how to be alpha and attract people to you as a loner in high school?

burrrahhh · 2020-09-13T08:03:29+00:00

In high school people are attracted towards you if you are fun, good looking or rich. Since you have no control over money right now, you can work on being fun and good looking. Talk to everybody you see, casual small talk and start lifting. Eventually you'll become comfortable enough to joke around with people and hold conversations.

Ierax29 · 2020-09-13T08:08:21+00:00

Try to pinpoint why they're ostracizing you : are you socially awkward ? Do you leech value ? No offense, but you sound needy af. No one likes that.

Work on your SMV (social skills included) and learn to be cool doing fun shit alone.

Yashugan00 · 2020-09-13T12:49:04+00:00

At such a young age, in a place where you'll only be 4-6 years., hit the gym, eat clean and bulk.

SMV at young age is mostly looks. You haven't the time or the independance to hit any of the other categories in a way that will be recognized in the small social group.

Rexile · 2020-09-13T10:04:02+00:00

Most of the time first impression is everything, if you dont appear cool enough in a short window of time after school begins people will lose interest and you will be ostracized.

Even though I was in IT class, many of classmates were soccer junkies. All they could talk about was soccer, Juul and drinking, and they were really popular. They were really good soccer players and they showed value by that.

If you arent into stuff that high schoolers masturbate to - sports, vape, weed, hype clothes, drinking and parties, you wont even be noticed by your peers. Teens have tendency to stick to familarity so they mainly look for people with similiar interests as them. Theyd rather see the same people every day than expand their circle.

If you dont care about this stuff, dont change yourself to like them, you will only come off as tryhard.

Best you can do is be social and outgoing anyway, while being outcome independent. Try looking for cool people away from your class, school. Truth is its really hard to make a turnaround in high school after a bad start so you will probably come out better shaping yourself as a person for college or job.

jjj2576 · 2020-09-13T12:26:52+00:00

TRM Volume 3 covers what you’re looking for— read the first two volumes before though.

br0lock · 2020-09-13T12:42:50+00:00

This is a hard time to try and develop your social skills. It's weird with the masks and you will have to talk really loud and position yourself carefully in the middle of a group of people to be included in the conversation. Start by engaging with people one on one and ask them basic questions about themselves, one person at a time, until you can put yourself into a group that you have rapport with everyone there.

ImTryingNotToTroll · 2020-09-13T15:35:17+00:00

Start selling drugs

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-09-13T15:52:47+00:00

Work your way from the bottom. If you are so socially awkward that you can only hang out with the anime club, be the most chill guy at the anime club and work your way up to the band kids and keep climbing from there. Being with awkward uncool people is better than being a loner bc you can get branch out from there and at least have experience socializing.

Title	how to be alpha and attract people to you as a loner in high school?
Author	Slyslothh
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Comments	12
Date	September 13, 2020 7:03 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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