17 Lies About Dating, As Told By "Sex And The City"

SouloftheVoid · 2019-07-16T18:55:26+00:00

This is a lot, let me address some of the points:

Meeting romantic partners on the street, in elevators, at the gym, and random public places in general.

In SATC apparently all you needed to do to find a boyfriend was leave your apartment. Let's get real, everyone is way too awkward and self-absorbed to approach someone in real life.

A woman can easily find a man willing to fuck her, even more easily than before thanks to hookup apps like Tinder.

Men coming up with creative dates.

Are you worth the effort? Probably not.

Dating right off the bat with no period of uncertainty.

Translation: Why won't Chad commit?

Going to dinner – where you can't escape! – on a first date.

Yet there are plenty of thots who will go on dinner dates JUST for a free meal.

Dating one person at a time exclusively.

Whenever one of the women started dating a guy, it seemed like they were dating him and him only. More and more these days there are people who are terrified of commitment or only do "open relationships," so when you start seeing someone, you can't really assume it's gonna end up exclusive.

Who needs serious committed relationships when you can ride the cock carousel and get pumped and dumped by a series of Chads? This sounds like more language to normalize cuckoldry.

The fact that every woman found someone by the end of the show.

This right there is the biggest lie of SATC; that a woman can spend her best years riding the carousel and getting a triple-digit n-count and Prince Charming will be there waiting for her when she hits the wall, goes through her epiphany phase and wants to settle down.

And the BIGgest lie of all? THAT A GUY LIKE BIG SETTLES DOWN.

Big is quite literally the OG fuckboy. If this show were based on reality, we all know what Carrie's romantic future with him would be: NON-EXISTENT. Real life Big will be sending 2 a.m. "U up?" texts to 10 different girls well through his eighties. Sorry Carrie.

Also true. I don't watch SATC but I'm assuming "Big" is the Alpha Chad who in real life moves on to younger, tighter pussy once a thot like Carrie hits the wall.

That show helped ruin a generation of women.

huggyblossom · 2019-07-16T19:24:19+00:00

Which of them wanted truly to commit to a relationship to be honest - just like in real life every one of this women had unreal standards, poor life choices and was 33+ with SMV values dropping like hot butter.

a7000-a · 2019-07-16T19:18:55+00:00

Interesting timing, cause I was just talking to a Red Pill grifter named Goldmund about SatC. I read the original book many years ago. It has this undercurrent of hysteria, because most of the women are over 30 and know time is not on their side.

The show is similar except that there is an unrealistic deus ex machina for Carrie. But if you watch the show carefully, you'll be aware that most of the women in it are not very happy because they know they are living their lives poorly.

I haven't watched every episode of the show, but I have seen most it, usually w/ chicks. I think the key is how old the chick is. For teen girls and girls up to the late 20s (perhaps 28/29), the show reads as glamorous fucking around in the city and being serenaded/seduced by a wild variety of hot hot men who are going to pick up the tabs for fancy dinners, whisk them around to clubs, etc.

For women over age 28/29, Sex and the City starts to look like the "cock carousel" much-discussed online by men. The guys in the show are getting copiously laid (low-status males don't exist, or are rejected, or exist to serve the women in service roles) while offering the women a minimum of commitment, and female-female competition is fierce and relentless. NYC is expensive and in the real world it's very hard for most women to make enough money to have a reasonable standard of living in the city without a guy to subsidize them. But a lot of the guys want to play the field.

The underlying sadness is there in my view, but many if not most women don't recognize it until it's too late.

The book Date-onomics explain why a lot of women feel like they have to viciously compete in NYC due to lopsided male/female ratios. That's the thing the city still has most going for it, for players. Many women don't read enough and don't understand why NYC is a different market than most cities in the rest of the country.

Older women can accept that NYC is hard, or go poly, or just fuck around and accept that they're not going to have kids. Most women want kids, though, and can't be happy without a family. Thus the neuroticism and deep unhappiness of single women over age 30 - 35. They are competing against younger-hotter-tighter. Their natural dating pool becomes guys age 40+ who already have a couple of kids. Most of them are not stupid and know they've fucked up by waiting too long. The ones with careers regret trading careers for family and the ones without careers don't even have that. It's just kind of sad and depressing overall.

monsieurhire2 · 2019-07-16T20:19:57+00:00

I'll just repost one of my own top-up-voted comments from awhile ago regarding Sex and the City:

I was at ground-zero when Sex and the City came out: university. Man on man did I have a sinking feeling as I watched it.

It advanced the fraudulent premise that men found women who slutted around to be attractive and high-status when the opposite is true. I still see this mentality pop up in women. No, we don't like it when you try to make us jealous with other guys even as you get insecure when we get female attention because it makes us suspect you might be covert sluts. No, we're not impressed by how many guys you have fucked because that "experience" amounts to NOTHING. You can become good in bed within a few hours if you pay attention. Years of getting plowed only detracts value.

Also, the City is all about vacuuming up all the attractive women within travel distance, which these days, is global, so that all the rich men that dwell there can have their pick making women compete for them like they are Hollywood casting directors.

Sex and the City is all about hypergamy. It wasn't Sex and the Suburbs, or Sex up in the Mountains. Noooo, it has to be the City, where all the expensive shops and boutiques are, because it's good for the corporate economy when all your disposable income from your company job is dumped at the company store, where everything is expensive, but polluted and dirty. New York City especially is a grave-yard for wannabe gold-diggers looking to catch a high net worth male, who of course, can see them coming a mile away, and uses them as cum dumpsters until he gets bored and can then parlay his experience as being husband to some rich bitch he was going to marry anyway. But it's useful for him to play along with the female Cinderalla hypergamy fantasy of finding her "Prince Charming," who is basically a youthful male with the age and body of a 25 year old, but the poise of a 45 year old, with the wealth and social position of an 85 year old, a status virtually unobtainable because you essentially be born into it, or be a good-looking genius who leverages his talent to become a billionaire before 30.

As for the handbags and shoes OP sneered at; those are trinkets that cost next to nothing for the men who bought them. They are practically an insult. What is the lady going to do with them now as she hits 40 except be reminded that she bartered her youth away so cheaply?

BobbyPeru · 2019-07-16T20:19:44+00:00

The show is outdated in a lot of ways, but women have been spinning plates long before men ever heard (or thought of) the concept.

This was simply one of the first open media representations of Women fucking multiple men. The only difference is the women on SITC mostly go from one relationship to the next versus spinning plates, but that’s only because the women’s prerogative happens in phases, as it continues today in phases. Now, shows are openly showing women spinning plates (“Girls,” “SMILF” 1st season, “The Affair” . etc)

Sit and watch one of these shows with your LTR, and she won’t even raise an eyebrow.

monsieurhire2 · 2019-07-16T20:18:01+00:00

No mention of the role played by money / status-seeking / careerism.

jaune7000 · 2019-07-16T19:14:06+00:00

Complete bullshit contribution. Nothing REAL can be learned from TV shows.

Title	17 Lies About Dating, As Told By "Sex And The City"
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Date	July 16, 2019 6:28 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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