Brothers, would like your thoughts on how this situation has been handled, and opinions on what to do next. Been a follower of trp (and natural trp) for a few years but occasionally beta creeps in and then I wake the fuck up.

Have been nailing a HB9.5 for a few months. Incredible sex, and we can't get enough. However - she's in a ltr. Please don't quote me on the morals etc. - for me it's an extremely convenient setup. I've been so busy with work and she's always up for sex with no drama. Her bf is beta so I feel kinda bad - also I didn't think it would last this long.

Anyway, problem is that every so often she will pull back. To generalise, there are patterns where she will start to act emotional towards me, saying how much she'd want me in her bed at night etc. and then when I reciprocate, she will say she's worried she's getting too attached. More recently she told me that she had planned to end things every time she saw me but couldn't. How I typically respond is by saying "if you want to stop, you just need to tell me". Now, is this correct trp form as I'm getting like I don't care?

Other things she does which I've noted in her cool spell:

• Rarely arranges sex (although has never done)
• Will generally message me first most days but rarely asks how I am, how's my day etc.
• Tends to end interactions first (whether in text, phone or person)
• When arranging a meet, she's incredibly laid back about whether she sees me or not, almost where it's obvious she's trying to play it cool and feigning disinterest (infact, I find this a turn off)
• Will tease by sexting and touching me in person but will want to stop after I've validated her etc.

To me, the points above demonstrate she's playing a game to try and keep me interested. But it has made me question whether she's losing interest. Mixed signals by saying she's too attached and then playing it cool with me.

How should I proceed? Classic trp method and being more unavailable? She's quite insecure as with most HB9/10s so sometimes being too cool backfires. Interested to hear some thoughts..