So, I am the pestering plate from the post below. I think I am coming to accept that I chose to be that for this man - not consciously at the time, I was fairly fresh out of a LTR that left me shattered and casual sex didn’t seem like the worst idea at the time, not being someone that has ever really done casual sex, I did ‘fall’ for this man pretty quickly. I’d say I lost myself trying to re-gain my value from him instead of building/rebuilding it within myself. I allowed myself to be treated fairly poorly and still sought approval from this man and it tore me up inside, enough that I tried to pull away from this relationship several times but each time he gave me just enough to keep me seeking his approval. There are moments where I feel so frustrated at myself for ‘pestering’ someone into a relationship, that I chased someone who just wasn’t that into me and that I actually still feel like I loved him and to read that he was experimenting with me by ‘trying a real relationship’ and ‘hoping’ to get stronger feelings for me the whole time has been, well, I don’t know how to put words on it - disappointed in myself? Sometimes I also feel protective of him - in his own words, he was a cringeworthy beta before he discovered the red pill, he was terrible with girls and got very frustrated with them, now he sees himself as an alpha, I remember questioning some of his red pill tactics once and him claiming they must be right because after being shit with women he became able to get plenty of FWBs and then he got me. He got very upset each time I tried to pull away, while breaking up with me and he still got choked up on a video call we had two weeks after breaking up with me (we initially were ‘staying friends’) and then again telling a mutual friend that we had broken up three weeks after breaking up with me. Losing someone you spoke to pretty much every day for over a year is hard on anyone I guess. But part of me feels like he is kidding himself, not that he didn’t love me, but that he is truly happy with who he is since swallowing the red pill. I hope that he’ll be able to open himself up to falling for someone one day, that having to break my heart doesn’t push him further into the red pill, that he knows that he is worthy of being loved without the red pill tactics, that just because he ‘got me’ with red pill tactics doesn’t mean they are god’s gift and that it was the parts of him that allowed himself to be vulnerable and show his true nature and not the red pill act that kept me coming back for more. I think I just wanted to share my experience and get insight from people who have been on both sides of the red pill. Thoughts and opinions welcome, as well as advice for me moving forward and developing better relationships.

Broke up with LTR yet feel sorry for her.

I was hoping to have a discussion and get some advice from people that look through the red pill lens.

Background:
Having discovered The Red Pill 4 years ago and having FWB for most that time, I tried my first LTR recently for my own experience at age 24.
14 months ago I had a plate that fell in love with me pretty quickly. She was my only plate at the time and after her pestering me about it I agreed to go exclusive with her 8 months ago because I wanted to try a real relationship. I held good frame. I naturally applied a heap of Dread game which seemed to have the opposite effect of motivating her to improve her SMV/be a better girlfriend. It would instead make her blow off her top about me not liking her back and not caring about her. I probably failed a lot of comfort tests along the way due to inexperience. I didn't really ever have rose tinted glasses when I looked at us or had that oneitis you got when you were 16 and Stacy kissed you last night at the school dance. I never had much motivation to take her out and treat her well. I never told her I loved her. However, the sex life was unreal and outrageous and the entire relationship she was very eager to please.

The Problem:
I feel as if my abundance mentality and swallowing the pill has barred me from feeling oneitis for a girl again. This entire relationship I was hoping to get stronger feelings for her but never did. This made her very unhappy with the me as she loved me as much as a girl can and wanted to be loved back.
She moved away and I had to break up with her as the long distance was only going to make things worse and I no longer wanted to waste her time. Breaking up with her was probably one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life. I have questioned my entire moral being throughout this process. Becoming red pilled and learning from these subreddits gives a gift that very very few men in the world have. When you're high SMV and you know how Female - Male - people relationships work, you become close to what a girl would consider a unicorn.
This girl would move heaven and earth, quit her job to move closer to me. Yet here I was denying her myself and none of it is her fault. I did not love her but I cared strongly for her.

My question to you:
It seems like a girls goal is mostly to land a man to marry and have kids, lock down your commitment etc. How do you manage plates/LTRS so that they are still happy to give themselves to you if you never give them your commitment or reciprocate the 'I love you'. Won't this eventually destroy them from the inside out and cause them to leave? Do you have to make the relationship so fun and adventurous that leaving you isn't an option. Downgrade them to a plate and give them the decision whether they want to leave or stay?

Secondly, surely I am not alone when it comes to feeling bad about breaking up with a girl against her wishes. It has been eating me up knowing she is out there heartbroken knowing that I am the deliverer of her pain, and there is nothing she can do about it. I understand that tomorrow she could find herself getting bukkaked by man dingo himself, or fall in love with some stranger and forget about me. Tbh I wish that would happen so shes wouldn't have to suffer anymore. And it isn't 'shes not mine its just my turn.' because its not me who is sad about the break up. I don't want to hear that I need to reassure myself that it's the right decision and I have done the right thing because I already know it was the right decision and that has been helping me.
It's the sad reality of breaking up with someone for their own good because you can't make yourself like her any more than you currently do yet they don't want to be broken up with.

I just haven't had to do this before I guess. Opinions?