Me and my GF have been in a relationship for the last 2 years, 5 months now. Now we are about to move in together. Since we will be studying (she is, I am not yet) in a different country than we used to live in , moving in together also means living together there. I am also working full time in that same country. So we made some plans, picked an apartment, already paid a part of the rent, etc. Meanwhile we have also been planning a holiday, for a couple of months - not a thorough planning, but just a basic where we will go, what we will do, etc.

So I plan my vacation from work around that, and take it, and fly home, now the interesting part happens. She had told me a few times in the month before, that she wanted to talk about something, but never told me what about. She was on a summer study camp for 1/2 month during that time. When I came home, she still didn't want to have that conversation but I asked a couple of times, so she told me that while being there she started having feelings for a very close guy friend of hers, that wouldn't go away. So she is not sure whether she wants to be in that relationship with me. But now that I am here, she is having doubts in her uncertainty. So we have this long conversation finally, and in the end we agree to take a break. So we are not breaking our relationship, but at the same time everything we do now is ok. She tells me though that she doesn't want to fuck other people that much but if something happens happens, and I should not worry if I have the option as well.

So I go to our vacation alone, we start being on a break at that moment and apparently something happens that same night. And after a lot of asking from me I finally understand that she went out with the same guy, who is still close to her, and she shared our situation with him, then eventually she made out with the guy, who at some point felt uncomfortable of the situation and told her this is not ok. They didn't have sex that night apparently.

So then we talk again and I am starting to have a real problem with that. In any case we talk it out again, and I tell here that this is much better for me if we talk things out. We agree to see each other right after I come back from the vacation.

Then a couple days pass, and apparently she was speaking with another friend, who suggested that maybe while we are on a break she should focus on the other things in her life, and not our relationship. So we should stop thinking about each other for a while, and figure out our other things. So one morning she tells me that, and that she thinks what the friend said makes sense, and that in any case our relationship is not her whole life - she thinks. So at this point I am angry with that, but apparently since we were chatting she didn't know that I have a problem. In any case I push things up a bit and we agree to not communicate at all until a set date before her birthday - since I can't go to her family not knowing if we are ok or not.

I couldn't resist though and wanted to talk, with the idea that maybe I was stupid, and things will be ok after we talk. So we do meet, but she doesn't appear to be in the mood for much talking, and we don't actually do it. So next night I am not ok with that again and we finally have a talk in 2AM. (btw we are not yet living together). A lot of tears happen, etc.

Turns out at least meeting with this guy was planned way way before, because he just had to fly before/after (i don't remember), but it sounded like an ok reason. And she tells me once again that she didn't expect that the making up with him will happen that night, etc. At least they didn't have sex though.

So we agree that we will continue the on a break situation for 1 week, as we had agreed to before, and that she just needs to focus on the other things in her life - but not telling what they are. So I keep asking, and eventually she tells me that it's about her not wanting to be known just as that person's girlfriend, but to have something else to be proud of in her life. Now that makes sense to me, but she still hasn't told me what she wants to do, and what was different the last couple of weeks, etc.

I need a third person's look on this. I am talking with my TRP familiar friend and he told me several times already that she is just taking advantage of me, and that we should break up since our relationship is dead, but I am not as sure. I kind of want our relationship to survive. So I agreed to ask you guys. What do you think about this?

We are still on a break.