Sup fellas. 21 year old here. I've had severe ED my entire life. I've only ever had sex with two women (both LTRs) and I was only able to do it by purchasing Viagra spin-offs from India over the internet. I've been taking viagra (illegally of course) since I was 16 years old.
I've seen about 5 doctors about this (2 general practitioners, 1 urologist, 2 endocrinologists), several years of expensive exams later and I was a doctor's appointment away from being put on Androgel (they held off on this for a very long time because my testosterone levels were normal) before I found NoFap in June 2014. Thank fucking god I found nofap. I may have had to be on TRT for the rest of my life.
I finally found that masturbation was the culprit. It wasn't so much excessive masturbation (I only did it once a day) but the constant novelty that highspeed internet had given me. I read almost the entire yourbrainonporn.com site and am well on my way to recovery. Unfortunately, for younger guys recovery takes between 9 and 18 months. I'm 7 months in.
Before finding out about NoFap, I would take a 100mg pill of viagra and have a 60% success rate. Now I can take 25mg and have a 100% success rate. Which is an ENORMOUS improvement. I get nocturnal erections and I'm starting to feel like a healthy man now.
The problem is... I still need viagra to successfully have sex. I've tried without the viagra and I can't keep it up. If I were to approach and everything went perfectly, I wouldn't be able to have sex with her without viagra and even if I timed it perfectly with the viagra, I would still cum very quickly because now that I don't masturbate, I also have premature ejaculation issues. I haven't looked into thicker condoms, desensitizing lube, etc. because I want to be viagra-free before I look into tackling premature ejaculation.
This huge issue is really taking a toll on me and my confidence. What do you guys think? Should I hold off on approaching until my brain finally finishes rebooting and I can have normal sex? Should I approach anyway even if my confidence is shit and I know I wouldn't even be able to sleep with the girl?
EDIT: Please don't give me advice on the actual ED. You're talking to someone who has been fighting this for 5 years, saying "anxietyjustrelaxlol" isn't going to help me at all and is a useless comment. Do you seriously think I never once in the past 5 years opened a browser and googled this issue? Do you seriously think I didn't read 50+ articles on performance anxiety? Do you think my doctors didn't talk to me about it? Come on now. It's not anxiety. I failed for 9 months straight daily when I first attempted to have sex. It's pornography. The actual question is how does this affect my game if I should even attempt game at all.
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