I see lots of guys here say they have no masculinity because of the things their mom said to them. Uh you're 29. You can change your personality if you want to. If you are a certain way it's usually because either like it or are comfortable that way. If you are soy it's because you decided to be that way. Get some agency and admit you decided it. I've failed at some things but admit it's my fault because I have agency.

The older people blaming participation trophies are being dumb too. Nobody cares about some empty piece of plastic that goes in the garbage the next day. Your brain knows if you win or lose.