I really liked a lot of the principles that came with the RPW community. I love the ideas of self improvement and celebrating my femininity. I created a different account and joined them all, and for over a year I read all the books, etc. I even read posts in the Red Pill, and tried to sympathize with the angry men who posted horrible things about women. Most women are like that in my experiences...

But there are choices that my husband and I have made together that simply don't go along with RP philosophy. I thought I was a RP woman, but I have since learned that I am simply not. I believe in traditional gender roles to an extent...but I suppose everything has a limit. My husband is rather dominant and alpha-type, but he wants me to be his partner. He doesn't want me to be a pliable thing to manipulate, and quite frankly I'm not willing to give up my identity, however submissive I may be to him, to get it. I am crazy in the traditional hormones PMS type crazy, but I check myself and actually strive to control it on my own. I don't need him to tell me that I'm off kilter, or if he does he can let me know and I'll take care of it. RP actually caused more arguments and problems in our live than it solved because the things that I normally take care of on my own were suddenly his responsibility. He was trying to figure out where his partner had gone, the woman he relies on to bring in 48% of the income and 50% of everything else. When I showed him RP, he said that he could see how we share some of the similarities with the philosophy, but we are not RP.

He always has and always will have the final call in most cases. But I am also his partner, his equal, and I don't need him to manipulate me or the situation in order to control myself. I can do that on my own.