I used to live in a big city a few months ago when I started spinning plates. Had 5 plates, but there was one that stood out to me who I genuinely enjoyed hanging out with.

She was a couple of years out of college, very middle in the pack in terms of physical attractiveness (conservative 7, very average body, pretty face), but there were several green flags that stood out that made me like her:

  • High interest in me and my frame; would often initiate contact and move mountains to see me. This included high interest in my hobbies, where she would always want to learn more/tag along, and gifting me often
  • Sexually inexperienced but very open minded, let me dominate her and explore boundaries freely
  • Interesting hobbies and background (travel etc), which I find to be rare in women
  • Strong relationship with family and father
  • Big on avoiding social media, doesn't crave attention at all

Now I'm back finishing college in a small college town. I'm up to around 10 plates, but all of my plates are some combination of very boring, show red flags when it comes to relationships/sex, or sexually boring.

For what it's worth, all of my plates have come from dating apps (I get 4-5 matches per day and have little trouble plating a new girl every week off these apps, so I see little need to look elsewhere). I'm working on expanding my social circle, it's a WIP.

So I'm stuck here relatively sexually satisfied but unfulfilled otherwise. Are the vast majority of young women just like this? Is there a way to meet more quality/interesting women?