Looking for any kind of mental tips or techniques when one is feeling on a slump, specifically due to women.

It's not going to be as cringey as the first paragraph makes it seem. Basically went on a date, I myself thought it went well, got her back to my place and attenpted push/pull kissing technique for the first time, then pulling back doing it again later. I had thought it went well, but a followup message has so far gone unanswered. I know most of the problem is that I don't have 2-4 other girls I can just message and not give a shit.

It's not even that upsetting about this one specific girl in particular, but the ghosting aspect just really fucks me off. So, if this girl who's only kind of cute is really fine ignoring me, I get into my head, how am I ever going to get a 7, or 8? It just after spending around a year working out, losing weight, starting jiu-jitsu and picking up an instrument he past three months, it's hard to feel like any meaningful progress has been made. How do you get out of this self wallowing woe is me bullshit mindset?