I understand this sub is primarily for sexual strategy, but that’s the least of my concerns at the moment. Getting laid is a breeze compared to winning in life.

So I am in my early 20s and just made a huge mistake that cost me a free place to stay. I was basically paying $200 a mo for a studio, and I realize it was my lack of respect for others and accountability that caused this.

On top of that, I use to have big goals of success in business which I was going after in my late teens/early early 20s. I tried and failed a lot but ended up giving up, which cost me 2-3 years of life and nothing to show for it except the experiences. Major regret and comparing myself to others. I was in a great social circle and gave that up to pursue “success”. I feel like it’s too late to turn this around.

Most of my mentors, counselors, family members and friends say I’m not fit for the standard 9-5. That I need to build my own business. However, I am constantly in a state of paralysis. I’m worried others will judge me and I’m worried I’ll fail.

I end up wasting too much time on it.

Worst part of it though, is my frame gets VERY WEAK when I put all this stress on me. I think it’s too late for me, I compare myself to others, I stop thinking rationally, I make the situation worse in my head that it is and I look at everything with pessimistic eyes, which leads to pessimistic outcomes.

I guess, how do I keep my frame in check through life obstacles and actually take the action necessary to achieve my goals?