I'll try to keep this short and cut any bullshit, still going to be a long post.

27 years old. I'm 5'10" and 210lb. I guess the best way to describe my body at the moment is a dad bod. Not good. Bit of a beer belly, face has gotten slightly fatter, etc.

I haven't had sex in over a year, and the last time I did was with two different girls over the period of a month, both which I consider very attractive (in shape, pretty faces) and were both 5 years younger than me. I had the same body back then. They both wanted to keep seeing me, I didn't want to as I had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and ended it with both of them.

I was off dating apps after that time until just recently.

I have two dates lined up this weekend, one Saturday and one Sunday. The women are decently attractive, but not as attractive as the two women from a year ago (this might matter?) and saturday chick already told me she's looking for something casual, so it's sounding like if i don't fuck up I should have a fairly easy time coasting in.

I also was approached by two different women at karaoke last time I went out with friends, but lacked the understanding and confidence of what to do.

I am going to start going to the gym today, sticking to the SSW program. Tried it a year ago, pussied out after two weeks and went back to video games and drinking.

I just discovered this sub and it's been eye opening, been reading non-stop all the basic shit i never knew existed like shit tests etc. In all the material here there is a clear message to get in shape and be attractive, look in the mirror shirtless and be brutally honest with what you see. Obviously me posting a shirtless pic of me and my beer gut and flabby arms won't be appealing, but now I'm kind of fucked up in the head before these dates because I'm clearly not in shape.

tldr: should I focus on getting laid and practice what I've learned on here during my fitness journey even when i'm out of shape, or should I wait until I've gotten more lean and just focus on myself for now, and not worry about pussy