Got cheated on and now sharing what I've learned along with some questions

Popeman79 · 2014-11-03T18:05:01+00:00

Thanks for posting! Welcome aboard

Question 1: You're in a tight schedule, so make sure you don't waste your energy: i.e. try not to fap, get to bed early, take your required sleeping hours, wake up 1 hour before and go running, do push-ups and pulls in the park. Don't waste time chasing girls, after a few months like that THEY will chase you.

Question 2: Not sure I'm getting the question right, but I guess you wonder how not let this disappointment prevent you from being open-minded with girls in the future. Well, thing is, you won't be the same. After swallowing the pill and seeing one of your exes the way she really is (AWALT) you never look at girls (or life for that matter) the same way. It's a tough process but you'll get over it and come out stronger.

thenarrrowpath · 2014-11-03T18:56:02+00:00

Question 1:

I recommend the 5x5 workout, its a 12 week program. There are many different types, but overall you switch between 6 different workouts 3 days a week. You increase your weights by 2.5 to 5 pounds a week. It builds muscle and strength over time. Google it and check it out. Might be a little longer than 30 min though. Make sure you track your progress. Also, start eating lots of protein. Lots. Like 4 eggs and some toast three days a week. I sometimes take tuna cans, add salt & pepper, mayonnaise, and relish and use it as a dip with chips. Lots of protein and Omega-3

Question 2:

Since I swallowed the red pill I've pulled from the bar every weekend this month (except the weekend of the 25th, I didn't go out). I've been doing game on and off for years (I would be better and have less AA if i didn't get into LTRs on the way). I never knew about RP until 3 months ago, so I would run game and get to a certain point then all the beta came out once I thought I "got her hooked". I also was way to concerned about how she felt, and not looking like I was a sex fiend, similar to how you felt bad after being shamed for having sex with 8 women. Don't let your new found knowledge affect how you feel about women, its more like let it affect how you operate around them and how you feel about yourself. At some point in your relationship you felt some kind of love for that girl and I'm certain she showed you intimacy which made you feel good. Its natural for us to want to be with a girl and find some kind of "love" so to say. But understand how women work and adjust how you operate. Be unapologetic for your desires, be it wanting a one-night stand, having plates, or being in an LTR. I'm certain you will find yourself with other girls that are only good for a bang, and others that will blow you way with their personality. If you're confident, aloof, unapologetic, work-out, work on yourself, then your behavior will attract the ones you want whether its just a bang or a special girl. Warning: if she really is special don't act any different, your desire will repulse her.

Keep reading the sub and about game and keep lifting!

BigRiver4 · 2014-11-03T17:47:22+00:00

We've been dating for about 8 month, and things were absolutely great.. The only issue was how headstrong she was. We always had spats but since the beginning of summer we've been fighting worse and worse, and the issues started to appear. She started to become completely uncompromising.. The fight would not end unless I begged and dropped whatever issue it was that started the issue in the first place with getting nothing on my side. As time went on.. She started using the previous fights against me to place the blame on me instead of whatever issue I had with her in the first place. She began to only focus about my faults and getting bitchy if I ever zoned out and didn't listen to her, or if I forgot something going on in her life (I'm taking the maximum amount of classes I actually can this semester so I have enough on my plate). The final straw was last night, and to set up the story I'm going to start from the beginning. About a week ago she met some dude at a music festival, I figured whatever she just made a friend and they hung out and did whatever at the festival and that's all that's gonna ever be. After all he lived a little over an hour away from our town. I stayed the night at her place on friday and she was acting particularly distant, I asked because I was worried about her because she's moving and she's been stressing out like fuck. She said that the stress is just making her not wanna see people. Whatever, maybe that's how she reacts to a lot of stress. Then last night happened, the dude from the music festival drove the hour just to hang out with her, alone. When she hung out with me on friday she spent a good portion of it texting him instead of you know, engaging in conversation with her boyfriend. When she was hanging out with him she'd hardly text me. I kept trying to get it across how fucked up the situation is and a friend (of only a week) doesn't just drive an hour to hang out with you all day. She completely did not consider me at all, and that is why I'm leaving her. I didn't text back after she said "let me hang out lol god" I got these text messages and they just enforce my decision. "Well im going to bed. It was silly of me to assume youd take a step back and be a rock, letting me have some room to be a normal person and having my moving as priority not also this. Think about it. Goodnight, love you. " And upon my lack of response, my personal favorite. "Thats how much your testemony promises and sorries are worth. A day later already at square 1- not voicing, uncontrollable jealousy and making things harder instead of considerate on me these days. Im really dissapointed that it always has to be about you, even when im basically moving out you cant lay your stuff aside.. " It kinda pissed me off so I did what I told myself I wouldn't do and responded.. But I feel I did good. "gf. You hung out with.. Well into the night.. Some guy you barely fucking met a week ago at some concert.. Who's willing to drive aaaaaalll the way from his city to see you. I'm not pointing fingers. But its fucking weird. Way fucking weird. You texted him with me there yesterday more than you texted me while with him. I've been working my ass off trying to comfort you in this stressful time.. But you manipulating past fights to avoid confronting the fact of how fucked up your actions were last night. I most certainly have a right to be mad about this. You're not even going to listen to me so why am i even typing this.. No clue. Because you'll always be justified in your head by using past fights to your advantage. " TL:DR I think she cheated, about to leave her, need advice on how to do this.

redpillexplainsit · 2014-11-03T19:32:54+00:00

1) push up. dont be afriad to do them at school either. Find something on campus to do chin up on, such as a tree branch. 2) "I'm not a "fall head over heels" type of guy" quit gerblin. you wrote a ton extra info that were irrvlant to your questions. even your thread title shows you cared too much about this chick. read the sidebar.

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-03T19:46:30+00:00

what is a good work out plan I can squeeze in my schedule for a minimum of 30 minutes a day?

Do push ups, pull ups, body weight squats, and lunges for 30 minutes with only minimal breaks between exercises. That will get you in great shape if you push yourself hard.

how do I look into maintaining my balance of not letting these past experiences inhibit my future romantic encounters while at the same time allowing me to take as many lessons out of it as I can?

Time heals all wounds. Since this relationship was only 8 months long, you'll probably get over it faster than you expect.

Title	Got cheated on and now sharing what I've learned along with some questions
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Date	November 3, 2014 5:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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