I’m in a LTR for over a year now. For the most part things are good. Open communication between us so whatever problems she has, she brings to me directly to address instead of acting out. So far the system has been working well.

For the past 2 months I’ve been in limbo waiting on an immigration status update. I can’t legally work and returning to my country of origin is not an option. Ive been under a lot of stress and as much as I try to mitigate it, I can’t deny that it’s affected me. My sleep schedule is all sorts of fucked up and often I feel like going to the gym consistently is the only thing keeping me sane.

My girls in school and off right now for the holidays. We both have a high libido but given the circumstances I’m dealing with, it can be difficult to not let stress impact my sex drive as I rate highly for DEVI during sex. As it is the break she feels like we should be having sex everyday. While I want that too, some days I can’t get myself mentally and emotionally primed for it. Cue the tantrums from her.

Now she says if I tell her that I’m tired on one day, she’ll be fine if I make it up to her. I do that and she still gets upset at the fact that I’m tired. I’ve been tired for weeks now. It’s not my intention to be tired however she just doesn’t get that. Every effort I make to hear her concerns and provide a solution feels like is always met with criticism of some form or another. I’m not sure what more to do right now as in my mind, her actions aren’t hard nextable (or maybe they are).

I’m not even sure what my question is here anymore. I think I just needed to vent. Thank you for reading