Stop thinking about the past

caius100 · 2019-04-05T18:47:09+00:00

Be happy and learn from your mistakes. Without them you wouldn't have been where you are. Praise yourself for growing instead of blaming for something you didnt know. Take care man!

stripethrowaway · 2019-04-05T18:46:54+00:00

This is a normal thing that happens called counterfactual thinking. It's the brain's normal process to learn from experience, but it's not the most constructive at times.

It might be a hint that you're not quite over your outcome dependence yet.

I don't really know what to do about it, but knowing that what's happening is normal might help you address it and develop a plan moving forward.

WiredT · 2019-04-05T23:40:42+00:00

Im going to share with you some wise wisdom from Alan Watts that’s perfect for this situation. To TRY to be anything youre not, will lead you to fail. You cant TRULY be something you arent already are.

For instance, you may have in the past cared so much about getting flaked on..and now you dont but thats from an involuntary mental change from experience. This isn’t something you can force because to force it, is to pretty much fake it. Youll still feel all those insecurities. Perfect example he gives is to struggle really hard to read, no matter how are you grunt and struggle to pronounce the word, it doesnt make it easier. Or when you start to think about breathing, it makes it alot harder than doing it when you dont realize you have been the whole time.

The best thing to do is observe these feelings, accept them, but dont act. Just watch, dont fight it, theres nothing wrong with feeling that way. You cant manually change how you feel about something.

Continue to understand what goes through youre head but always remember that youve felt worse in your life. And you can barely remember what that felt like, these feelings will go away as if they never existed. And the past is something i focus on too, that and the future. But that keeps us from being in the present. Forget the past, dont stress the future, work IN the present.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-04-06T03:07:31+00:00

Don't think about meditation, do it. You don't find solutions by thinking about them. You find what works by taking action and trying things.

Mindfulness can help get some thought control.

Eventually when that shit comes up, you can devalidate the thoughts, let them go, and come back to the present.

Yougotredonyouagain · 2019-04-05T20:58:18+00:00

If you always are looking back then the future will run into you.

TehJimmyy · 2019-04-06T21:23:49+00:00

think about the present

holy shit who the f is this guy

Title	Stop thinking about the past
Author	Guaccamolepepe
Upvotes	8
Comments	6
Date	April 5, 2019 6:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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