I got a new social circle and I met my oneitis couple of months back while she was in a relationship which lasted for barely 3-4 weeks. Didn't give her much attention. After she broke up she started giving me attention and wanting my attention.

Some reason I didn't go after her for months. When I finally did and we got physical she was enthusiastic and it was a fuck yes from her. Few days later she freaked out and said I'm one of her closest friends and all that crap of not wanting to lose me as a friend as she values it. I told her I have enough friends and we got along well but there's people she has known for longer who are her better friends. I told her its best we forget this happened and move on. She asked for more time. A week after that she calls saying she really wants to be with me but even though I may not care for her friendship she does. Throughout I don't really show any emotion and give her short answers. She also mentioned she's going to a therapist.

She messaged later on asking why I was being cold. I laughed it off and told her thats how I am with friends and showed her time-stamps of my last conversations with a few of out mutual friends.

Obviously I want to get over her and even if she comes back I would probably only plate her.

But I also want to know any reason for her sudden change. Could it be that her last ex contacted her again? She didnt seem to be over him just as Im not over her.

I know I've dodged a bullet with her but still obsess over her.