simple "Dang! Someone needs some hot tea and a cough drop!" In the moment brings enough attention without all that nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 01:38 AM
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Either that or agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 01:30 AM
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Next her.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 12:49 AM
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How did you know that I shit rainbows? 😂😂😂 Just little ol me over here, a unicorn trying to prove NAWALT (Just kidding, AWALT)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:53 PM
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That's a fair argument. Knowledge is always power.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:30 PM
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What if his farts don't stink and he doesn't have morning breath or messy hair ever 👀
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 04:37 AM
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I don't think you're using the term "frame" right. Nevertheless, don't shit where you eat. Assume he is being professional in the workplace and thinks of you as a colleague. Also a sidenote: RPW is for relationships, specifically romantic ones. This stuff isn't very effective in office politics.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:37 AM
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So....everything you're saying makes a ton of sense and sounds like it would work. But it's not an argument to those comics, because what they point out is that the husband isn't even thinking of all the work that needs to be done. He's not thinking about anything that needs to be done in my example either. The problem is that women, especially in the comic assume he notices everything that needs to be done, and get mad when they tell him one of the million little things that need to be done and…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 05:01 PM
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I love this idea of a prenup being required for a marriage license! It would unfortunately result in a few attorneys having to reorganize their careers.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:49 AM
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I definitely threw some ideas out there just as a conversation starter, but I think there would be a huge difference between someone who was college educated and leaving a really successful career and someone who has a GED and left a job at Target.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:46 AM
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You're right. Men are visual, and I'm sure the majority would rather pounce on a woman who is naked with a BMI of 20 than a naked woman with a BMI of 30, and if you put a woman with a BMI of 30 next to one with 32, they're still going to go for the girl who has a BMI of 20. You can dress as nicely as you like, but there's a reason that images of thin women are plastered all over all the advertisements you see on a daily basis and there's a reason why the majority of porn features attractive nake…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 09:08 PM
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She's a cancer survivor too!!!!! I don't know anything about the strong curves program but there's some amazing curvy girls who started scrawny and started weight lifting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 08:06 PM
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I don't think anyone wants to consider marriage with the intention of ending it, but I think a prenup is a guarantee that if worst comes to worst, it's not going to devolve into a petty nightmare that takes years to deal with and 6 figures in lawyer fees to dissolve. I feel like having these sorts of conversations while you love and care for each other and discuss what would be grounds for things ending (Dead bedroom? Infidelity? Running up 400k in credit card debt? Gain 300 lbs?) would make thi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 08:00 PM
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Whether or not your clothes fit has nothing to do with how attractive your husband finds you naked.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 07:23 PM
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Perhaps the verbage should be "one partner is unemployed or underemployed and depends on the other partner" instead of the typical gender roles. I forgot about that!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 06:24 PM
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Cheers to you for owning your stuff. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 06:18 PM
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Let's start one! I'll make a post.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:50 PM
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Is it worth it to you? It sounds like that's not the case. Anecdotally, many women will do this and pick a "safe" nice guy who they think would be more loyal to her than Chad. They don't think they have what it takes to get Chad's commitment, and when I see a lot of these women, they are not wrong. They secure the nice guy, pop out kids, stop having sex, and let themselves go. I don't think most women are aware of what they're doing when they do this. I think that the vast majority of the women …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:49 PM
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I'm sorry, how is spinning plates and maintaining abundance mentality narcissistic? Just because you chose a different path doesn't make you better than a plate spinner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:37 PM
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If she can fake it forever then that's impressive, and she must be miserable. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:33 PM
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You can't hide your real self that long. Most people who wear a mask will have cracks in their facade before year one is over. The trick is to not have oneitis set in so bad that you overlook it. RPW attracts all types of women. Just like in TRP, there's bound to be a few bad eggs and some kids who skip class and think they can still skirt by. If you want an LTR/Marriage, just know that you are going to be using TRP on hard mode. You have to maintain frame differently. Dread game becomes differe…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:32 PM
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I noticed this with baseball wives too!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 04:41 PM
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In your example, a woman of African American decent is considered obese at a BMI of 32. That's really not that big of a difference, and I'm sure having a BMI of 30 isn't going to significantly change her or anyone's SMV, regardless of ethnicity unless she went from 40 to 30 and is still working on it. Don't encourage more disinformation.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 04:35 PM
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she went from waif thin to bodacious and she lifts weights. weights don't make you bulky. 3 hours of weight lifting every day, 3,000 calories, and steroids make you bulky.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 04:12 PM
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Have you done bulk and cut? I don't think I have the discipline to cut. I get so hungry! I'm having good results with HIIT strength training so I've been sticking with that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 04:09 PM
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This is true. BMI of 30 is different between a body builder and an overweight person. I guess I'm short sighted because I've always lingered around 20-25.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:26 PM
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I want to point out that that BMI calculator doesn't account for body fat %. I don't know what mine is, but I've gone from a size 8 to a size 4 and I weighed about the same, because muscle weighs more than fat, all while my BMI didn't change. my BMI has never been close to 30 though, so YMMV I also think there's merit in saying that nobody is a special snowflake. If there's a will, there's a way. There are communities for people losing weight with just about any health condition and many of the …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:10 PM
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I think it rings pretty true. It took me walking away from a marriage for my ex to realize he wanted me and start trying to work on things. Sadly for him, it was too late. I didn't know the words for it back then, but I had felt hypergamy settling in (which I never acted on) and I knew I needed to get out before I did something awful, so I filed papers and made my exit. I was out of trust, and I was completely out of respect. He told me he was swallowing the pill when I was on the way out the do…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 12:03 AM
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I don't think so? You're preaching the exact opposite approach of what this post is about, which is not being a micromanaging nag of a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 06:41 PM
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Oi, thanks! I promise I won't spend them all in one place!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 05:01 PM
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I feel like the mental load is real and I don't think it's new. Women have shouldered a lot of pressure to handle home economics, a career, parenting, and being a wife, and we rarely talk about how to balance it. Sure, feminism has brought this on ourselves. I also feel like using it as an excuse to put men down is awful. We as women are emotional and neurotic and prone to hamstering over everything. It comes with upsides and downsides. How we as women manage this is up to us, and you're absolut…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 04:29 PM
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I think you're right. We don't live together, we just play sleepover at each other's homes all the time. We are also constantly agreeing and amplifing and lay the pet talk on thick behind closed doors, so it's not out of place for me to go "You're my hero!!!!!" And jump on him with a huge kiss later in the evening after all the work has been done. We don't have expectations either, so far, helping each other when we can has worked for us. While not everyone does this, I'm sure that finding a way…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 04:09 PM
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To you, maybe it feels like praising a two year old. For me, it feels like expressing gratitude in the way of child-like affection towards him because he came around and saved the day, which is something that I have read about in some of the rpw books. To me, he's my hero in more ways than one, and I will gladly take advantage of any opportunity to express that to him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 03:58 PM
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Sorry, last I checked, neither my boyfriend nor myself were capable of mind reading, and for apparently everyone sharing this comic and saying how true it is, there seems to be a whole lot of people on my FB who have husbands who "aren't capable of doing the bare minimum of acting a mature adult." The vetting stage never ends, and I feel fortunate to have a significant other who is willing to contribute to the household even though I generally insist on shouldering the burden for him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 03:28 PM
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Yes! Bring him the big picture instead of one of the million tiny things! That's adorable that he read this and thought of you! Sounds like you have been able to figure this one out as well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 03:09 PM
0

Why don't you trust your partner to have a female roommate?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 12:12 PM
6

I wonder if telling him you want to cook but it's hard to with the dishes from last night in the sink will help! I think a lot of guys would be more helpful but have been trained by their wives that when they help they will do it wrong. So why bother if you're just going to disappoint her anyway? I think this is absolutely a mentality that some husbands tend to take on over time. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, why do anything at all right? This is why it's so important to express gratitu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:38 AM
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I feel like women tend to think about 500 things at the same time and men are more capable of acute focus on one thing. Both have their strengths, both have their weaknesses. I don't think I could ever make the argument that men don't care enough about a tidy space to make the effort to make it happen, because all men are different, but you are absolutely right that when my boyfriend has seen me distressed while managing chores, he makes me feel cared about when he asks me what's wrong!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:30 AM
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Women need to learn to be better at delegating. Sorry, my argument is quite the opposite. We need to create a space to allow our men to delegate and feel empowered in the home. He literally doesn't know how to help and needs to be taught. It has taken 3 years, but slowly he is being trained. This is the mentality we are trying to avoid.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:02 AM
1

For some reason I get the feeling that we're getting the rose colored glasses version of things and we're all missing something. I think that your self improvement routine sounds good, but I'm not sure if he's actually hoping you'll move out to be with him. It might be time for nun mode my friend, move forward and don't look back.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 07:45 PM
2

I think this is more up to you. I know a couple of traveling nurse couples and they're always going everywhere, they have diverse and non-stagnant career experiences, and they seem well traveled and content with their choices. Nursing can be competitive to get into but at the same time, there are a lot of avenues to go down. You may be limited with salary potential but there will always be a job for you. If this is your dream, I say go for it!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:50 AM
2

Why do they think it's a bad idea?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:01 AM
9

Do you have any YouTube channels you recommend?
/r/TheRedPill25/01/19 04:32 PM
3

You got this 💪
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:56 PM
9

STFU. No but really.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 03:33 PM
8

I'm so glad it all worked out! I was wondering about you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 10:40 PM
14

Whereas you've been trying to make it work, it's been a tumultuous relationship and he's probably been contemplating ending it for a long time. Now that it's over, he's moving on. It just ended for you, but it probably ended for him a while ago. At least he has the decency to wait until it's over to see other people. Take a lesson from Sodom and Gomorrah, my friend, move on and don't look back.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 11:21 PM
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I'm going to err on the side of the best case scenario that her boyfriend doesn't quite realize that he asked so much of her. Some men, especially those who don't have much kitchen experience, don't really realize how much work this stuff takes sometimes!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 03:33 PM
1

Also consider going to cash & carry!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 02:37 AM
1

I think the most I've served alone was 10 and I was absolutely on the verge of pulling my hair out!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 01:27 AM
19

Judging by the previous post you wrote here and this one, I honestly don't think that he thinks of you as this long term fixture in his life the way you think you are. Based on this information and information you've shared in the past, these could be signs that he's not interested in being your captain and it might be time to get off his ship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/19 09:52 PM
5

Unless you have the resources to hire help, I highly recommend it!!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/19 08:56 PM
31

Disposable is absolutely the way to go. I can't help you much with portions but from catering experience I have a guideline below that is general rule of thumb from my old work. I think you're pretty much good with the menu choice. Slow cooking the meat will save you a lot of stress. Standard menus are a salad, two entree's and two sides. Generally you can estimate 6oz of meat per person, 1.5 oz starch per person, 5 oz of potatoes per person, 2 oz of veggies per person, and 1 roll per person. Al…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/19 08:24 PM
2

I listened to this recently and it's amazing! I also want to plug Femsplainers, which is a podcast he had featured on his own which is imo a very RPW perspective on feminism and modern society.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 06:00 PM
3

Okay. Honestly. If his pleasure in his sex life with you is more important than your pleasure, then you do not have a sex life together. I'm so, so, so sorry. This is not a loving relationship. This is abuse. He also is an alcoholic. This is another mountain of (documented?) potential abuse. Sure, you made your bed. Sure, you are laying in it. This is also a day and age where you have the luxury of finding a new bed to make and lay in. I get that you do not want to raise your children in a broke…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 01:07 AM
3

It's a thing. It's why r/niceguys exists.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 11:05 PM
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I feel like I can relate to your post with a lot of what happened in my failed marriage with my ex. I had achieved a ton of career success and his was stagnant. I think the major difference here is that your husband is going through a difficult work situation and seems to be trying to fight through it, whereas mine had a complete lack of ambition and grew resentful of me. When we as women go through difficult times, generally we need to find someone to be vulnerable to so we can sort through our…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 09:57 PM
2

Not to be crude you mentioned going to DnD meet ups for dating, but want someone conservative. Maybe change to something that's not DnD meet ups. There's nothing wrong with DnD but many of the types of men who end up in those circles usually aren't going to approach you even if they are interested. Also, anecdotally, that's an easy way to end up with a ton of liberally minded beta orbiter types, which could deter a high quality potential mate. Again. Not saying that all men who like DnD are like…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 09:25 PM
7

List wasn't exhaustive!!! Have fun with it :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 02:37 AM
1

Personally it's a deal breaker for me!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 02:31 AM
11

I don't think of this as tricks. This is making a fun time out of sex. There's super lovey dovey sex. There's aggressive I'm-still-mad-at-you sex. There's slam me against the wall and and rip my clothes off sex. There's quickie sex. There's Im-tired-but-I-want-to-get-off-so-let's-lazily-play sex. There's "give it to me daddy!" sex. There's "let's pretend we don't know each other and hit on each other at the bar" sex. There's silly sex. There's bdsm sex. There's extremely passionate love-making s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 02:23 AM
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GIRL. How. Do. You. Even. Sex is a huge part of bonding. I'm so sorry you've spent so much time not enjoying the things you need sexually. It's no wonder people are bringing up divorce. Fair warning: NSFW below. I tried to keep the dirt level low. Okay that's besides the point. I'm getting the feeling that you, dear, have been so frustrated for the longest time and you either haven't spoken up or you've allowed him to be clueless for far too long. Or maybe, you two have allowed yourselves to fal…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 12:58 AM
3

Honestly, I get a lot of mileage out of target underoos. They've always got cute sets with fun matching patterns and lace and they're so inexpensive I don't mind wearing them every day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 02:48 AM
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You cannot have your cake and eat it too. You need to make things clear. "I don't feel comfortable making such big life changes without a serious commitment on the horizon" Or "It's already a big life change that I'm moving across the country and I do not feel comfortable entertaining the idea of buying a house with someone I am not married to." Make sure you get his full attention before you say it. Then STFU. Men need time to process these things. I'm talking days, maybe even a week. Establish…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 07:09 PM
1

Well of course but you know what I mean!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 07:08 AM
4

What about being a PA or an NP? Less schooling, still good pay, and you're at an authority level similar to an MD.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 10:33 PM
18

This isn't plastic surgery, it's reconstruction. I say go for it!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 10:30 PM
5

Oh wow. Block both of them on all channels and hold steady on that. If word comes back tell people you need time to lick your wounds. Sounds like this guy isn't the best fit for you anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 06:32 PM
2

Plate for looks and change the place you go to pick up chicks. Change out bars for cafes, special interest groups, or even church if you're religious. If you want LTR potential, you're less likely to find it at the club. Promote and demote plates accordingly.
/r/askMRP29/12/18 02:10 PM
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I know you're terrified of being alone, but I can promise you that being married to Mr. Wrong is far worse than ending up alone. Take your time and put yourself out there, in a good way of course! I'm sure a good man will come along.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 01:57 AM
3

It fucks with the dopamine cycles in your brain. Look up PIED. It's a thing. https://www.webmd.com/sex/news/20170512/study-sees-link-between-porn-and-sexual-dysfunction
/r/askTRP28/12/18 12:44 PM
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Sorry, I'm not very good at sugar coating..... Here is the thing though.... You've already turned him into a project by creating a problem (things you'd like to see change) and proposing a solution(introduce him to TRP). Especially because you're using it as rationale for exposing him to it. Girl, your hamster is going around and around. For me, I consider this fight club. I don't talk about fight club. Then again, my guy is RP and he doesn't talk about fight club either. I'm quite sure he's goi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 01:23 AM
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Why would you introduce a guy to TRP? So he can decide to ditch you to go through all the phases and decide to spin plates? Introducing him to TRP will probably backfire. We have different objectives than RP men. If you want an RP man, go find an RP man. Trust me, being around while a guy starts to swallow the pill is probably not a good idea. Stop wasting your time with this guy. Be aware that depending on the RP guy, you'll have to start from plate. Not fun. RPW heavily doesn't recommend this …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 01:00 AM
1

I feel like it's inappropriate to expect a proposal. That kind of thinking can set you up for disappointment, arguments, and disharmony. The idea behind RPW is to earn and inspire a man's commitment, which is not yours to demand. If you're doing this right, there's no need to worry about whether he will propose or not because he will make his intentions very clear about whether or not it is going in that direction. Have you tried reading "Getting to I Do?" I think this book might help you get th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/18 11:25 PM
1

It never ceases to shock me how many good quality men will overlook something like this. Think of it this way: they get to skip fights over who spends Christmas/Thanksgiving with who's family, no awkward dinners, and less names to remember.
/r/RedPillWives25/12/18 01:05 AM
1

Completely unrelated but oh my gosh your nails are #goals.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 02:43 PM
1

Adding on, You don't need to fork out $$$ for wustoff knives but a good knife set will get you places. Huge fan of [this one](Cuisinart C77SS-15PK 15-Piece Stainless Steel Hollow Handle Block Set https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GIBKC3K/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_n0pgCbHDT1YDY) and it goes on sale often. A good thick plastic cutting board with ridges to catch juices. Pans are worth stressing over and spending a little more on - I have pans that I bought cheap that go unused because I play favorites once I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 02:03 PM
1

The answers to the questions about spices and such are all personal preference, so they'll be harder to answer. When I was first starting out I had a Rachel Ray cook book and a 5 ingredients cook book. Technology is going to make that much different now! Check out YouTube for cooking channels and watch for cuisines and YouTubers you like. Keep a Pinterest full of recipes to try out! I think a great and easy place to start is "one pan oven meals" and freezer meals. These are great for weekdays. O…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 02:51 AM
1

Jesus Christ. Can I ask what your income is? I can't even justify footing the bill for Botox and Restyline and I barely do half of any of the stuff on your list. My nails look like they I am a machine operator or something. I feel like I just can't afford it, and I can easily be considered "well off" with my income alone.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 05:41 PM
1

Yes, but a lot of us don't make that association. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 11:44 PM
1

I definitely think that "Stop nagging" should be a close #4
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:44 PM
1

Dating these days is rough. I've seen nice girls get burned so many times that they start riding the carousel, not because they want to, but because that's just what a lot of girls do now and staying emotionally distant keeps the wounds from being re-opened. When I was in the dating pool, it was pretty obvious that the same 100 girls were probably all swiping right on the same 100 guys and hoping they had a relationship shot at the few men with full inboxes. It's hard when so many different elem…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 11:09 AM
1

Pinterest! I keep them in my bullet journal and I want to eventually make a cook book on artifact rising for myself!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 09:45 PM
1

Hamster wheel spun out of control this week. I think I got it contained. I think.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 08:43 PM
1

I'm sorry that you feel so trapped and in this situation. Honestly you sound like me a year ago, stuck in a marriage that's toxic, nobody outside has a clue how bad it really is, miserable, feeling like crap about yourself... the comments he makes on your appearance don't help.... I had different circumstances; we had no children together and his family was even worse than he was, and when a huge medical issue came up, I realized he wasn't a captain and left. I found RPW, realized that relations…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 06:27 PM
1

The theory about women who want a relationship but can't find one is that they have low RMV. Post-wall, high N counts, kids, divorced, not willing to self improve, standards set too high, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 07:39 PM
1

RPW is about finding and keeping a quality relationship with a man. It doesn't believe in WGTOW so I'm afraid this isn't a place where you are going to find any women with positive opinions on it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 05:51 PM
1

I'm not accusing you of not trying. I'm divorced and out of a very long damaging relationship with a lot of the things that you're talking about as well, myself. And even though the porn did irk me, I didn't leave over that. I left because it had become physically abusive and my marriage counselor pulled me aside, told me my husband has a cluster B personality disorder, and they didn't want to continue therapy because he would ultimately end up using couples therapy as a way to control me, and i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 04:06 PM
1

I love this! I don't know about you, but often I've found that I'm happier making mine a meal and curling up next to him or giving him a scalp massage than the few times when I've had a bad day and he's cooked me a meal and given me a massage! Sometimes I feel the compulsion to rush home and get everything ready for him to come over. It's like my therapy or something! (The only exception is foot rubs, I will totally always be down for a foot rub!)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:22 PM
1

I'm going to make an observation that's completely unrelated to the rest of your post. In addition to the comments that u/teaandtalk made, a lot of what you are saying makes me feel like you haven't internalized the surrendered wife. Men have a need to look at women. They are visual creatures. You're never going to be able to stop him from looking at porn. That's his decision. If you have reacted negatively to him watching porn, then you made the forbidden fruit sweeter. In other words, it's pos…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:08 PM
1

What's the nature of your time spent together? How did you meet? What do you talk about when you aren't making plans to meet?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 02:49 PM
1

Because at her core she doesn't want it. She just wants vent. Women think out loud. You're just around so she doesn't look crazy talking to herself.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 07:06 PM
1

Unless she explicitly asks you for advice then don't offer anything. Advice is trying to solve her problem. Complaining is more of her fight or flight mechanism. She just wants someone to sympathize with her and nothing more. Is she a plate or what? If she's a plate, keep it sex related only. Even if she's not a plate, remember stoicism and kino. Find a way to bring her back into your frame. Grab her and distract her from her crap. You're her escape from the rest of the world.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 05:56 PM
1

Can we talk about scholarships? Apply for scholarships You only need to win a few. Scholarships handled about $45k of my undergrad, and I was a less than stellar candidate. Good Luck!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 06:41 AM
1

Really silly but grocery shopping and cooking a meal together is kinda fun, also farmers markets and such! Sometimes it's busy and combining errands with dates is a great way to go even if it isn't the most romantic. get stuff done then relax together!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 07:12 PM
1

So sorry to hear about your experience with hormonal BC. Have you tried going back to your doctor to see if a different combination of hormones will work for you? Maybe even a hormones specialist who can recommend something that won't throw your natural balance off! I remember it took me several months to find one that worked for me.... Orthotricyclin made me batshit like you described and the nuva ring made me have several months long periods..... I gained 20 lbs on the patch, I went to an estr…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 02:17 PM
1

This is alarming in many ways, especially from the TRP and RPW lenses. TRP teaches men not to give their commitment freely in order for them to not fall in love with the first woman they sleep with. Women don't find a man who becomes obsessed with women and falls in love with them quickly. This means that TRP men try to sleep with as many women as possible before giving their commitment so they can get the best mate. RPW teaches women to not give their sexual consent away freely because it reduc…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 11:00 AM
1

Why are you sad about giving her attention? What’s with this “let go and give her what she needs?” She should be competing for your attention. She’s pulling you into her frame and it sounds like she’s getting away with it. You give her everything she wants and she’s going to get bored. If you don’t give her enough, she’s going to hamster, comfort test, and eventually withdraw. Welcome to hard mode.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 05:35 PM
1

Bruh, you broke frame. It’s over.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 04:27 AM
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Don’t trust a girl who cheated with you unless you want to be cheated on. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Do not, repeat, do not upgrade this girl. The hypergamy is extra strong with this one.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 04:23 AM
8

Text only for logistics. Take a next. Live and learn.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 04:20 AM
2

Lol us Americans are always having to take the expense of education into account! Lucky you! I say go for it then! You can always date and be in school, none of us would ever get anything done if we couldn’t! I’ve noticed that they will mirror your behavior. If you state it as a thing you deal with as being your reality, then that’s that. If you’re nervous about it, they will be too.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 02:41 PM
7

The dad thing is genius. That’s a great option!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 01:24 PM
1

I have similar hereditary hang ups. It might be hard to find someone who is willing to adopt but they’re out there. Don’t internally devalue yourself over it. The right man, will be willing to compromise. As for the PhD, I’m a firm believer that following your path to pursue the accomplishments you want to achieve is a good idea, because if this is a path you really want to go down, you’re always going to look back and wonder “what if?” You don’t have to focus on only one thing, you’re in underg…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 01:17 PM
2

I just googled “CAH and weight loss” as well as “CAH and exercise” and a few blogs and articles popped up. I only looked at one. As for the IG accounts I looked up the CAH hashtag and clicked on the results that looked like people in workout clothes. There was a mom who was particularly inspiring IMO. :) I don’t know if sharing the IG accounts is okay in Reddit rules but when I’m not in the gym myself, I’ll edit this post with the blogs and websites I saw. Best of luck! (Stomach fat is the worst…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 05:08 AM
1

Go look on social media for yourself. I spent less than 3 minutes on Instagram and picked out 5 different accounts of people getting fit with CAH. There’s also entire websites dedicated to the subject. It is recommended by the medical field for people with CAH to exercise regularly and do HIIT-based activities instead of endurance-based activities for best results as well as consuming carbohydrates; more than adults without CAH, prior to exercise. I have my own issues. We all have our own issues…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 02:52 AM
3

I noticed this when I looked on IG for people with this condition! A lot do weight training and look like they have success!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 12:18 AM
1

I used to make excuses like this too— I blamed hormones, food allergies, food sensitivities, my ex, you name it I blamed it. Then I faced the threat of a real problem if I didn’t start changing my ways. It’s amazing how fast the weight comes off when you stop making excuses, find a reliable way to hold yourself accountable, and make it a priority. Change your Instagram feed to fitness based women with your medical condition - they’re out there. Participate in meal prep Sunday. Find a program tha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 09:08 PM
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When he has problems I trust he will work through them on his own. I focus on being a soft spot to land and not adding to those problems. I don’t ever act as a solution or offer a solution or advice unless he asks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 02:14 PM
11

My mother forced me to be investigative and open minded about everything. One example of many: I remember making a comment about a girl who moved into the neighborhood from a different religious background and a radically different culture as a little girl. They didn’t speak much English and wore funny clothes. She turned around and made me find bible verses about people who are different and being a neighborly person. Then she walked me to their house, introduced herself and me, said she didn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 11:17 PM
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Is he aware of what harvesting eggs does to women hormonally? Has he looked into that process? What’s driving this? I’m not your husband but for his income level this is a very hefty “investment” that I would feel more comfortable contributing to a child’s college fund. Is this money he has saved up for this purpose? What about retirement? I’m sorry im just skeptical. I would also be concerned about the ethics of going overseas. There are places like India where surrogate women are essentially s…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 03:59 PM
1

I was literally thinking about what might be driving his plans too! If she’s going to conceive naturally, they’re going to have a lot of trouble if she thinks of pregnancy as an excuse to “let herself go.”
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:55 PM
1

Does he have $50k-$80k laying around? Because I’m pretty sure that costs 50-80k per kid.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:07 PM
11

Because you cannot negotiate attraction. Most men are not attracted to overweight women.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:39 PM
4

Have you tried shifting your points of access? If you want to find someone you connect with on certain things, develop social hobbies around those certain things.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 11:48 PM
21

My opinion still stands, even with this new information. Don’t play games. If you’re thinking about getting off his ship, just get off his ship.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/18 07:40 PM
1

Don’t waste your time with shrew-like behavior. If he’s not a captain, just get off his ship.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/18 06:46 PM
1

Is this an LTR? Amp up your dread game, soft next her, and lift. She might throw a fit initially because it sounds like she’s been getting away with bad behavior for a while, but she should get back in line. If she doesn’t, drop her. If she’s anything other than an LTR of several years, drop her. GL.
/r/askTRP04/11/18 06:30 PM
2

If she’s not plate material then don’t fuck her.
/r/askTRP04/11/18 06:20 PM
5

Is this a joke? Drop your oneitis that you never had a turn with and move on. Don’t stick your dick in crazy. You obviously haven’t read the sidebar or the material because you’re asking us to help you stick your dick in crazy. I repeat. Don’t stick your dick in crazy edit: actually.... do it. Go stick your dick in crazy. Learn AWALT and come back when you’re ready for class.
/r/askTRP04/11/18 06:19 PM
3

serving Yes. You meet a ton of duds serving. I served and bartended my way through college and honestly I don’t associate with a single ex coworker from that time because, you guessed it, they’re still serving. Do you have a way to get into a brick and mortar class environment? I know that class is honestly daunting but it’s crucial for the last year of your degree. You build connections with colleagues this way, and those colleagues have been with you through projects and class, you have comrad…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 04:48 PM
1

If you meet a lot of people in a “loser state,” then you are hanging out with the wrong people. Your surroundings are just as like your Instagram feed: easily curated. If you’re always moving and everyone around you is staying constant, then it’s time for a change. Have you ever heard of the saying “If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room?” You’re in the wrong room. Find a new one, and find people who are also interested in personal growth.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:32 PM
1

RPW preaches vetting for a good quality man. This guy is 30 going on 17.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:12 PM
1

You can’t negotiate attraction, and you demonstrated to your LTR, twice, that you’re not as attracted to him as he might have thought. I think that being in the same living space as him has offered you a large supply of oxytocin and that’s blurring your judgment. If you are trying to be approaching this from the RPW perspective, you should be right to assume that you both need to break it off and move on. To be completely frank, I would expect a good quality man to know to walk away from not jus…
/r/RedPillWives03/11/18 04:41 PM
1

“I’m fucking you, right now.” Smack ass. “Right now? I’m fucking nobody. I was just fucking you.” “I’m fucking everyone, simultaneously, at the same time.” Then visit the sidebar.
/r/askTRP28/10/18 08:16 PM
3

You can’t negotiate attraction.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/18 08:13 PM
15

I’m just currently in anger phase Doesn’t excuse low-effort posts with a severe lack of critical thinking skills.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/18 08:05 PM
7

There’s also potential that OP has autism with a sperg post like this.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/18 06:24 PM
10

I’m willing to put money that she’s a woman who wasn’t taught social skills and suffers from some sort of social anxiety. This doesn’t read “I’m lying about my n count,” this reads “I think everything comes down to my looks and my self esteem suffers beyond what is normal for women.” She has nerdy habits that attract retirement age people and she lives in a small town. She probably wouldn’t even know what to do if a guy approached her, I doubt she’d even pick up that he’s interested unless he ex…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/18 03:51 PM
81

Calling you out. I read that post you’re talking about. She’s had sex with one man. How is that riding the carousel?
/r/TheRedPill28/10/18 02:47 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/askTRP27/10/18 08:56 PM
7

I’m calling bullshit. Most women who make it to their late 30s without having sex either grew up repressed, have developed ridiculous standards, or have something wrong with them. Either way, you’re probably not the first to try. Even if you did end up fucking her, you are going to have to do too much work to do so. She’s probably going to need too much attention from you if you try to plate her. Unless she’s LTR worthy, and by LTR worthy, she’s shown unwavering attraction to you and has shown t…
/r/askTRP15/10/18 12:23 PM
1

What’s her reason for being a virgin so long?
/r/askTRP15/10/18 12:02 PM
2

r/asktrp and read the sidebar please.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 07:10 PM
2

This. On so many levels. Plus, I’ve heard muscle eats fat when you’re not working out and cardio only really burns fat during cardio. Lifting weights is great for bone density which is important for ladies especially those of us at risk for osteoporosis. I’m a huge fan of stronglifts 5x5, bodybuilding.com’s free workout plans, or Kayla Itsines Sweat app! There’s also a huge community of ladies who lift on IG, many don’t venture beyond HIIT cardio, and they have killer bodies.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 08:30 PM
1

I have been an FWB with the keys to the guy’s house before.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:22 PM
3

Regardless, it’s over, and it’s not going to be recoverable. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:12 PM
1

Giving you his keys only means that he trusts that you’re not going to steal stuff or blow it up. Just because it’s symbolic to you doesn’t mean it’s symbolic to him. If you are assuming a level of commitment based on ownership of the keys, you just placed a covert contract on the man and set yourself up for failure. Unless a man, in a situation that you yourself didn’t manipulate, (IE, asking “What are we?”) explicitly says “You are my girlfriend and I want to pursue a committed relationship wi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 03:20 PM
3

If you take a look at my post history you’ll see that I’m not a gleaming “hold out sex” RPW example myself, but honestly the route I took wasn’t easy and I don’t recommend it. If you think sex is too cheap, then be prepared to understand that sex interacts chemically with your brain in a way that can cloud your judgement and be prepared to be able to think logically and back out when red flags present themselves. I don’t want to be hypercritical but from what you’ve said here, it sounds like you…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:00 PM
1

RPW doesn’t advise starting as plate. There are plates that end up in LTRs, but those are rare, and they are the exception to the rule, not the rule themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:11 PM
1

Standard TRP material.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:06 PM
1

I really really don’t understand how anything I listed is bad or ridiculous. I don’t feel comfortable spending my life with someone who eats out every day and clogs his arteries with fried food, doesn’t have a career track, didn’t go to college and didn’t get into a trade, runs up his credit card and can’t pay it, and uses drugs. I don’t need a doctor or a lawyer, I’m fine with an accountant who wants to be a controller one day, maybe doesn’t have a CPA yet but is taking a night class here and t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:37 PM
1

Oh gosh I have so many. Emotionally unstable, financially unsustainable lifestyle, keeping a filthy home, substance abuse, lack of ambition and goals, has ambitions and goals but doesn’t work towards them, doesn’t respect his body, doesn’t demonstrate a desire to have a family, clearly doesn’t want a relationship, lying..... I have more I swear.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:18 PM
1

He triggered your insecurities by being a flake after you signaled to him this is a sore spot to you. This is not inspiring your respect. You blew up at him and caused drama. This is disrespectful. It’s not necessarily your fault. Right now you’re addicted to the oxytocin dump he gives you. Flush him out of your system, find something to better yourself with, look at it as a learning experience, and move on. Even if you both ended up back together, you’ve had a tumultuous first 3 months when you…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:33 PM
1

I honestly think that his flaky behavior is the #1 red flag. People who flake on you do not inspire your respect, and that manifested itself in your blowing up on him. I’m the same way. I can’t respect someone who flakes on me constantly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:22 PM
1

This isn’t what you want to hear at all, but move on. He’s demoted you, and he didn’t seem that interested you in the first place. Next time, if someone keeps canceling and pushing off your meetings last minute, that’s a red flag. From the way you’re describing it it sounds like you were being soft nexted. After you caused the drama, he hard nexted/demoted you. Also, unless he explicitly says that he wants a committed relationship with you in a setting where you didn’t set up a commitment conver…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 02:33 PM
2

Thanks for the complement I absolutely appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 05:48 PM
1

Personally I shoot for half that I think? I’m not an expert!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 05:29 PM
27

If you’re lifting weights maybe pay more attention to your measurements than your weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. I look a lot skinnier at my weight but I weigh almost the same that I did before I started working out and dieting. Also it might be possible that you’re not eating a balanced diet even though you stick to x amount of calories. If your caloric intake is all sugar and carbs, you might not be going anywhere. The body building community suggests eating 1g protein for each lb you we…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 09:38 PM
19

I keep a list on my phone that’s specifically for remembering these types of odd things!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 01:03 AM
18

Have you tried giving him the girlfriend experience? He probably sees you in mommy mode so much that it’s easy to forget that fun girlfriend he used to have.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:09 PM
15

Has anyone managed to keep regular polish from chipping and their nails from getting ridiculous? I can’t justify the time and money to get shellac or solars anymore and it gets so annoying to maintain. I’d like a low cost option that looks nice for more than two days.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:09 PM
37

Every RPW’s man across the land today is about to have the best day ever
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 11:40 PM
3

I hope you don’t mind but my response is extremely NSFW so I’m going to take it to the DMs.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:17 PM
1

Good luck on your new job!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:49 PM
1

The visualization route doesn’t work well for me but I’ve seen it work very well for others. I figured that those who are looking for help with their emotions might benefit from this option if they don’t find that they are the type of person who benefits from visualization too. I think it’s very interesting and it just goes to show how unique all of us are!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:44 PM
2

Both? Basically it’s teaching you learned self-awareness, empathy, and coping mechanisms.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 12:16 AM
3

My lips are sealed lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:28 PM
1

That’s fine, but this is not my way. This way is taught by psychologists. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:26 PM
1

Another way is to train yourself in emotional intelligence. I took a class on this and it got me through my first job. Set an alarm and stop periodically and spend 15 minutes writing down the exact emotions you’re feeling. Sometimes it takes 15 minutes to even label your emotions if you’re low in emotional intelligence. (Maybe spend two weeks doing this) Example: I’m feeling fear and anxiety. Once you’re able to name those emotions over time, then change the exercise to stop periodically and spe…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:17 PM
1

In order to have that relationship, you need to have a high quality man and you need to be a high quality woman. I can only speak to the information I know, which is what you’ve written in this post. From your post history, I can tell you’re an intelligent woman and that might be why you’re dissecting everything about this relationship. You’re trying to find some deeper reason for everything happening when there isn’t one. Stop over-analyzing what this is, step outside of yourself, and think abo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 05:41 PM
1

The stuff you’ve brought up so far is the exact opposite of what this place is about. The most RPW thing you’ve said is that you’re anti-feminist.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 05:22 PM
3

What brought you to RPW? This is not a RPW relationship that you’re describing.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 05:14 PM
11

Short Answer: Don’t. Long Answer: Check out this post from u/whisper.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:40 PM
10

Underlying message: leave the guy. He’s training you for codependency. It sounds like he’s got all sorts of covert contracts and he’s a bonfide “nice guy.” You don’t want a “nice guy.” You want a good man. Let him find a housemaid elsewhere. Stop dating men who don’t have their shit together enough to keep a clean home. (A sink full of dishes is different than a disgusting cess pool that makes you terrified to use the bathroom) In the meantime, read the sidebar. You should be able to find the an…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:15 PM
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You’re catching him in lies. It’s obvious you don’t trust him. He doesn’t sound like he’s a captain. Go find a captain you can trust before you break and end up taking your mistrust of your current boyfriend out on every man who comes after him. In the future, vet better and make sure you have a quality man. Stop snooping through his stuff. You end up looking like a controlling crazy person and you’re making the forbidden fruit seem sweeter. You’re supposed to always be a reminder of why he’s wi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:02 PM
2

It’s funny because that power career woman archetype you see in movies is never the woman who gets up the ladder IRL
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 01:04 AM
24

I can only speak to the business sector, but in my experience, no, it does not work. What does work, is the understanding of working in a male environment and how being female will disturb the ole boys club, and how to circumvent this. As someone who has been sitting in executive boardrooms since the beginning of her career, here’s stuff I’ve noticed. The most successful women I’ve seen in positions of power STFU, make sure they know everything and ask lots and lots of carefully worded questions…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 06:17 PM
1

If you have access to stairs or a chair and water bottles instead of weights it’s doable for the most part. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 07:56 PM
9

Check out Kayla Itsines’s BBG! She’s got a program and tons of people who post their results on Instagram. It’s not free but if you search on google you can get a PDF of her program for free. It’s super fun to join the girls doing it on Instagram and they are a really supportive and empowering bunch. There’s not just super in shape girls doing it either. There’s a lot of 300+ lb ladies who cut down to under 150lbs by doing these 30 minute workouts 4-5 days a week and eating right and you watch t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 02:52 PM
3

Look, girls set up rules for betas and break them for alphas. She set up a rule, and she exposed that rule indirectly with you. She’s not that into you. She can’t negotiate attraction. You’re not meeting her tingle quota. You’re not making the hamster spin in the right direction. The other possibility is that you pressured her and made her feel uncomfortable which is as beta as it gets. Now her hamster is setting up rules because she feels like she can’t trust you, and trust takes an insane amou…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 11:47 AM
6

Apparently you don’t, or else you wouldn’t be in here making a post. LOL
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:04 AM
2

She either ain’t that into you or she got too high and you were mistaking cotton mouth for IOIs.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 04:40 AM
47

You can’t negotiate attraction, so don’t. Go for whatever you’re attracted to.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 04:53 PM
1

Thanks I’ll check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:47 PM
4

Depending on how she words this, she will open the door to him being evasive.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:54 PM
1

Based on your post history he’s a huge red flag. If it were me I’d move on. I also would never date anyone that I work with or have worked with but that’s just me. It looks like people have told you this before and you stuck around anyway. You’re going to do what you want so I trust that you’re going to make the best choice for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:47 PM
1

Judging by your post history it seems like he could be playing you because you’re naive and young and he thinks he’s going to get away with it. If he’s only seeing you for sex then that’s a tell tale sign that you’re a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:36 PM
1

How long have you been together and did he explicitly tell you he’s your boyfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:17 PM
1

I think it’s taken me a very very long time to get here or even be able to articulate it but I am definitely of the belief that a woman has a responsibility to inspire a man’s leadership and desire. A man has a responsibility to inspire her respect and trust. He’s inspired me from day one. I only hope I can continue inspiring him. I’m new to RPW so still learning. I’m absolutely charmed by him and I hope that this relationship lasts a long time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:00 PM
1

If this language and behavior keeps popping up on your feed and it upsets you, it might be time to re-evaluate your feed. I felt a lot better after I unfollowed everyone on my social media participating in political banter and I filled that hole with recipes, cute outfits, interior design, and ladies on weight loss/self improvement journeys instead. I haven’t looked back. I don’t like knowing other women’s positions on feminism because 9/10 times I won’t agree and might even judge them. Same wit…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:32 PM
1

I don’t mean to sound rude, but why are you so absorbed by the comments of a shrew? Unfollow and move on. She’s obviously using inflammatory language to instigate arguments.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:13 PM
1

He’s never said anything mean spirited, if that’s what you’re asking. Any time it’s come close I push my lip out like a toddler and say “You hurt my feelings” and then he starts laughing and saying he was kidding. The stuff that catches me in headlights is the romantic stuff he’s said out of nowhere that I instantly want to either pinch myself or question him about why he said it because nobody’s ever said things like that to me and I’m in disbelief that anyone would ever feel that way. So inste…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 01:08 PM
7

Thanks! I remember reading your post about this, but we definitely had different (but also similar) circumstances. I’m glad the hard work paid off for both of us!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 01:42 AM
13

I personally don’t recommend it at all. If you start from plate then you have to play battle of the plates. (make him more interested in you than his plates) Also you put yourself at risk by engaging with a man who has multiple partners. He could be simply using you or even worse, he could get and spread an STD easily. Ew. Just no. I think in my case it was different because I could tell from his past that he was relationship-oriented and he was wanting to play around but hadn’t started yet and …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 12:20 AM
11

I think another one to add is: how is he around his family?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 04:31 PM
1

Check out r/scincareaddiction. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 08:38 PM
1

Speaking from experience on this: Do the things you want to do that are more or less once-in-a-lifetime experiences. If you want to live abroad, do it. If you don’t, you’ll always hold that resentment as a quiet dark cloud over your relationship and wonder what could have been. If it doesn’t work out, You still have plenty of time for potential mates.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:31 PM
5

I had a similar situation. In my case, it worked out, but I had to figure out what I wanted (casual or relationship) and actually admit to myself that’s what I wanted before I could focus on how to move forward. It’s not what RPW teaches but it’s not impossible to pursue a relationship this way. Just know you’re definitely doing it on hard mode.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 06:52 PM
4

So I thought it's late, they've been working, they will both have to drive here and then the friend will have to drive home. Or my bf will have to drive him home and then come here. You decided in your own mind right here that he’s got a problem. I 'm thinking its still late, crazy people on the road (could be drunk drivers) plus this area has so many deer. I'd like to see him but him and his friend, who I thought may be tired would like to go home, relax. This is more of you deciding he has a p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 09:32 PM
1

Nevermind the red flags. Everyone else is covering those. Let’s just assume he’s a “good man” for a second. Why are you assuming he has a problem (Late night, unsafe to drive) and then solving it for him? (Telling him not to bother seeing you?) You just insinuated that you don’t want him around, that you don’t trust his driving or time management skills, and he could be interpreting this as you putting pressure on him to cut “guy time” short. That’s three different reasons off the top of my head…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 08:18 PM
6

I listened to a Donovan Sharpe podcast once and I considered a lot of what he was giving as advice to be red flag alpha behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 01:52 PM
14

I’m not going to sugar coat this: Next his ass. And don’t look back. He thinks he’s got his claws in you and he’s not wrong. He’s going to spin you till you break. You will always be the girl he got away with, gets away with, and will always get away with walking all over like a door mat. You are wasting valuable time with this guy. Right now I bet you’re tying your worth to whatever he says to you. No, just no. You need some nun mode. Focus on you. Raise your SMV. Get him out of your system. Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 02:52 AM
28

I had an affair with this man ”slow and casual” Don’t waste your time with him. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 09:45 PM
1

1. Do not voice your concern to him about this. 9/10 times you will look like a jealous, crazy, controlling girlfriend. Rely on careful observation and be prepared to next instead. 2. Raise your SMV so you can stop feeling inadequate to her. Whatever you gotta do. Make yourself look and feel better. You need the confidence boost and you deserve it. If he notices and reacts negatively or tries to sabotage you doing this, next. 3. He picked you for a reason. Don’t let him forget that reason. Be th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 05:51 PM
1

Don’t pretend to not know anything, but understand that you must strategize differently if your n count increases too much. Don’t hide your past and don’t lie or pretend otherwise. If he turns out to be your captain he’s going to figure out the truth sooner or later anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 02:36 PM
1

Let me make sure I’m understanding you correctly: You: Want more affection, encouragement, positive reinforcement, and harmony in the relationship. He: Feels overwhelmed by you and is acting out and pushing back on your attempts to make things better. By writing this letter you’re trying to tell him that you don’t know what else to do and you feel isolated in your attempts to have a good relationship because it feels one-sided. How far am I off?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 01:54 PM
1

Okay. A lot of people tend to keep letters, especially handwritten ones, as keepsakes. Do you want a potential keepsake to be a reminder of good times or bad times?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 12:24 PM
1

If you need to depend on outside variables like “his mood when he reads it,” which is completely uncontrollable, then the writing isn’t good enough. I still say communicate directly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 10:36 PM
1

“I’m going to try to explain myself where you can understand” = I don’t trust that you will be smart enough to get my message.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 10:24 PM
1

First of all you’re insulting his intelligence in the first paragraph. I would expect him to drop the letter after that. Also I don’t think this is a subject that you write s letter about. This is something you should communicate in person. Writing this stuff makes you look passive aggressive, avoidant, or afraid, and if you are afraid of your man, then something has gone wrong. If you insist on writing a letter, then you need to organize your thoughts and look up persuasive writing because your…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 09:26 PM
1

Soft scrub paste! I usually let it sit on there for about 5-10 minutes and take a scrubber to it! It may help to have your man check to see if the water is too hard and see if it would benefit to put in a water softener.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 04:40 PM
1

I’m really struggling to understand the gap between sending these extreme fetish type videos that people typically pay for in secret and hope their wives, friends, children, families, bosses, and anyone they know personally never find out about, and you sending these videos to him while still able to express that you’re “really not that invested.” I know you keep trying to establish plausible deniability with me but your words and language convey a completely different message. You keep returnin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 11:53 PM
1

Does he have any guy friends or family members who are more of a rugged type? I read somewhere that a RPW had had her husband’s friend/family member invite her husband to go to manly things for a day, specifically, chop wood, and that took him out of his funk.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 07:38 PM
1

Is there a large socioeconomic disparity between you two?
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:27 PM
1

Man I’m seeing has oneitis for me to the extent that it’s detracting from his personal life. How can I be supportive in a way that allows him to get back on track? What could I have done or said when he got down on himself over it?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 04:08 PM
1

I feel like a lot of everything you’ve said is hinting that you don’t actually trust him, especially that last bit about trying to control him and his social media. If you keep trying to make things off limits to him, wouldn’t that just make the forbidden fruit seem more sweet? He’s with you, not her. Let her make a fool of herself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/18 03:37 PM
3

I could never imagine allowing myself to be strung along like that for so long without a verbal commitment. A few months is one thing. A whole year-no thank you. If he’s not willing to commit after the 3-4 months mark, I’m walking before my emotional investment becomes detrimental to my well-being. By happenstance, I accidentally collected some mental collateral that directly insinuates I’m not going to have to worry about walking when that time comes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 03:23 PM
3

Oh, yeah no my life doesn’t revolve around him. I made that mistake with my ex. I guess I’m already busy enough to not need to do this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:49 PM
4

I had another girl at one point tell me I should do this with this guy. She had a harem of men chasing after her except almost every single one was an orbiter.... nobody that she’s interested in..... Just hearing her strategy threw me off so much that this man misinterpreted my text message responses to him that day as anger and I almost damaged the whole thing right then and there. Maybe it works for some, but as for me, I interpret this strategy as games, and I don’t play games.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:40 PM
1

Thanks for this. I was having anxiety about “official” and also whether or not I was wasting my time. I also have just barely read this sub for 24 hours. I think many women associate “official” with “solid” and a lot of the reading here comes across like it associates “official” with “safe to proceed.” I’ve had other developments happen after making this post which only confirm your assumptions: He’s switching into commitment mode. He’s still vetting, (as he should be, and as I should be doing m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:30 PM
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