How can I get out of my introverted/shy/quiet self?

RedPill2018 · 2019-06-18T03:28:14+00:00

Read the post on TRP titled something along the lines of “How to speak to everyone”.

I myself have come out of my shell due to me not caring about what others think; it was as if I lived through the anger stage and then I just became at peace with the fact that nobody cares as much as I think they do along with me not caring if they do care.

Also, I have found that people are interesting. Aside from people being interesting, when I see others with no social skills, it’s almost sad.

Just today, I was studying in a chemistry tutor room and I had the whole room laughing off and on as I spoke simply because how I tease/joke around with everyone, and that felt great to see people smiling and laughing. After I left the room, my friends brought things up I had said to a girl who was sitting next to me and how funny it was to which I paid it no attention because I was just being me, but they were listening to the conversation (it’s a small and a bit quiet room) in which I thought to myself, I have become that “cool guy” socially.

Crazy how the tables have turned.

Even in my lab, I am able to mingle with everyone due to me knowing so much people in which I can get answers, help, etc. in the class to help me get out faster. This is just one of the perks.

I say all this to say, people are interested and the other side is better. The side where you have the ability to socialize if you want to.

I admit it’s draining after long long periods of socializing, but that’s when I can “recharge” and I appreciate my time alone that much more.

Aside from people being interesting, being social will help you to succeed in life. I recommend reading the forums here (TRP) along with the books recommendations here and else where as it pertains to society such as The 48 Laws of Power, How to Win Friends and Influence People, etc. All of these books have given me a better understanding on how people work on a psychological level in which I am better able to make them happy which in turn makes me happy due to me having good social interactions, which comes with more benefits.

acp_rdit · 2019-06-18T02:49:30+00:00

Shyness is a manifestation of a fear of judgement. If you avoid being noticed then you avoid being judged.

If your head rephrase your doubts with "I'm afraid" wording. "I'm afraid people will laugh at me, I'm afraid of looking stupid, I'm afraid of being called a creep" etc. Once you identify your fear you can defeat it with reason.

Remember that you are the descendent of generations of successful risk takers.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-06-19T00:27:19+00:00

Get in better shape, develop an interesting personality, stop worrying about what other people think of you (LPT: They're gonna hate no matter what you do)

BraindeadIQ · 2019-06-18T09:51:04+00:00

After my old relationship i was like that. Shy and quiet. I've always been little more on introvert side. But after my old relationship and during that time i was a wreck. I would stutter around new people. I would sweat because i was stressed.

What helped me the most was starting training soccer with few guys that now has turned into 18-21 guys. I do workout 4-6 times per week and i also train soccer 2 times per week. Sometimes we compete against other guys. This forces me into converstation. I'm also a "bouncer"/security. At festivals or concerts. Sometimes at work annual parties. I used to work at clubs but i do not anymore. This forced me to have converstation to different type of peoples.

This has tought me that people don't think of you or about you as much as you think. You can stutter. You can fuck up a sentence but people won't care if you don't care. I don't stutter anymore. I don't sweat anymore. I just don't think. If people talk to me i've not overthought what they might ask me next or whatever.

At festivals or annual work parties. You can be sure that atleast 2-3 "hb9-10" will talk to you. What can you do? Don't think about it. Just be in the moment. Talk to her as your little sister (if you don't wanna fuck her) talk to her like you would to brother. Just don't think oh god she is hb10 just don't give a fuck.

As for meeting new people. People love talking. Strike up small converstation, then ask. what got you in that job/how do you like that job. Listen then ask. You come off as good listener and great guy to talk too.

Title	How can I get out of my introverted/shy/quiet self?
Author	20undercover00
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	June 18, 2019 2:29 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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