Only thing I lack in my life is a girl I like enough to consider a future with.

unamedasha · 2020-10-09T04:16:32+00:00

Good luck finding your 🦄

Musicgoon · 2020-10-09T04:01:26+00:00

Sounds like you're not living in reality. Enjoy your rigid celibacy.

SickBrains · 2020-10-09T04:19:49+00:00

Can we put restrictions on posts or something cause this dude will keep making new accs and ask stupid shit.

psypD · 2020-10-09T05:16:47+00:00

Wtf are you doing here? This is a place for men that understand that AWALT so you are shit out of luck therefore fuck off.

michael1962-01 · 2020-10-09T04:27:35+00:00

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rando123lian · 2020-10-09T11:52:25+00:00

Hey man! I am trying to answer this even though I think your boundaries for female companionship are too tight.

Almost all human beings love sex and you probably fucked at least a few different women. A lot of man idealize the imagination of a women that keeps her panties on lock till she finds "the right one" and then marries him and they stayed together happily ever after. In our modern age, this mostly likely wont be possible anymore. I am not trying to tell you that you should ltr/marry a girl without good screening, but just lower your expectations a little.

Women also love sex and they can get it easily. Why would you discard a good potential ltr right away cause she had x number of guys? Dont even ask her that. She will give you a flawed number anyways. You have enough reading material in the side bar how to screen for a good ltr-(marriage) girl and identify red flags.

In my opinion, your expectations of her being a virgin comes from a place of insecurity and fear of controll loss. You want her to be yours and only yours from the beginning. With that kind of expectations, you wont have fun cause female nature will always be there. Theres this classic saying "shes was never yours, its just your turn" thats is flying around on the internet in a toxic way ever since. The point of this quote wasnt to be pessimistic about the future, but just to lower the expectations of a guy who thinks things will last forever no matter what. Even if you would marry a virgin and she wont ever divorce you, she still might be unhappy and cheats behind your back. This would crush you even more since your expectations regarding her were too high from the beginning. When going into a ltr/marriage theres always the possibility of things being over tomorrow. Thats the mindset you should have (abundance). You can set all the boundaries right, have a perfect frame, be a top 5% guy and your wife of 20 years with whom you have 3 kids with still doesnt love you anymore out of the blue. Guys just hate that thought, but thats reality and it wont change (even religion cant change that). This doesnt mean there arent enough cases were people get old together and be married for 60 years. They just arent told cause they arent as interesting as all the toxic divorces.

Of course you can have different views of life and I wont blame you. Thats why life is so much fun.

Everytime I am looking for a relationship, my goal is to find someone who has the same core word views, humor and interests and if the girl is worth it, I will promote her. If you dont like social media girls, fair enough. Dont make them your ltr.

I wish you the best of luck, man

Title	Only thing I lack in my life is a girl I like enough to consider a future with.
Author	AsleepArachnid
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	October 9, 2020 3:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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