Lost 21 year old guy. Don't know what specific steps to take anymore.

66pisstrooperorder66 · 2019-11-05T04:19:47+00:00

Step one gym Step two set goals any goals just set goals and smash them it will get you working towards something Step three take pride in your appearance groom fashion etc Step four mentality read books side bar meditate etc Step 5 trp learn it read it then read it some more Step six get your finances in order the sooner the better career is a must

carb0ncl1mber · 2019-11-05T05:30:50+00:00

Write down your goals. If you don’t have any, come up with them. Think about the person you want to be. Imagine it. Write down your goals again. Three times a day every day. Your behavior will begin to correct itself.

Dirkz · 2019-11-05T05:56:51+00:00

Keep it simple, no zero days. Make progress on something every day. The easiest way to do this is to just leave the house. Go outside cuz once you're outside you might as well go to the gym, once you're at the gym you might as well lift and so on. Even if you go and have a shitty gym day you'll have done something and grown and you'll have the knowledge that this was a shitty gym day and the next day you'll do better.

Don't worry about having a bad day, everyone has bad days, just acknowledge when its happening, chuckle and be aware of how you feel. Say outloud "I'm just having a bad day" then fucking laugh about it. You can't appreciate good days if you can't compare them to shit ones.

Getting shit tested is a good thing. Think about it, if you don't like someone you avoid them, don't talk to them, and talk bad about them when they aren't around. So every conversation you have with someone even if you perceive it as negative means they value you in some compacity enough to at least engage you. Shit testing is flirting and figuring you out. If you're not being shit tested it's a bad thing. I talk the most shit and give the hardest time to the people I respect and value the most. I say the meanest things to the people who I think are the strongest. Its verbal fencing, your response should be to agree and amplify or display amused mastery because that's the reaction people are looking for.

Lastly become the best version of yourself. Exemplify the traits you value and look up to. Just being a "nice guy" doesn't mean dick. Value yourself and work on yourself. When challenged, react in the way someone you look up to would react. Hell is dying and meeting the version of yourself you could have been.

At 21 you have so much time to make good of yourself. I didn't start giving a fuck and doing anything till I was at least 26 and at 30 I still feel like I'm improving and moving towards my best life.

Siyuen_Tea · 2019-11-05T13:06:09+00:00

Stop jerking off for one. If it's an addiction, keep a book and make your intervals ( when you relapse) longer each time. Until you get pussy, keep it down to once a week.

With game. Get a book and learn to appreciate the process. Break it down into bite size pieces until that part becomes natural. You'll want to try everything once ; kino, dhv, passing shit tests, but you need to learn to make each part a part of you and not something that looks scripted. That means learning timing and being expressive. The point of the book is to mark goals and see what works, what didn't work and most importantly, why. Even when you are practicing one thing, don't just end the conversation. You can still build social momentum and still walk away with a friend.

Same for the gym. You write down what you lift ; Reps and sets, then tweak and adjust as you dip, peak and, plateau.

Retuov · 2019-11-05T16:12:35+00:00

You answered your own question.

Smash weights ,smash those shittests you get, dont smash your dick.

Title	Lost 21 year old guy. Don't know what specific steps to take anymore.
Author	StoutEden
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	November 5, 2019 4:09 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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