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Need help on what to do with this ONE woman who is so good at keeping mw puddy in her fingers.

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March 24, 2015
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Title Need help on what to do with this ONE woman who is so good at keeping mw puddy in her fingers.
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Upvotes 1
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Date March 24, 2015 1:43 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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[–]1feminazis_stalk_me2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You have oneitis. Do what you need to do to for the betterment of your situation.

[–]StevenBassic0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's initially what I thought, but I have no shortage of options.... it's hard to explain. Most of the advice I've read so far is basically telling me I have nothing better to do than to sit around and wait for this woman's call. Not the case. I have plenty to do, plenty of options, but as soon as I get that text, I drop it all and throw myself at her.

[–]2rp_valiant1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

try having a busier life. If you're starting a business, working out, meditating, pursuing hobbies that interest you and occasionally travelling then you won't want to push these things to the side to make space for her. All of these activities are really addicting, but really good for enjoying a fulfilling life.

[–]StevenBassic0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Life is busy... single dad with 3 gfs and a ft job. It's not that I don't have other things to do, it's that I'm willing to drop whatever I have to do to be with her

[–]2rp_valiant0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

then maybe you aren't passionate about the things you have to do? At the end of the day if this girl is really making you happy, would you consider an LTR with her?

[–]StevenBassic0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe I'm not passionate enough about the rest of my life. Maybe I'm just so inclined to get her to desire me more than I desire her because she doesn't chase after me like the others. Probably not though... There have been other women who've dropped communication with me completely and I hardly noticed. Do I WANT an LTR with her? Depends on your definition. I don't want a sexually exclusive relationship no...I would love to be with her more and share more frequent experiences with her, yes.

[–]absolucion1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

This probably should have been posted on r/asktrp.

It all depends on you. I think the reason why you cater to her is because you're afraid that if you don't, that relationship will deteriorate and end. If you aren't in an LTR with her and you're finding it difficult to main plate her, you're going to have to next her. If she really wants to be with you, she'll bend over backwards to find a place for herself in your life… but I wouldn't hold my breathe.

[–]StevenBassic0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I am involved in 2 other LTR, and have tried to get her to come around, but she keeps me at arm's length always. We're both poly, neither is looking for anything exclusive, but I'm looking for her to open up a little more.

[–]absolucion0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

The only way you can do that in the RP world is by making a return to your frame. You're exhibiting some oneitis for this woman and you're catering to her.

Lead by example. Don't clear your schedule for her, make it so she has to clear her schedule for you. It will change the way she approaches the relationship and you. By cancelling what you have going on, you're creating and reinforcing a precendent: your time isn't that important to you. She can then begin to blow you off if she wants to do something else because "it wasn't like he had anything important to do anyway."

[–]StevenBassic1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

True that. I'll have to tweak my responsiveness and try to flip it on her. Thanks for your input.

[–]dimarond0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You know yourself what you got to do. No need to ask other people to validate your actions. If you make a mistake hopefully you ll learn from it. Just remember A.B.C. Alwsys Be in Control

[–]madrealworld0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What if you try ignoring her? Or block her phone number? I know how it feels to be hooked like this man believe me but I think going cold turkey on this one is the only solution.

[–]DownInBlue0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It's a bad case of feelings. What do you want from your affective/sexual life within the next 10 years?

Be a man and make her yours

or

Be a man and next her

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"make her yours" - every married man is face palming right now.

[–]1NV0K3R-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm a pretty attractive guy and have a natural way with women.
I hardly have to put any effort to get women.
I am polyamorous and currently am involved with 3 other women. So shortly after my divorce I met this woman.
Not exactly the most attractive

I don't believe anything you say.

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