Cheating in a LTR

kstepniak99 · 2019-10-18T10:08:28+00:00

maybe i’m too ‘good’, but if I felt the urge to cheat i’d just end it and spin plates instead

i.e. I wouldn’t LTR someone who I’d feel the need to cheat on, only LTR your top choice

vandaalen · 2019-10-18T10:06:55+00:00

Morals are your own business

The1ndex · 2019-10-18T12:40:24+00:00

“RP is not supposed to be moral”

Wrong. Morals are your own business.

To add the the conversation, evaluate yourself, and your morals. If you break your morals, you will feel guilty.

Personally, my word is my honour and pride. My word has nothing to do with anyone, their morals, or anything but the commitment that I hold myself to.

In my opinion, what separates a man from a woman, is integrity. That is, your word matches your action — congruence.

mr4kino · 2019-10-18T10:25:26+00:00

Cheating is disgusting.

TheStumblingWolf · 2019-10-18T10:09:25+00:00

Personally I see an LTR as an agreement. An agreement has terms and those terms are usually, among others, to stay faithful. I would adhere to those terms because I agreed to them for it to become an LTR. That said, my SMV is low/average at best and I assume my options reflect that. Someone with insane SMV could potentially just say "I'm gonna be sleeping around. Stick around anyway if you want".

In the end - it all comes down to what you think about it yourself. Would you like yourself if you cheated?

WIA20XX · 2019-10-18T11:49:54+00:00

can he still “love”

Yes.

or be a good partner?

Probably not if he hesitates on fucking.

The girl is looking for consistent behavior. That's what the relationship is.

Chicks fuck on the side and go back to being loving wives and mothers with zero guilt or hesitation. The problems arise when she pulls back, feels guilty, or gets caught.

Are you lying to yourself about what you feel or can it be just a physical need for other women

She doesn't necessarily want a relationship with other guys, but she wants to fuck other guys.

You want to fuck other girls.

You're both animals at heart.

The thrill of sex with the same person fades. That's brain chemistry, not anything profound.

You're going to be tempted throughout your life.

Stealing, poor diet, murder (you ever been cut off in traffic?) cheating, speeding, fighting, spending etc.

Man is constantly on the verge of fucking up somewhere.

He makes a choice.

Can you live with the consequences?

Haytch1234 · 2019-10-18T12:45:48+00:00

Yes. A guy can still his wife and fuck girls on the side. Simply because sex and love can be seperated for men.

We fuck because we love fucking. The feeling of release and dominance over a female.

We love a woman because of certain qualities I guess? You dont love a woman because she fucks good thats for sure.

The same woman you love is not going to be the same woman you want to simply just fuck over and over. Lots of guys confuse love and lust. The woman with traditional qualities of being a home maker and mother is not going to be the same woman that gets hit on constantly and knows how to fuck.

Therefore, as much as lots of guys say cheating is disgusting, cowardly whatever.. If you have a partner and you want some side pussy for pure lust thats up to you. But guys need to realise if yoy are looking for an actual decent , moral female that she isnt going to exactly be this cock fiend ready to please you in bed whilst also being a good mum. The qualities rarely co exist in the same female.

Just like the qualities that make husband /beta/boyfriend material rarely coexist in powerful/dominant/alpha males. Women know this. Hence why they have a dual mating strategy.

It all comes down to you and whether you choose to also develop your own dual dating strategy. If you do, you will find your options will open dramatically.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-10-18T13:13:42+00:00

The pain, the distrust and the sadness that it causes is against the rules of my own frame. I do not want to dupe another person who is emotionally evolved cause of my own lust. It's a decision we all have to decide upon. I have no issues plating several girls, but if I LTR exclusively, it means exclusively.

KarmicPrism · 2019-10-18T10:32:41+00:00

Idk man, that's all on you and your conscience. I'd avoid it unless absolutely necessary, it can cause a lot of mental damage to a woman if she found out and that's just being an asshole. I don't think we're about being dicks over here.

Why make her LTR If you not gonna play by the agreement?

no_its_a_subaru · 2019-10-18T11:02:35+00:00

Cheating is for women. Not happy in your LTR?stop being a bitch and end it. Want to spin plates? Don’t get in an LTR.... it’s not fucking rocket science.

SalesAficionado · 2019-10-18T12:01:05+00:00

Cheating is a reflection of poor self control and a scarcity mentality.

fabsavage · 2019-10-18T10:45:54+00:00

Sex is never worth it, but if you’re ok with an LTR doing it to you then go for it.

Title	Cheating in a LTR
Author	CSauceHockey
Upvotes	1
Comments	25
Date	October 18, 2019 10:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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