Hey TRP,

While many will argue that no girl is ever truly taken when hypergamy to a higher man kicks in, there is a matter of efficiency that can be taken when approaching women. I personally have no interest in taken women because if you can steal her she can be just as easily stolen, there's a lesser likelihood of getting laid with girls in relationships than single girls and even if you were to get with her it will probably take more work due to cognitive dissonance. For these reasons, living in a big city, it doesn't make sense to pursue a woman in a relationship for a second because theres so many equally or even hotter single women out there that don't offer that drawback/hurdle.

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That being said, what do you guys think of including "are you single?" early in an approach? At the same time it kills mystery it says, I don't want to make friends with you and I don't want to waste my time paying attention to you if you're gonna suddenly have a boyfriend 20 min from now. Personally I think mystery regarding intent is really weak and beta because if you're approaching a woman confidently you should be comfortable exacting a sexual frame early. Women will notoriously let you move on them until you hit a boundary and finally let you down easy about a boyfriend or disinterest after they've rode your validation wave.