Hey bros, this is my first post and I wanted to see what you guys think about my mentality. What are some flaws in my mentality? Some of this stuff may sound a little gay but it’s the truth so whatever.

I(20M) believe there’s one true soul that I can connect with on this planet. I’m not saying that I won’t connect with other as well, but that there is that one lady who was meant to be my wife. I’m definitely overweight but I’m actually more of an athletic big man than just a fat piece of shit (6’3 280lbs). I look about 255lbs and could easily lose the weight because I’ve found a cheat code. I could easily be 210 in 2 months of training. I’m also not a bad looking guy, I’d say slightly above average but when I get cut I’ll look a lot better. I do hit the gym and I’m relatively strong(can bench my own weight). This obesity has obviously stopped me from hooking up with girls but I’ve actually done decently for myself in the past because of my commanding presence and humour. I do a lot better with girls who know me than the ones at the club.

I would obviously love to pull girls but I’m much more focused on finding the one. Someone who gets me and someone I can build a life with. Having a family of my own and being a good husband/father to my wife and kids are my top goals in life. I think that a LTR is about compromise and care but at the same time being respectful of the other person. Being surrounded by women isn’t something I’m interested in at the moment(might change when I’m in shape). I’m really just trying to figure life out and figure myself out as well. Females are great but I can’t stand stupid girls and it’s tough to find one who’s smart, hot, and is also into big guys. I value genetics, intelligence, and then lastly looks. I think sex has both the animalistic and spiritual aspect which I look forward to more. Tbh I just want someone to love me and to build a life with. I’m a bit jealous of my buddies who pull chicks all the time but I understand it.

How could I fix/elevate my mentality?

I think this post follows the guidelines but if it doesn’t lmk and I’ll take it down/fix it.

Cheers