Many people in west don’t understand the main danger of homosexual people: marriage fraud (homosexual marry to straight people). By different estimation, there are about 5 millions to 25 millions homosexual marriage fraud in China, or 1-5% of all marriages. It’s not something only happen in movie, but a common problem in relationship and marriage.

I know some people would scream “This wouldn’t happen where same sex marriage is fully legalized”, which is nonsense. Sadly, same sex marriage is “naturally” worse in many aspects, for example same sex couple would have difficulty to reproduce. Surrogacy was impossible, even today it could still be illegal or at least cost a lot. Homosexual people would not interest in you, but they might interest in your reproduction ability or your money.

Many research shows 3-5% people are homosexual, yet only 1.7% Canadians reported themselves are. Among 14.24 million married Canadians, only 48740 or 0.03% are same-sex couple. Where are the rest of them? They might be your neighbour, they might be anti-gay activist, they might be your partner, they might be you. I am not joking, some homosexual people don’t know they are not straight, and “once dated opposite sex” could not prove one is not homosexual.

Here is a checklist combined from Chinese and English websites, some could happen on straight people but you should be careful if too many are true:

His or her “value” is much higher than you, you feel extremely lucky to marry your partner without much effort. Your parents-in-law abnormally want their child to marry, especially considering he or she isn’t too old for marriage. He or she is not very religious or conservative, but refuse premarital sexual behavior. He or she talks a lot about homosexual, or extremely homophobic. There is a decline of sexual activity early in your marriage that never picks up again, although you’ve only been together for a few years. Meanwhile, he or she spend a lot of time on appearance. His or her sexual performance is more mechanical than passionate with a lack of satisfying foreplay. He or she erases the computer history on a regular basis.

Marriage fraud should be top 1 issue about gay and lesbian, in history feminist were extremely anti-gay partly because of this, their successors are still active in China. Sadly, under cultural Marxism coalition, homosexuals are viewed like bisexual (a talent provided extra choice and should be jealous of) rather than pedophiles(another kind of flaw that might cause harm to others). In most western countries, the potential danger of pedophiles are overestimated, while the potential danger of homosexuals are relatively unheard of. People understand the necessity to protect their children against pedophiles, but don’t understand the importance to protect themselves from homosexuals. Many victims don’t even know they are screwed by gay or lesbian.

Finally, I want to share about one of my close relative’s story. Born as landlord’s descendant, his early life isn’t easy. Luckily he is quite smart, entered a top Chinese university after the resumption of college entrance examination. He got offer from a graduate program in US and then start to work legally, in early 90s he come back for marriage interviews. The woman he choose was well-educated and beautiful, her parents are professors and hope she could immigrate to US, everything looked great. My mother seen some weird behaviors, but she didn’t think too much at that time.

Several months after the marriage, the woman refuse to have sex with my relative, beat him regularly and invite her “female friend” to live in their home. My relative don’t understand, he thought he must did something wrong and try to fix his marriage, it was a waste of time and money. After about 10 years they finally divorced, then after another 10 years we know the true reason of divorce from another relative.

You could share your stories here, maybe you are a good gay or les, but some people you dated might married.