So I've known three women for a few years now. I met them back in my 100% blue pill days, when I thought I had a shot, and indeed I wanted to get with all of them at different points in time - one of them was even my oneitis. However, nowadays I don't see them as potential plates or anything like that; I just think of them as friends I like hanging out with and having fun with from time to time and I no longer care about what they do in their romantic lives.

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The thing is, I'm pretty sure they're maintaining their contact with me because I'm their orbiter, their plan B, and I doubt they see me in the same way I see them now. I like seeing them and I don't dedicate a lot of time to them (they live in different cities), nor do they blatantly try to take advantage of me anymore, but I can't shake the feeling that it isn't right to maintain contact with them if we're not on the same page.

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On the other hand, it would be amusing to reject them in the future when they hit the wall and decide they want to settle down with me (if that ever happens).

Thoughts?

I've been devouring TRP content for a few years now, but my attitude and approach to this kind of subject still needs to mature. Input would be appreciated.