7 months ago I was at a turning point in life, overweight (by my standards), depressed, in a bad relationship, and going no where real quick. These past few months have been some of the best months of my life, the flame that once burned returned with a vengeance. Not a temporary flicker either. I’ll share with you what helped me, so that it may help you.

  1. You are where you are in life because of your own decisions, the sooner you stop blaming other people for the shitty things in your life, the sooner you can get out of the hole you’re in. TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR LIFE, regardless of ANY surrounding circumstance. It may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility (how you choose to RESPOND to crappy things is also your responsibility)

  2. Find your “WHY?”. Life itself entails suffering, to survive and thrive, you must have a reason to fight. Find what you are willing to LIVE for. Jordan Peterson describes this as “orienting yourself towards the highest good you can think of and going towards it”.

  3. Actions matter, thoughts do not. You may think all sorts of crazy, depressing, self depreciating shit. Your thoughts do not define you, your actions do. Believe it or not, actions influence thoughts not the other way around. If you wait until you FEEL good to act, you will never achieve what you want. You can’t control your thoughts you can control your actions.

I could preach some more but I’ll cut it there. As it relates to the Red Pill, many of us are waking up to realize that healthy relationships are a byproduct of a healthy mind, focused on self improvement, responsibility, and right action. If you want your life to change, start taking action. Read books, google shit, FIND the solutions to YOUR problems. I’d suggest the following books to start

Cant hurt me by David Goggins 12 Rules for life by Jordan Peterson Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Lief Babbin