Is it true to say that, in a relationship, you are somehow "condemned" to keep repeating those shit tests you previously and retrospectively failed?

And, if you do not pass them, they grow bigger and attract even more shit tests, until the relationship gets ill and cannot be healed or dies?

Isn't this what is to be expected after a soft next and the soft next itself only calms the situation and tempers some emotions?

Example: dread triggers insecurity and, once that insecurity gets bigger than the one resulted from the failed test, they get into fear of losing you. But, after this fear is alleviated, the aforementioned test related fear comes back to surface, at least with the same force.

Can someone validate or de-validate my perspective? Thanks.