My boyfriend is busy with schoolwork (double major math & chemistry) and clubs/other commitments (gym, BJJ club, trucking club) often.

How can I make coming home to me a stress-free place?

I am incredibly neurotic and insecure about things I really don’t need to be (my looks, intelligence, character, basically everything), so I know I should probably spend my time away from him working on myself so I don’t feel these ways anymore. He says knowing I don’t feel good about myself or in general adds to his stress because then he is worried about my well-being in addition to outside stressors, familial stressors, etc.

I just have limited time to work on myself because I am looking for more work in addition to already having two jobs, but I can’t afford to not work 30-45 (varies) hours/week and am consequently tired. (I know many people work even more than that burn out really quickly

Basically are there any things I can do to better myself for him, any things I can do to help him relieve stress, etc! Thanks so much ladies :-)