Is it still worth asking a girl to be your girlfriend?

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-10-11T11:45:03+00:00

have been seeing a girl for a good two months.

I feel like it’s at the point where I should ask her to be my gf,

I even refer to her as my gf to my colleagues,

I’m not sure if asking that of her is what’s expected of me.

Sidebar.....not even once.

You don’t ltr within two months, you need time to vet.

You don’t chase a ltr, they do.

Why?

Because one it’s their job to and also to prevent bloopies like you doing this.

I even refer to her as my gf to my colleagues

not sure if asking that of her is what’s expected of me.

Because you haven’t even read the sidebar.

StellarBella277 · 2020-10-11T12:00:24+00:00

You never bring up the subject of a relationship, and even if you did, 2 months is nowhere near long enough to vet a girl for an LTR.

You do your vetting over 6 months MINIMUM, absolute minimum.

You carry on as you are, until she brings up the “what are we” talk. From there, you either play it cool if you’re not done vetting (or if you are and she not LTR worthy) or if you’ve done adequate vetting (which you haven’t at this point) then you can proceed into an LTR if that is what you want.

Don’t make the first move. Once a girl has you in a relationship the dynamic changes.

Subutai_Baghatur · 2020-10-11T12:08:36+00:00

You have been on TRP for 3 years so I’ll ask you some questions:

Is it still worth asking a girl to be your girlfriend?

I’m 32 now, and have been seeing a girl for a good two months. I feel like it’s at the point where I should ask her to be my gf,

How long do the posts in the sidebar suggest you should be seeing a girl before you give up your exclusivity?

I even refer to her as my gf to my colleagues,

What do the posts in the sidebar say about how you should be acting when you have not yet given up your exclusivity?

... however, I’m not sure if asking that of her is what’s expected of me.

Should I ask her to be my gf, or just lets things play out ad naturally as them have?

What do the posts in the sidebar say about how you should enter exclusivity?

pehsxten · 2020-10-11T12:13:52+00:00

Wrong sub

2020-10-11T12:40:32+00:00

2 months is too soon. When the time comes it's fine to acknowledge you're in an LTR (I don't really understand 'asking' to date... usually it's obvious if the girl wants it or not). Just chill out and take things slower.

drunkphilosopher420 · 2020-10-11T11:36:41+00:00

Yes you should take the initiative. Girls like a man who is direct and takes charge of the situation.

I believe in LTR’s. Don’t let this subreddit get you all blackpilled.

Title	Is it still worth asking a girl to be your girlfriend?
Author	Sin-Silver
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	October 11, 2020 11:19 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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