Is it okay to fall in love? (If there is such a thing)

fabsavage · 2019-11-01T11:51:50+00:00

You can love women (although at your age I wouldn’t go exclusive). Just be sure to remember:

1) She will never love you in the same way that you love her.

2) Be ready to walk away at any given time.

br0j1tsu · 2019-11-01T12:18:23+00:00

lift & sidebar until you don't have to ask these questions bro...

'falling in love' is simply a cocktail of oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine and other hormones, that will blind your decision making for a while, trust me, you don't want that, bud.

fannyfire · 2019-11-01T12:29:48+00:00

Yeah, I am married, and I got married at 22, currently 27. Love is an action, feelings are fleeting. TRP says don’t get married and for very good reasons. The decision is up to you but either way you need to vet a girl the best you can. It also helps if you are mature and have your shit together. One of the things I wished I’d done was met my wife at 30 while she was still in her 20s. My life ‘would’ have been more together and I wouldn’t be working so hard now as I’m still climbing while having to maintain a relationship.

For that reason, I don’t recommend looking for someone while young, I wasn’t, because you should focus on yourself. If it happens and you see value in that person then by all means be with them. Personally, I enjoy having a traditional wife who cooks, cleans, fucks and also works. Some people may just want the bachelor lifestyle (that’s okay) but if you want kids, having a wife makes more sense.

Edit:

Forgot to mention.

Just be aware of the light switch effect, always be willing to walk away and remember “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.”

You can have any type of relationship you want if you realize those truths.

oskajoerg · 2019-11-01T12:15:56+00:00

First, I will not date a girl that has just gotten out of a relationsship; is she ready? If she left her former relationsship, maybe she is ready, however, listen carefully when she talks about why she left; if she was dumped, she will still have feelings for her former boyfriend - it will take far longer than two months, approximately 4-6 months in my experience before she has gotten over him, and taken info consideration that it’s her first relationsship, this magnifies the time

Remember AWALT in terms of her probably missing the relationsship, and you just “fills” the gap, between her former boyfriend and the next Chad - so enjoy having sex etc. with her, but I have tried being the gap, and that is not fun

rosesmellikepoopoo · 2019-11-01T11:44:33+00:00

Yes you’re rationalising your oneitis. Love is just an unhealthy attachment. Go read the sidebar

MOSFETBJT · 2019-11-01T17:33:14+00:00

You're rationalizing your oneitis. Be ready to take an L.

Lift and career max at this age.

Domebeers · 2019-11-01T19:29:37+00:00

Love is the worst. Hate that shit. Hope it never happens to you. The worst gimmick there is.

Yes you can fall in love, you are a man, but you have to be hyper aware of yourself so you don't let it trick you. As Fabsavage said, they don't love you back the same way.

(Only men and dogs can fall in love as you would probably define it. Women are not on that list, you will notice)

vondoom900 · 2019-11-02T09:05:28+00:00

I think maybe it's necessary as a reality check later in life when it goes to shit. Even if it doesn't and you get into a cohabitation (money trapped ) the couples begin to hate each other. See every long term relationship couple ever.

Title	Is it okay to fall in love? (If there is such a thing)
Author	ONE_Predator
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	November 1, 2019 11:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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