Thoughts on bating it?

jjj2576 · 2019-09-24T18:50:23+00:00

Next time you want to wank it, read NMMNG. He wrote a piece on wanking it— let me know if you ever manage to stop jerking it enough to get there.

Vermillion_Rx · 2019-09-24T20:06:02+00:00

No problem!

1) spend more time with this Chad friend of yours and be his wingman and let him be yours, too. Ask him for more advice and definitely get out more, especially with him.

2) I don't know it women can tell in every instance you fap, but they can tell if you have a vibe that you want sex and are sexual. No idea how, but demeanor, the look you have, possibly pheromones from your skin. At the minimum, fapping does suck out your energy and that's noticeable to anyone probably.

3) Tinder is all pictures. Your bio doesn't tell them if you're attractive. I used Tinder for a but and unfortunately never offered to be in many photos, so the ones I took for tinder myself were total shit and only fatties matched me (had gold so I could see who liked me). Ultimately never got results from shitty photos.

4) try to get dates sooner on tinder, don't talk too long without a date set up. That's why it's drying up fast, don't be a monkey trying to entertain her on chat without results first

Edit: I am still so bad at replying to the comments instead of the post lol

wtfoshizzle · 2019-09-24T18:30:20+00:00

masturbation itself isn't the worst thing in the world if its done in moderation (4 times a month etc). Watching Pornography is one of the worst things that you can do to yourself. It ruins your dopamine receptors which essentially destroys your impulse control and attention span. Thus, you seek out activities like video games, juuling & certain drugs to satisfy your thirst. Porn also makes you very beta and interested in fetishes that you would otherwise never care about, femdom, cuckholding etc.

As I said jerking it in moderation isn't awful. But it's an easy escape from your problems as you are tricking your body into thinking that you are sleeping with tons of beautiful women which in turn kills your motivation. Since you mentioned moobz i'm assuming you don't work out & lack the discipline to escape your comfort zone.

You should do some actual red pill reading and execute on the beneficial habits associated with red pill instead of justifying a self-destructive habit & acting like a soyboy

Rodent9 · 2019-09-25T06:52:06+00:00

Stop porn and masturbation. It’s difficult, very difficult, but it’s a simple process - just stop. You’re not learning a new skill or an area of study, you just have to STOP doing something. It’s an uncomplicated and difficult task. Discipline is all you need. I think of myself as a pathetic little boy when I want to jerk it, and that seems to work quite well in motivating me not to.

Vermillion_Rx · 2019-09-24T18:37:04+00:00

Fat cells, which everyone has, produce estrogen (technically) and the more fat content one has in those cells, the more estrogen is produced

For porn, quit using the sites. Do not enter porn sites. Ideally you'd just quit cold turkey, but if you really can't help it, only limit yourself to Google gifs with porn search results. Go to Google images, type your desired material z and switch the image filter to GIFS.

Honestly, if you nut after watching gifs, you'll still feel disgusted like you watched porn, and that you couldn't control yourself enough to not look, but the fact that gifs are so short, shitty and have no sound makes the consumption time shorter and less appealing.

The amount of choices for good content is abysmal but it at least satisfies the urge when your just starting to quit seriously. It's boring as fuck this way and you'll ideally get bored resorting to it and limiting yourself this way

The key is to refuse to look at the actual sites where you have more choice and longer videos. Start talking to girls and practicing some basic kino (shoulder touches, emphasizing points, etc.) It helps your brain re-calibrate I found. Ideally you'd actually get to a point where you are escalating and having sex with women instead of porn though

When I was still trying to quit, I eventually caved and went back to websites and I felt nothing. It was so unfulfilling that I just didn't even find anything appealing. Made actually quitting so damn easy after that

Edit: it was unclear to me if you can get women from your post. So that's why I talked about getting experiences with women. Ignore that part if you already get women

Vermillion_Rx · 2019-09-24T18:50:06+00:00

Also, it's fine to jerk off, just don't do it excessively. If it's wasting valuable time and taking away from other activities you could be doing, I'd say it's excessive.

At a minimum, wait till you're done with your day to jerk off. You'll have more stamina and a more alpha vibe in your daily life, so just wait till you've done everything you need to do for that day if you can. Your interactions with people will be better and you won't feel as unmotivated or docile with women

thrwy75479 · 2019-09-24T19:04:17+00:00

use a light grip
position yourself similar to sex positions you like (perhaps not sitting down)
use a slow pace closer to actual sex
try out a masturbation aid like a FleshLight
don't watch porn, it ruins the psychological aspects of arousal and actual sex
try to imagine fucking girls you've seen or met in real life
hit the gym; working out has numerous health benefits, which will maintain or improve your sexual health
eat healthy

Title	Thoughts on bating it?
Author	FatalComplex111
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Date	September 24, 2019 6:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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